MOOLOO'S Muddling on into 2013

Savvy_sewing

Wonder what today will bring? Woke early and have come down stairs with my cuppa. Turned the heating up and curled up in my chair to update here, emails and bank accounts. Before a shower and waking DGD for school.
Back to normal working today, although I don't feel in the slightest mood for mending and making today!
But every penny counts and I spent a fortune last week, well over the weekend. Sshh don't tell!
Couldn't resist some fabric from America! Wonder when it will come? Hope the customs bill isn't too big either ? Time will tell I suppose.
Expecting a new Vacuum but my Dad has given me the money for that one.
DS still didn't so the carpet cleaning, or last nights washing up! Dispite my requests. Going to try to work around the mess and leave it for him to do today as he has the day off. Will he get the message or will pigs fly first?
Tomorrow I am at home all day so I have a lot of repairs etc to do, and once yodel have collected the faulty tablet I still have the bags to post for the children in Zimbabwe!
Need some gold tinsel for DGD halo so a trip into the loft to get it.
Don't want to do the decorations until I have had the carpet done and my sewing piles condensed a bit !

duchy

Why not just wake him up and tell him to get on with it ...... I'd be with-holding stuff like internet til he does his chores. If he wants to act like a child-treat him like one.

thorsoak

If he doesn't wash up/clear up as you have reqested - don't feed him! Sounds harsh I know - but if the kitchen ain't clean then you can't cook (though obviously you will cook for dgd. When he asks what's for dinner tell him nothing as you can 't br bothered to cook when he can't be bothered to clear up. Ans stick to it ....don't tell him he can cook for himself - HE cannot cook or prepare food in your Michener until he clears up. After a couple of days he should get the message so long as you don't give in. Be firm!

Savvy_sewing

Back home to find washing up sort of done but nothing else. Said he was sleeping as he has a headache. I did mine and DGDs dinner , told him he can do his own. I am not feeling too well. Arm is very bad again, and I have a sore throat. So I have retired to bed and left DGD with him to look after till she has to go to bed.
Worked on a skirt transformation then made two capes with numbers appliqu!s on them for the bosses friends two children.
Have tomorrow at home so hopefully I won't have to dash about and can rest my arm.

Errata

Back home to find washing up sort of done but nothing else. Said he was sleeping as he has a headache. I did mine and DGDs dinner , told him he can do his own

If he CBA to do anything for you, don't do anything for him. Leave him to do his own cooking, shopping and washing, motorbike buying, insurance buying etc.
Inactions should always lead to consequences.
If he was your OH I'd say he was taking you for a mug and you're letting him do it.

thorsoak

Moo loo, moo loo, moo loo ...... When will you EVER learn??

he does not cook/eat I you kitchen until the said kitchen is cleaned to your satisfaction!!!!

minimoneysaver

He's lucky he doesn't live in my father's house! He'd have been kicked to the kerb by now. My father is ever so supportive, as long as you are trying your best, but let standards drop and you have hell to pay. I strongly believe that is why my brother and I are so motivated to keep pushing for better.

It acts as a motivator and gives us the proverbial kick up the backside, without him ever having to say anything.

I hope you can come to an arrangement with your son. One that lasts and makes the 3 of you happy.

Savvy_sewing

I am too soft. He just ignores me. Today I am doing the carpet myself. Cos I need a clean floor to cut my fabrics out on! Solution prep on. Cup of tea while it works its magic, I hope, then a square at a time on the centre of the room and main door ways. Alas I can't move the furniture.
I think I will see if I can get Biggests BF to talk to DS for me. See if he can reach the parts I cannot so to speak.

duchy

If you had a lodger and they ignored your reasonable requests not to leave the place like a pigsty-you'd ask them to leave.

Errata

Mooloo wrote: »

I am too soft. He just ignores me. Today I am doing the carpet myself. Cos I need a clean floor to cut my fabrics out on! Solution prep on. Cup of tea while it works its magic, I hope, then a square at a time on the centre of the room and main door ways. Alas I can't move the furniture.
I think I will see if I can get Biggests BF to talk to DS for me. See if he can reach the parts I cannot so to speak.

TBH I think it's you that needs to sort him out, not your eldest daughter's boyfriend. Your DGD will see your DS not doing as he's asked and getting away with it and she may soon be old enough to do the same to you. Child see, child do.