Did you know the sex of your baby?

ailuro2

I was desperate to know, but even though I had two scans at twenty weeks she wouldn't budge.

The first thing I asked after she was born is- did someone say it's a GIRL?

For some reason I thought I would bve able to look after it better if it was a girl but of course now I realise that something usually kicks in and you look after it no matter what....:D

Good luck,whatever you decide.

There is a rumour that if you tell them you don't want to know it is more likely to be obvious. Perhaps you could use that logic to persuade hubby??

Rachie_B

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Personally I liked knowing. With the first and third, I've thought about them by their name over the last few months and I feel like I'm bonding better than with my second born who was just "bump" until he was born.

I agree

We found out on our youngest son but not the eldest ,it was nice to choose a name early on etc

I think so long as you understand that they can and DO get it wrong .....

a friend of a friend bought everything pink even the pram lol after being told she was expecting a girl........ it was a boy

black-saturn

Could you ask them to tell you what sex it is and then keep it a secret until the baby is born? A friend of mine did that but she admitted it was difficult. With my first I didn't ask what sex it was but with the second I did. My first was 2 and a half when the 2nd was born and she was desperate for a little sister. I thought I would ask and if it was a boy I would have time to prepare her for it. I also wanted to call the new baby by a name instead of just 'the baby'.

Katyag

We found out with DS and this one (another boy) we both dearly wanted a boy both times (wrong attitude i know) and altho a girl certainly wouldnt have been upsetting we wanted to know before hand and get used to the idea.

Id hate to have my heart set on a boy (you try not too but if you have a pref you cant help it) and then be handed a girl and then be upset at least this way like someone else said you can deal with it while its still in tum.

We also just have 2 bedrooms so wanted to know to see if they could share ok or would we need to consider moving in near future. We also have all DS's clothes so i wanted to know if i should prepare these or sell them.

Id find out with all babies i have, first time was at my 20 week scan this time hospital policy has changed so we needed to go private. I bond much better with bump once i know the sex and can start thinking of names, gives the baby more of an identity for us.

buxtonrabbitgreen

With my first 3 scans hadn't been invented !!! and with the last 2 our areas' policy was not to tell you. That was fine by me. I am actually pleased that I din't have to choose wheather or not to know the sex. IMO it is a big part of the excitement when you hear "It's a boy/or girl"

Twinkle_Mitchell

With my first child, I didn't find out. After a 36 hour labour, I was took knackered to get excited about whether it was a boy or a girl (it was a girl).
The the second, I had a late scan at 36 weeks and the temptation was too great. We found out it was a boy and decided his name on the way out of the scanning room! It was lovely, as we could look forward to the arrival of *our son* and get everything ready for *his* arrival. It felt like I knew him by the time he was born, if that makes sense. If there were going to be any further babies (which there isn't !) I would definetely find out again!!

modgit

It's a difficult one! I think if it were my first, I wouldn;t find out, it's part of the "new parents" package deal! We didn't with our first DS and although we "thought" it was a boy, it certainly encouraged me through labour and the midwives present were taking bets and it was great.
With DS2 we didn't find out and I had to have an extra scan at 38 weeks, so we could see what he was(!) we kept this quiet though,and 2 weeks was long enough, apart from DS1 who knew but was only 2 and kept telling people he'd seen the baby and he was having a boy-sister! so no-one was any the wiser.
With DS3 we decided to ask for a more practical point, with 2 boys age 6 and 8 we felt we may have to "sell" the idea of a sister to them!! It was nice to know, and prepare, however another mom at school was mistold a couple of months before I was due and her son arrived to a totally pink room and wardrobe so, they can be wrong!
Hope you settle your debate.

nats3006

didnt with any and got 2 ds!!!

magentadreamer

When I was pregnant with DD, I didn't ask mainly because I so wanted a little girl and was convinced she was a boy. I wanted to keep the dream of having a little girl for a little bit longer! The funny thing is I should have listened to the radiographer as she kept pointing out things and going now you can see her heart etc - I just thought she'd picked up on my initial Ooo look at her. even if I'd have been told she was a girl I'd still not have believed it!

Curious_George_2

I love the "i want it to be a surprise at the birth" bits.... labour was surprising enough for me thanks! lol

and the whole not knowing can encourage you in labour thing wouldnt work with me either.... getting the baby out so the pain will stop was enough encouragement for me
the only thing that really spurred me on at the end was when the midwife said she could see the top of the head and that the baby had a lot of hair.... thats when i really went for it because i knew it was almost over.

DD was born and they put this mass of wriggling grey/white bloody gungy screaming baby (with hair!) onto my stomach and i said "what is it" (possibly the dumbest question ever that really should only be answered with a level of sarcasm that goes off the scale) and the midwife wouldnt tell me!!! she said "look for yourself" (said in a nice way... not a IM BUSY way lol) she obviously thought me finding out for myself would help with bonding or some other rubbish like that but i couldnt just "look"
i was on my back.... in stirrups, just been cut from lands end to john o groats to get the head out, with a slippery baby in my lap that was getting rubbed to bugg@ry by countless hands with towels and things...
i lifted her leg, saw the umbilical cord folded up on itself between her legs and thought they were testicles.... i was just about to say "its a boy??" when the other midwife finally helped out by picking her up and showing me...

trust me... all that was surprise enough.... if i can, i will be finding out this time round!