Am I being unreasonable?

lulu650

What I find frightening is the OP has debts of £34,648 and has found someone who thinks it doesn't matter to add to those debts.

Trazy

I would write off both him and the £150, think of it as a lucky escape

Errata

lulu650 wrote: »

What I find frightening is the OP has debts of £34,648 and has found someone who thinks it doesn't matter to add to those debts.

I think the BF's debt is even greater than hers

mucklebones

I cant believe anyone would actually put up with this !!!! lol.

lulu650

Errata wrote: »

I think the BF's debt is even greater than hers

I can see he's in debt but didn't realise it was more than the OP as I didn't read that anywhere.

mumof3plusoh

Bin him. He doesn't deserve you. Say fairwell to the £150.

sukysue

What good do you get from this relationship op? Seems to me he has played you like a fiddle.

Mrs.W_2

getmore4less wrote: »

STOP getting involved in his financial affairs.

KEEP your financial affairs secret.

If you really want to continue with this unhealthy and dissatisfying relationship, the above is marvellous advice.

If he doesn't know you've got savings, he cannot ask to borrow from them.

He seems to view money in the bank as something that's begging to be spent, even if it is allotted for future use - as was the case with your £150.

I'd also recommend pulling away from his personal dramas! The relationship between him and the ex might be a mess, but it's their mess. He'll need to grow the required spine to pull himself out of them.

Bella73

Think you should run like the wind away from him.

Children should be treated equally not his over yours.

duchy

This I agree with

Most people would have dumped him the moment he made it clear the £150 wasn't a priority.

Either there's something wonderful about him you haven't mentioned or you have very poor self esteem so assuming you feel you CAN'T finish with him then you have to seperate his business from yours. HIS council tax, HIS mobile bill - HIS problem -only yours if you make it so -and why the heck should you. Same with his family-HE wants to treat them -fine-His problem if there's not enough money to go around NOT yours (and just cos he's a twonk with money doesn't mean you pay every time you go out either !)

He doesn't want to move on -He wants to continue to play happy families and have a girlfriend willing to take the crumbs of time he has left. If you are happy with that-fine. Let him steal from your son and take what you can get. It's your life -and if your kids grow up thinking the way he behaves (and your acceptance of it) is the correct way to run a relationship-so be it.

He hasn't moved on from his marriage -living twenty doors away and still too scared to tell his ex til the last moment that he has tickets and plans is the act of a man who hasn't let go -he just let his two mummies both assume he was doing what they expected -pathetic !

I'm still reeling that you didn't realize that the £150 he "borrowed" paid for your NYE's meals ! Easy to be generous with someone else's money.

His children aren't babies anymore ....Do YOU have a relationship with them ?

If you can't let go -then you can't let go (yet) but do at least protect yourself (and your kids) from this man financially if nothing else....... please !

Mrs.W wrote: »

If you really want to continue with this unhealthy and dissatisfying relationship, the above is marvellous advice.

If he doesn't know you've got savings, he cannot ask to borrow from them.

He seems to view money in the bank as something that's begging to be spent, even if it is allotted for future use - as was the case with your £150.

I'd also recommend pulling away from his personal dramas! The relationship between him and the ex might be a mess, but it's their mess. He'll need to grow the required spine to pull himself out of them.