Whats your opinion?

Jinx

phill99 wrote: »

This is just another example of the attitude of many young people who believe "I can do what I want when I want and how I want. I do not have to be respectful or courteous to any one". If a homeowner asks someone into their house as a guest, then that guest should respect their wishes. This is no different from being asked not to smoke in the house, not to wear shoes etc.

Whether the couple sleep together elsewhere or even in the same hose when parents are away is irrelevant. It's no about the OP having 'an issue' with her daughter sleeping with her partner. It's just about other people, who are invited into someone's home, having the decency and respect to honour basic rules. End of subject.

If its not 'an issue' then this thread would not exist as mother and daughter would be in agreement! And just because mother and daughter have an issue to resolve does not mean there is a lack of respect or courtesy - it is an issue for them to resolve.

Mojisola

phill99 wrote: »

This is just another example of the attitude of many young people who believe "I can do what I want when I want and how I want. I do not have to be respectful or courteous to any one". If a homeowner asks someone into their house as a guest, then that guest should respect their wishes. This is no different from being asked not to smoke in the house, not to wear shoes etc.

Whether the couple sleep together elsewhere or even in the same hose when parents are away is irrelevant.

But an adult child living in the house isn't a guest.

As parents, I think we have to respect our children's views and take them into account if we all live together. We can't expect them to live their lives in exactly the same way as we did.

I still keep coming back to the issue that the OP doesn't seem to object to her daughter having sex with her boyfriend but doesn't allow them to spend the night in the same room.

I could understand if she said that she would be embarrassed if she heard them having sex and asked them to abstain or be very quiet but it is possible to just sleep in the same bed.

Wirenth

phill99 wrote: »

This is just another example of the attitude of many young people who believe "I can do what I want when I want and how I want. I do not have to be respectful or courteous to any one". If a homeowner asks someone into their house as a guest, then that guest should respect their wishes. This is no different from being asked not to smoke in the house, not to wear shoes etc.

Whether the couple sleep together elsewhere or even in the same hose when parents are away is irrelevant. It's no about the OP having 'an issue' with her daughter sleeping with her partner. It's just about other people, who are invited into someone's home, having the decency and respect to honour basic rules. End of subject.

In my home, we do remove our shoes at the door and do not permit people to smoke in the house. These examples are unhygienic and cause damage to property, which is why these are basic rules with which visitors should comply. It would be discourteous to do otherwise. And the people that seem to have the most difficulty with the 'no shoes in the house rule' seem to be the golden oldies, thank you.

Sleeping together does not fall into the above category. It is not harming the OP's home or abusing her. The only damage that may result from sexual relations is to the OP's daughter and her partner.

phill99 wrote: »

End of subject.

I find this phrase extremely rude. :mad:Who are you to decide when a discussion is complete?

Person_one

phill99 wrote: »

It's not about being power hungry. It's simply about extending courtesy, having manners and showing respect. Seeing as half of 14 year old males walk round with their jeans hanging down below their under pants and are incessantly banging on about 'respek' and not 'dissing' each other, I thought you would understand this.

Evidently I'm wrong.

I'm afraid this is how I'm picturing you phill:

Wirenth

xXMessedUpXx wrote: »

Oh i've always jokingly said that if my parents ever stay at my house i'm making them sleep in separate rooms :whistle: :rotfl:

Also in my case, i think my parents didn't want me sharing a room as i had much younger siblings in the house, and partly as well cos my dad is quite a bit older than my mum so a different generation, and more old fasioned.

I'd make my exercise-hating Mum do a 2 mile hike before breakfast.

In your case, the potential harm to your younger siblings would make this a sensible request from your parents. It wasn't simply wanting to retain control over you.

Person_one

Wirenth wrote: »

In my home, we do remove our shoes at the door and do not permit people to smoke in the house. These examples are unhygienic and cause damage to property, which is why these are basic rules with which visitors should comply. It would be discourteous to do otherwise. And the people that seem to have the most difficulty with the 'no shoes in the house rule' seem to be the golden oldies, thank you.

Actually I think its really rude to ask your guests to take some of their clothes off to be admitted into your house. But that's another thread and I think we've done it before! .

Wirenth

Person_one wrote: »

Actually I think its really rude to ask your guests to take some of their clothes off to be admitted into your house. But that's another thread and I think we've done it before! .

Yes, we have. And it was interesting due to the different cultural perspectives.

SuzieSue

Person_one wrote: »

Actually I think its really rude to ask your guests to take some of their clothes off to be admitted into your house. But that's another thread and I think we've done it before! .

Agreed, I would never go in to someone's house if they insisted they I took my shoes off - I don't want all the dirt from their floors going onto my socks and then in to my shoes (but then I am a bit OCD).

I always wonder what the people who insist that everyone takes their shoes off (there was someone on here who wouldn't let their meter reader in because he refused to take off his shoes) would do if they needed an ambulance. Would they insist the paramedics took their shoes off first?

Person_one

Found the old threads so we don't end up hijacking this one, although it would be my fault so apologies!

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/3901073

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/1641177

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/4068785

claire16c

lazer wrote: »

I am only 30, and recently had a discussion with my friends, most of us were over 20 when we lost our virginity and still felt we weren't ready when we did.

Do you have a particularly religious group of friends because I do not think this would be the case at all for the average person.

I don't see what morals have got to do with being married. A quick look on the posts on this board will give you a glimpse of the cheating/ lying and goodness knows what else married people do to one another.

I'm married myself but I would never judge someone's relationship on whether they were married or not.