MOOLOO'S Muddling on into 2013

thorsoak

Mooloo - just when are you going to straighten out that boy of yours????

He is old enough to appreciate that a home needs to be taken care of - and its your home as well as his - and he should respect that fact! Especially when he's not payiing a penny piece towards his keep.

It really is time for you to start the Tough Love regime, my dear!! I know you feel you have to make up to him for the time you've had to put the twins' needs before his - but he is now an adult and should start to take some responsibility for himself without making excuses.

Lecture over :-)

Savvy_sewing

Oh I rant and rave, throw a strop at him and all the other methods, but it goes in one ear and out the other. Bar actually throwing him out, he is not going to change. I should just get my BGK on and deal with it. I can't see him homeless, and at least he has been working. He has been happy at work which is a bonus. Although the work has extended till the 4th Jan now.
After that heaven knows.
I hope he can find another job soon.
I will have another talk to him when I get back home. But as I am away a lot in the holidays I suppose its a boy thing? while Mum is away they just spread their rubbish about, and think they will get it done later, but never do.
I have asked his Dad to interact with him more but it falls on deaf ears.

Savvy_sewing

Good afternoon, I have come home early. We didn't get to go to Weston Super Mare until yesterday in the end, and the weather is atrocious.
It was good to see BF's Dad and his wife. I really like her. But BF's daughter put in several snide remarks in my direction and When it was just M and me, I admitted to her how difficult things were at times and actually I just wanted to go home. So after a night of little sleep and a lot of self imposed mind games I got up and said I wanted to go home. All BF said was "ok". No questions, no arguements, just "ok" and I am home now.
So it will be a night on my own for New Year, but Although I have never been on my own before, I just wasn't in the mood to celebrate when I felt rather defeated and fed up. I realised I don't actually want another 10 years of trying to play happy families, trying to, hoping for the happy ever after. It's just not going to happen. I don't want to live out of a suitcase every weekend. I don't want to hold my breathe and wish for the future of my dreams as it just isn't going to happen. So I would rather be home.
DS is at work, and is going to Biggest's to celebrate tonight. So As DGD is not back until tomorrow afternoon, then I can use today to have a write in my diary, eat what I want, or not, and answer to nobody but myself.
I suppose I should be thinking up a name for my year ahead, and get it started too.
I may get back on here today, but if I don't then

I wish you all a Happy and Fruitful New Year, and see you on the other side so to speak.

glitter58

Hope you have a nice evening on your own,maybe give you a chance to gather your thoughts and maybe look for some answers as to where you go from here.
I hope you don't mind me saying but your bf seems to be a "cold fish" and really doesn't seem interested in anything you want or need just takes what he wants from your relationship but gives nothing back,not even empathy when you most need it.
One day Mooloo you will find your forever love,the man who deserves and wants your love and loyalty but if you keep this joker hanging around this will never happen.
Remember dgd is getting more independent every year and you will have more freedom to do what you want.
Hope you don't mind me commenting,I usually read every day but this bloke needs his b@tt kicking.

glitter58

Whoops!! The whole point of my post was to tell you Happy new year Hun xx

Savvy_sewing

glitter58 wrote: »

Whoops!! The whole point of my post was to tell you Happy new year Hun xx

Happy New Year!
Think you are right but it's not easy turning love off .
We haven't argued, so we will see what happens. My daughter Biggest of Mooloo said if he wants to be with me he would come here. But to tell you the truth, today I don't want him too. I just want to be on my own.
I have a new A4 note book to use as my diary, and access to the tea, chocolate, or what ever I want. I am just going to chill. Maybe reflect a bit on paper, and be me.

Savvy_sewing

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/comment/64216049#Comment_64216049. Hopefully this is the link to my new Thread.
See you there in the new year!