Did you know the sex of your baby?

izoomzoom

When I was pg first time, we didn't want to find out, as we wanted a surprise. However, I was convinced that I was having a girl. About a week after DS1 was born, I remember bawling my eyes out as I didn't get the girl I so thought I was having.

With DS2 H didn't want to find out, but I did. I wanted to deal with not having a girl if number 2 turned out to be a boy. As we weren't in agreement, I took a piece of paper and envelope in, and asked the scan lady to mark the sex with an X, and seal the envelope.

I looked at it later the same day, so knew, but kept it to myself. H didn't ask about it for weeks, and asked if I knew and I said that I did, and he asked me to tell him and I did. We still kept it to ourselves, and as we were having DS2, I was able to deal with him not being a she, whilst he was still in my tummy.

I am pg with number three and I will definitely find out again. I might do the paper and envelope thing again, and hold off finding out if I am at all unsure, but at least I will not have missed the opportunity to find out.

lesleystrawson

My husband and I both wanted to know, so that we didn't have to keep calling her 'it' or 'the baby' when talking to her through my tummy or to others.

Also quite enjoyed spending hours searching E-bay for all those 'girlie' things!!!

Nikki

Neither of us wanted to know the sex of our babies. With DS1 I was 100% convinced we were having a boy, with DD I was 75% sure of her being a girl, but didn't want to get my hopes up - I kept dreaming about giving birth to a girl. I thought DS2 was another girl as my pregnancy was similar to DD's. MIL kept bugging us to find out the sex at DD's 20 wk scan!!

rio

We found out as there is a history of congenital heart problems affecting boys in my family and finding out I was having a boy definately ruled out a home birth for me. We told no one as we found out the sex for medical reasons not out of a wish to know. They do qualify the result by saying there is a certain percentage of error, but I think it is rather low < 5% I think.

starbump

I vote for finding out the sex. I hate surprises. I like knowing we are expecting a girl. We would never say "We've changed our minds about having the baby" if they said it's X or Y! It's just easier to know and it's more real when we talk to her.

WhiteCat_4

No, I left it to chance

I dressed by boy in pink and he didn't object

bunty109

I really wanted the whole surprise thing with all 3 of mine. I liked being able to choose 2 lots of names (even though we struggled with those for boys....which we now have 2 of!!).

With my third pregnancy it was thought I might be carrying twins. In that case I think I would have asked if they were same sex or not, but not wanted to know the sex: I think I would have wanted to pre-empt later bedroom arrangements and work out if I needed to double up on name choices!

It's true that you don't really care when the child is born what the sex is. I think if you have a deep-seated preference for one sex or the other it evaporates the minute you go into labour! I wouldn't want to spend 4 or 5 months thinking I was having a boy if I wanted a girl, when in the end it doesn't matter (and whatever we say, deep down sometimes we do have a yearning for one sex or the other when we find out we are pregnant!)

Agutka

My SIL decorated her nursery in creams and browns. All very posh Mamas and Papas stuff. It felt like you were in a catalogue, and I certainly didn't want to buy from it! At least hubby and I agree the nursery will be an eclectic mess of colour and theme (this is for our own amusement, rather than baby's needs btw)... As soon as we get the computers out...

I certainly have a preference of one sex over the other. But it changes from minute to minute :rotfl:. Although, because the first-borns in our families have been boys, we are also expecting a boy first and calling the bump HE. But then I called my girlie dog HE also. Maybe it's out of reverence for men.


:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: Ooh, that made me laugh!

BusyLizzie_3

Looks like a 50/50 split on finding out/not finding out so far! We didn't find out with any of ours - our first pregnancy was twins and we knew they were non-id, so we had great fun pondering g/g, b/b and g/b name combinations. We had two girls. Second time around, I was thrilled (and slightly surprised) to be pregnant again and it didn't really occur to us to find out the sex. We were just excited at the prospect of having another gorgeous baby in the house - and we had another girl. I guess I've always felt that it was nice for the baby to keep the secret of its own sex until the birth.

inkie

Didn't and wouldn't find out - even though I could have, despite it not being policy to (i'm a MW).

I too know of someone ( a colleague), whose baby was wrongly 'sexed'.