is this interfereing to much?

missindecisive

it is difficult for some parents to talk to teenagers about sex and stuff. i remember my Dad getting me to one side and saying to me..".If you DARE come home with a bun in the oven YOUR OUT OF HERE!! DO YOU UNDERSTAND??"
That was it ! And as for my monthly cycle, the first time that happened my mum just threw some pads at me and told me to go back to school!!
They were utterly hopeless really!

andygb

I reckon that the OP has shown a very caring and responsible attitude to the whole situation, being able to talk frankly with her son, showing that she cares about him and his future.
What a fantastic contrast to when I was a 16 year old in the seventies, and your parents just glared at you, and threatened life after death in Hades!

wik

I have an 18 year old son, who lives away from me, with his dad... we have always talked about things, he was home at Christmas, and told me about his girlfriend, who he's been seeing for a while...
I talked to him and said that I didnt fancy being a granny yet!! He lives in a very rural place, and before he went home I jokingly said whilst we were toiletry shopping did he need condoms!! He wasnt amused...

Today on phone he said he wished had got condoms down here as local coop they are over £4 for 3!!! And he has asked me to get some and send them to him!!!

Hmmmmm great!! how many do 18 year olds use!!!!!!

I am going to go to different shops to get them!! As would hate to give people wrong idea!!! knowing my luck local gossip would be behind me in queue!!! :eek:

They never said anything in baby books about buying condoms for sons!!!!

krlyr

I think you can pick them up for free from family planning clinics and GUM clinics. I heard (I think on here) of someone explaining that their son wasn't very near to a clinic himself to pop in regularly and they happily handed over a big supply of condoms to keep him going (errr...)

Otherwise...order on Amazon and have them shipped straight to him? Maybe a subscribe and save offer... :rotfl: (sorry, I'm not checking prices for you, my OH is away with work and may be very disturbed to see come back and condoms in my search history :eek: :rotfl:)

wik

well he is on a very small island... and they do give them out at doc surgerys, but one of our relations works there.. and would make such a big thing of it...lol

I shall do a search on amazon... I have a voucher of his here..lol so he can be paying for them

Nicki

I'm obviously in the minority here, but although I've had "the talk" with my 12 year old DS, I'd be disappointed if he began a sexual relationship at 16, or if he had multiple sexual encounters at a young age, and I wouldn't be facilitating this by encouraging it in my own home until he and his partner were older. My DD has severe learning difficulties so less of an issue with her, but if she didn't, I'd be as disappointed with her if she started to sleep around at 16 and pretty miffed if I discovered this was with the encouragement of a boy's parents. I say "sleep around" because although it is not completely unheard of, most 16 year olds' relationships are not permanent or even particularly long term, and generally speaking I think once a young person starts having sex there is a tendency or at least temptation to continue in most future relationships, and I suspect most people have quite a few romantic relationships between the age of 16 and the age they meet their forever partner.

Person_one

Nicki wrote: »

I'm obviously in the minority here, but although I've had "the talk" with my 12 year old DS, I'd be disappointed if he began a sexual relationship at 16, or if he had multiple sexual encounters at a young age, and I wouldn't be facilitating this by encouraging it in my own home until he and his partner were older. My DD has severe learning difficulties so less of an issue with her, but if she didn't, I'd be as disappointed with her if she started to sleep around at 16 and pretty miffed if I discovered this was with the encouragement of a boy's parents. I say "sleep around" because although it is not completely unheard of, most 16 year olds' relationships are not permanent or even particularly long term, and generally speaking I think once a young person starts having sex there is a tendency or at least temptation to continue in most future relationships, and I suspect most people have quite a few romantic relationships between the age of 16 and the age they meet their forever partner.

Of course there is, its a huge part of a relationship, I presume you have sex with your partner?

Sex isn't wrong, I don't really understand this attitude that seems to see it as on a par with harmful activities like smoking or drug use.

Nicki

Person_one wrote: »

Of course there is, its a huge part of a relationship, I presume you have sex with your partner?

Sex isn't wrong, I don't really understand this attitude that seems to see it as on a par with harmful activities like smoking or drug use.

Yes. But he was the first and last and we have been together 25 years.

We will have to agree to differ. I think promiscuity is both wrong and harmful, and my view is that a sexual relationship is made meaningful by the fact that it is entered into by two people who have made a serious commitment to one another. That doesn't have to mean they are married, but it should (in my personal opinion) mean that they love one another rather than they just fancy each other.

The reason why promiscuity is in my opinion on a par with smoking or drug use, if you want to put it that way, is because both carry risks to physical and emotional health, and with promiscuity there is the added risk of an unwanted pregnancy, leading either to one or more terminations or to a child being brought into the world where both parents are divided, which is not what most children would wish for their home lives.

Person_one

Sex with more than one person in the entirety of your life is not necessarily promiscuity!

DannyBo

wik wrote: »

well he is on a very small island... and they do give them out at doc surgerys, but one of our relations works there.. and would make such a big thing of it...lol

I shall do a search on amazon... I have a voucher of his here..lol so he can be paying for them

Wik, I've posted this before in a different thread but I don't mind doing so again.

If your son or anyone else has a smartphone, there is an app on there called icondom - this app shows the user the place nearest to them where free condoms are available - i think it shows where they can be bought too. It's a neat app and its free.

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