MOOLOO'S Muddling on into 2013

minimoneysaver

Mr Toad a similar thing happened to a friend of mine. It was only when she insisted she wanted nothing to do with him and refused to take any calls related to him, that some action was taken.

Savvy_sewing

Thanks for the input. Believe my daughter has sorted the Xbox issue for me. Time will tell.
Biggest gave him the lecture etc. she has roped him in to Babysit for her tonight so he won't be home tonight.
My washing machine has arrived this morning. But DS didn't take the old one out as requested. Nothing new there then.! So the new one is in my sitting room!
Today I am picking up the reins again on my sewing. Finally sewing again at the recycle centre aswell. Makes a difference.
Plodding through the depression but yesterday's Sun and this mornings early sun has helped me.

Savvy_sewing

Had a good weekend. dGD went to see her Mum and her BF for the weekend and I went to visit BF's parents on Saturday. So we stopped off at Ikea on the way down. Last of the big spenders I spent £3.80 buying a fleece blanket and a couple of cheap serving spoons!
I left my Credit Card behind in the local express shop on Friday, but I was very lucky to notice Saturday and ring up. Was able to collect it on my return! Phew. I was side tracked at the till by twin2 ringing.
DS finally put my washing machine in yesterday. So we could wash and dry the school uniform last night.
We visited my parents yesterday as well.
Dad is happy with his hearing aids. After resisting the idea for years!
I am looking forward to sewing again this week. I have several projects on the go at home, and repairs etc at work.
The neck and arm isn't too good at the moment, and so I am keeping my fingers crossed that this will not hinder me too much. Especially as I do not want to have to go back to how I was when I needed a carer to help me.
Time to do the school run.

geminilady

Hope you are ok as you have not posted in a while.

Savvy_sewing

Hi, sorry missing in action. Been plodding along with all the usual juggling tasks of family, work and funds.
Nothing exciting, or new really. Have spent the weekend redecorating the room for DGD. So she went to stay with her auntie over night to allow the painting and papering to be done.
Have been very lucky to have been given some new bedding and towels. So in turn we both have new looking bedrooms!
With my luck at receiving these goodies means I get a change and I can pass my covers and towels to the twins.
Finances are tight, but were coping.
Twin1 has gone back with her BF to his place till the end of the month.
Twin2 is coping, just but as we approach DGS1's birthday I see the shadows in her eyes.
DS has a new girlfriend and is out a lot now. Alas he is not helping me -yet.
Maybe one day!

Savvy_sewing

Morning, brr -4c out there at the moment. (BF informed me). I am just chilled sitting up in bed. I woke an hour ago, nipped down stairs, turned the heating up, grabbed a mug and came back up to bed to have a cuppa in the warm.
Thought DS had some work but when I knocked on the door he said he didn't think he had anymore as he never got a text back.
Another day where he hangs around on his computer games, ignores my requests for help and drives me nuts.
Have had a bill from iTunes for a purchase I didn't make, and he swears blind he didn't so my App Store etc is now blocked. Query with iTunes. But they have agreed to refund me my money. As I have never ever brought music to down load. I alas do not believe my son. But cannot exactly prove he did do it. What a terrible feeling it is to blame my family. Alas I do not trust him.
Still have an issue with him smoking in his room when he thinks I am not aware. The smell alone drives me nuts. It will affect my ability to bring in or sell work and he doesn't give a do dah about my feelings.
Part of me wants to kick him out. But the softie in me cannot see him homeless again. He was improving and has made better friends here. But There doesn't appear to be any respect. Dispite all I have done for him. I know, my own fault. Was my choice. Etc.
just sounding off a bit in frustration. I gave him another print out of the agreement he had made in Feb. lets see if he bucks his ideas up.
Talking of up. That's where I should be now. Getting DGD ready for school.

minimoneysaver

I wish I could make some suggestions to improve things, but alas, I think he is far too selfish to make changes....apart from the fact he is clearly putting your DGDs health in jeopardy. That alone is a good enough reason to not smoke in your home. This home was meant for your DGD and you. Did your DGD have to give up her room for your son? Is that why you had to redecorate? x

Errata

He doesn't appear to show you any respect and seems quite contemptuous. If the only consequence of him behaving badly is to give him another printout of what you agreed, then that's not much of a consequence for his stealing, smoking, refusal to do jobs around the house for you and leaving you with a washing machine stuck in your sitting room until he feels like moving it.
It seems you are the only one that can arrive at a solution to all this; perhaps it might be worth talking the situation over with someone you trust to help you to develop some strategies to deal with him.

Savvy_sewing

In his defence he was living at home with me when we got this house and he did have the bigger room first. Although he moved out and I used it as a work room before moving DGD in it.
I redecorated as the room had never been decorated since builders magnolia 3 years ago.
Amazingly yesterday he got off his rear and went into Banbury. Came home with a job. Starts today. Working in record shop 4 days a week. It's a Christmas job but that's better then nothing and it will keep him occupied for a while.
I will continue to try to get him to help still( be it often in vein). I told him if he smokes in the house it will invalidate my insurance. That seems to have helped as he went outside to smoke yesterday. (Needs must!).
I have been sewing a lot more the last few days. But not necessarily things to earn me more money. It's time to think of the Christmas gifts etc that I will be giving. DGD has a list of people she wants to get things for, the school do gifts for adults at £2.50 so she chooses and then wraps them at school.
I won't be buying anyone big things this year as they all had massive value birthday gifts. ( except DGD). But she wants everything she sees as a lot of kids do! So I will see what I can find next week.
Another day at work today and tomorrow so an extra £40 in the weekly pay packet. That will help as I want to take the school holidays off if I can.

Savvy_sewing

Bust couple of days. Today is DGS1's birthday. So happy Birthday to him where ever in the world he is. Must check up on his mummy and see how she is this morning.
Gas Bill has arrived. Yea I am still £42 in credit. But they want to put the DD up to £27 a month from January. Think I can live with that. What with winter upon us.
If only the girls bills were as low.
DS has gone off to work again. He seems happy enough at the moment and its good as he got himself up. No hammering on the door or shouting at him to get up.
DGD has brought me up 'breakfast in bed granny' two slices of fruit bread cut in half very neatly. (But no butter) . That's a lovely little gesture though. Bless her.
I have ordered a new Vacuum Cleaner for my Christmas present from my parents. Dad heard me talking to biggest about my one and has given me the money to get a new one and to pay for twin2's gas cooker to be fitted. What would I do without my lovely Dad?
I got to play with the embroidery machine at work yesterday. Made me even more determined to save up for one of my own. But it can wait a bit longer. With a bit of jiggery pokery I have managed to rebuild my emergency fund back up to £1,000 so chuffed.