Did you know the sex of your baby?

Curious_George_2

its not as easy as all that for us,
they dont tell you the sex at the 20 week scans here, so if you really want to know then you would have to book and pay for a private one,

i didnt with my first (Girl) but im tempted with this one as they didnt have the 4D scans when i was pregnant with my daughter (all of 7 years ago)
and also because im really r-e-a-l-l-y struggling with boys names and would like time to get used to the idea of having a boy at all if im honest!
plus... i hate calling my bump "it" and things like that... it would be lovely to say he or she

ToryB_2

Nope, we didnt find out, we couldnt agree and then finally settled on not finding out, we had a really stressful end to the pregnancy (pre-eclmapsia and then baby was breech and ended up with a semi emergancy c-section) and it was the only thing that kept me going...i was so excited to find out if we had a son or a daughter...i deffinatly wouldnt find out next time either!! Hearing my hubby say 'its a girl!' was amazing!!

lex

Ooo i just had to know. I knew with my first, and found out with my second last week...

It doesn't spoil the suprise for me, because you hear of cases when the sonographer gets it wrong. Also I will still just buy white - just in case...

If you do have a preference one way or the other, I think it's worth knowing, as you can adjust and get used to the news (although deep down its just good news it's healthy). Otherwise, at the birth, which can be a fairly stressful time, you don't want to experience temporary rejection, or enhanced depression as well as the baby blues...

lex

bluebell13

Done it both ways:-

1st baby (BOY) - didnt want to know. Wanted a surprise. I got it. He was born nearly 4 weeks early and had to go to SCBU, then he got jaundice and so we were in hospital for 10 days!

2nd baby (GIRL) - really worried that the same would happen. She was due 7th jan so was worried about being in hospital over Christmas and who would look after my DS. OH worked in retail so it was his busiest time of year! Decided to find out sex so could prepare myself as much as possible. However,we told no-one. This is VERY DIFFICULT to keep up as people keep trying to catch you out! In the end she was born on 5th Jan so all worries were for nothing!


If I had another (UNLIKELY as OH wont let me!) I wouldnt find out as the surprise is lovely.

ftbworried

I don't get the whole 'surprise' thing.

Surprise is a feeling of shock due to something perceived as unexpected.

So, if you think you are having a boy but get a girl on the day then you might be 'surprised'...
If you think you are having a girl but get a boy on the day then you might be 'surprised'...

But not knowing what you are going to have, and only having two possible outcomes, I don't see how one can be 'surprised' at having one of either sex. They are both equally likely.....

Kelinik

Found out both times and would def again if we were having anymore.

dora37

We have had 3 children and didn't find out on any of them.

Just didn't want to know - it made no difference to us whether they were boys or girls - just OUR babies!

1st Boy
2nd Boy
3rd Girl.

Having said that, when I was pregnant with our 3rd, it was very frustrating when loads of people kept saying 'I bet you really want a girl after 2 boys' - when it really didn't make any difference to us.

Janepig

I didn't find out with either of mine and I do puzzle at people who do find out - kind of spoils it a bit imo, but then each to their own. After two traumatic births it was really nice for DH to be able to tell me at the end of it all what the sex of the baby was (I asked specifically for him to be able to tell me), whereas if I'd already known I think I'd just have been "yeah, I know" a la Andy Pipkin :rotfl:.

When I had DS there were loads of us in work having babies at around the same time and I think it was about a 50/50 split as to who found out and who didn't. Personally I kind of lose interest a bit once you hear "so and so's having a boy/girl" although obviously you want to know mum and baby are okay - it's far more exciting not to know, although as I say, that's just my opinion.

Jxx


PS: And if you decide not to find out, nobody believes you that you didn't anyway.

Felicity

We are due to have our 20 week scan next month so this thread has made some really interesting reading for me.

My husband has always wanted to find out and I initially said no, but now I am wondering if I might change my mind.

It's interesting that not knowing can make the birth more exciting and in some cases help you get through it a little better ... hmmm still not sure.

What to do????????????

I'll keep reading this thread with interest!

Agutka

Thank you all for your stories.
They ALL make sense to me! Aaargghh!
I do like the idea of sealing it in an envelope. Then I'll have something in my possesion (missing s's??) - that feeling of 'I've never wanted to open anything so desperately in my life!'
It's just that at the moment we have time on our hands. Silly things like nursery wall colour - it's lilac at the moment, which is nice for a pink girl but will clash with boy blues :rolleyes:. I really do have time on my hands .
And most baby items seem colour coordinated. And these clothes I'm buying are from carboots and when you come across a stall of pink or blue brand new tagged stuff for pennies, it's really hard on my bargain finding nature to walk away!
AND we can't think of a single name for a girl. So if Joseph doesn't have a willy, she'll definitely get bullied for her name!
Most parents say don't find out... there must be something in it I don't yet know...
But I don't do surprises. Last year hubby said get in car we're going for a day out. I nagged him so much for the whole hour's drive that he gave in and had to tell me.
It'll be enough of a surprise for me to have any baby. Good grief, a whole person dependant on me!
There can be lots of different surprises on the day. Ooh hubby, a diamond necklace for giving you a son/daughter, you shouldn't have. Ooh Mum, what do you mean you're moving in with us for three months?! :rotfl: