MOOLOO'S Muddling on into 2013

*Robin*

Mooloo wrote: »

I am too soft. He just ignores me. Today I am doing the carpet myself. Cos I need a clean floor to cut my fabrics out on! Solution prep on. Cup of tea while it works its magic, I hope, then a square at a time on the centre of the room and main door ways. Alas I can't move the furniture.
I think I will see if I can get Biggests BF to talk to DS for me. See if he can reach the parts I cannot so to speak.

Oh Mooloo! Yes you are too soft.
Although tbh with this particular job - where your fabrics may be damaged if it's not done properly - perhaps it's better to take control yourself.
Mind, I'd probably have insisted DS helped by shifting furniture and operating the cleaner under direction.

Loolah

What would he do if you kept pushing him?

are you afraid of his reaction so you accept his excuses and sloppiness so as not to cause a row?

Been there done that so please please stick up for yourself

Savvy_sewing

duchy wrote: »

If you had a lodger and they ignored your reasonable requests not to leave the place like a pigsty-you'd ask them to leave.

If He was a lodger it would be different- For a start I would be getting rent!
But he is not. He's my son.
I will just have to let it go overt head so to speak cos I cannot see him out on the streets - certainly not at this time of year.

Sorry if I let off steam and don't get as tough as some would like but those who know me will know that I just couldn't do it.

On the plus side he's working 5 days a week at the moment so he's out of my hair during the day.

minimoneysaver

Great news that he has a job! I hope things will sort themselves out for you soon enough. xx

Savvy_sewing

Well I found a gas engineer to install the cooker twin2 had been duped into swapping her cooker for. £40 light and still no cooker as he had to condemn it as the oven leaked gas. So Twin2 still had no cooker, I am £40 out of pocket, we have a cooker to scrap and another needed to replace it! All because the family from hell are con merchants!
On the plus side I sold a furry scarf I made the night before.
BF came to see me last night. Makes a change.
I have work today, and a Mentor is due to call me tonight. Mmm wonder what that will ignite.

Eager_Elephant

Now that Community Care Grants don't exist each Local Authority has to run their own scheme to help people who cannot afford to replace essential items.

IN Suffolk we have Local Welfare Assistance and as I help arrange this I know your girls would qualify in our area.

Can you find/ring one of the local advice agencies and see who administers the scheme in your area and hopefully she can have a cooker for free (so you don't have to pay either)

I came on here after seeing your post on MFi3 and just thought her cooker had broken - but of course it had to be the family from hell didn't it?

Are you able to report them?

Savvy_sewing

Eager_Elephant wrote: »

Now that Community Care Grants don't exist each Local Authority has to run their own scheme to help people who cannot afford to replace essential items.

IN Suffolk we have Local Welfare Assistance and as I help arrange this I know your girls would qualify in our area.

Can you find/ring one of the local advice agencies and see who administers the scheme in your area and hopefully she can have a cooker for free (so you don't have to pay either)

I came on here after seeing your post on MFi3 and just thought her cooker had broken - but of course it had to be the family from hell didn't it?

Are you able to report them?

Hi EE,
Thanks I will do some ringing around on Monday and find out what's available.
I don't know what reporting them will do? The problem is they will just say she agreed to swap and its a difficult thing to do. It would also bring a heap load of carp( if you know what I mean) back from them in intimidation etc and I am not close enough to respond when that happens.
Our local policeman I used to see at meetings etc has moved area now. Don't have his replacements details.
In fact the social or carers are not bothering to keep me informed anymore!

Eager_Elephant

I think you are in Northampton, here is a link I found:

http://www.northamptonshire.gov.uk/en/councilservices/community/social-fund/pages/default.aspx

So did family from hell just ask her to swap cookers then?

Does Twin 2 realise they are taking advantage of her yet?

Savvy_sewing

I am not sure about how it came about. Twin2 was rather vague about it. She didn't tell me about it, I found out through her sister, and then when I went round she was cooking on the camping stove.
I think I will talk to her social worker if I can get hold of her. Maybe her carers people, although she hasn't been accessing them for quite a while Now.
Twin1's BF has arrived up here and just gave me a hell of a shock, Gizmo I think I may be needing your calming influence here. He said that they intend on going after having DGD in their care, and that his sister is a social worker who said she will help them!
I nearly broke down there and then, but managed to say stiffly that I would not be happy, and would be very upset as DGD is my life.
I feel very vulnerable and the thought of fighting them through the courts etc is stressing me out.
I can't imagine life without DGD here with me.
I am gutted.
I realise that the probability of the courts agreeing is quite slim, but it's the thought of having it all to go through that is already stressing me out.

Molly41

I absolutely don't think she stands a chance. Without being disrespectful to her B/F - He is not the brightest is he? Also from F/B there are obvious concerns. please don't worry about it xx