Did you know the sex of your baby?

Agutka

Our 20 week scan is in three week's time and we cannot agree. I want to know what sex the baby is, hubby doesn't. Hubby and everyone he speaks to, be it friends, family or complete strangers.
His excuse is that it is a lovely surprise at the birth. But it could be a lovely surprise NOW and I'm guessing that personally I will not care either way on the big day, as long as we're both healthy.
My excuse is that I want to get everything ready for the arrival of the bundle. And being restricted to whites and yellows is annoying me already :rolleyes:.
The advice I've been given is that I can find out and not tell hubby, but how likely is it that I can keep it a secret from him? Not at all likely.

What to do? Basically, what were your excuses to find out/ or not?

vik6525

I found out I was having a boy, mainly cause i didnt even find out that I was preggers til i was mearly 6 months gone, and REALLY didnt want any more suprises!!!

vik6525

That said, my mum didnt want me to tell her either way, but when i came out of the scan, I rang her to tell her how it went, she said 'is everything ok?' and I said 'yeah, HES fine'!!!!

Justie

we both wanted to know so there weren't any arguments but we had lots of people say 'but won't it spoil the surprise' I don't see why when some scan tech can know, I shouldn't. If we didn't have the scan I wouldn't be stressing about not knowing but being able to know seemed to me to be a no brainer...

Little_Miss_Winner

Didn't with the 1st (GIRL)
Did with the 2nd (GIRL)
Didn't with the 3rd (BOY)

First one, wasn't bothered either way, wanted a nice suprise, and thats what got me through the labour tbh.

Second one, scan was on 23rd December, and our first little girl was desperate to know (she was 2.5) so as we couldn't decide we asked the radiographer to write it down and seal it, so that if we decided at a later date we could open the envelope. We gave in, and gave it to our DD on Christmas morning. She was excited to discover she was having a little sister.

Third one, After having 2 children (as above) to be honest the birth that was most exciting for me was the birth of my first daughter as i didn't know the sex, husband agree so we decided not to find out this time. We were over the moon to find out we had a son. The girls were delighted with their baby brother too.

My advice would be don't find out, although terribly exciting you will know soon enough anyway.

Good Luck with whatever you decide , let us know when you have made your decision xxx

SeptemberBaby_2

We have our 20w scan in 2 weeks and have decided to find out, much to the annoyance of my family. We will just not tell them the result (or tell them we changed our minds!). My reasoning is that whether we find out or not will not change the result so we might as well know in advance...and I'm sure I will have enough 'surprises' on the birth day to be getting on with

Best wishes with your pregnancy

x

Amanda65

Hiya - 2 DD's and 1DS and didn't find out with any of them and am pleased I didn't. I always felt it was like finding your presents before Christmas - the initial excitement at discovering what you had got would take something away from Christmas morning surprises and I knew that the minute I had been told I would wish I didn't know!

It really is a personal choice, but I think I would not have been able to keep it quiet from my OH if I knew and he didn't - too much of a big mouth lol!

Also TBH you wil be inundated in outfits in the 'right' colours from the second the baby is born and a few weeks into it will be desperate to dress them in something other than blue or pink!!! Good luck whatever your choice

vik6525

SeptemberBaby wrote: »

We have our 20w scan in 2 weeks and have decided to find out, much to the annoyance of my family. We will just not tell them the result (or tell them we changed our minds!). My reasoning is that whether we find out or not will not change the result so we might as well know in advance...and I'm sure I will have enough 'surprises' on the birth day to be getting on with

Best wishes with your pregnancy

x

Be careful with that... As i said above, its not always that easy to keep it a secret!:rotfl: :rotfl:

i_wanna_save_money!

Hiya

I've got 2 girls and with my first I was desperate to know the sex, so we found out it was a girl. When I was pregnant with my second , I just wasn't bothered whether we had a girl or boy I didn't want to know, and it was a lovely surprise at the birth.

What annoyed me was everyone asking me if I had found out what I was having yet and the way they assumed I wanted a boy seeing as I already had a girl. :mad:

I am actually really happy to have two girls as they are so close and are great friends ( so far ... lol ).

liney

We didn't find out, and i wouldn't find out if i has another child either.

I know a woman who was all but distraught that she was having another boy; then verged on depression for the rest of her pregnancy. Once she had the child she was in love with him straight away, so would have saved herself all that heartache if she hadn't asked.

If it really doesn't bother you either way, then why not... same token though why..? You can send Dad to the shops for blue or pink clothes and a comming home outfit anyway. You definately do not need draws and draws of while and yellow clothes which will be grown out of within a couple of weeks. Newborns grow fast !

Congratulations btw )

mum2kathryn

We found out, but didn't tell anyone else. I'd say if you are going to do it that way, tell everyone else you didn't find out, or they'll bug you like mad and try and trick you into saying!