MOOLOO'S Muddling on into 2013

Savvy_sewing

candygirl wrote: »

Are you using the Louise Hay ones hun:D:D

No. Been trying the ones from Rhonda Bryne "the secret" etc.
weird in a way but have made an overall difference in me over the last few months. But better then referring to the tablets! Least I hope so.
Latest idea is to say Thankyou for my blessings etc counting them or re iterating what it is plus multiple thanks. Does help as if I am looking for good things and saying thanks they tend to override the bad ones. (Eventually!)

candygirl

Yea it's all similar hun, plus Wayne Dyer's good:D:D

Savvy_sewing

Having a bad day. Bit of a melt down. Forgot I was to help Biggest of Mooloo today. So have let her down. I am not able to fight this black mood today. I need a break. I can't face another social meeting this afternoon. I can't cope with paying out all the time. I am on overload.

minimoneysaver

Is there a way to hand over all responsibility of the twins to the social services? I'm thinking back to those children who you heard divorced their parents. Not because you don't love them anymore, but because you DO love them, but you also love yourself and your DGD.

You really need to put your DGD and your needs first. There must be a way to put the responsiblity over to SS.

Good luck Mooloo. xxx

geminilady

I cannot believe the school contacted DGD'S mum instead of you,I would be having a serious word with the head.Sorry your mood is so black sometimes nothing help and you just have to wait until it passes but have you a friend you can chat to?,sometimes it helps to offload.The twins are a lot to cope with when social services are not helping,can't remember posts about their father but could he not get more involved?

Savvy_sewing

Father left when they were 5. Has limited visits and only has started having DGD a few times a year since biggest badgered him when she had DGD2.
He doesn't know how to help them or communicate with them really.
Molly came to see me this morning andlet me off load. Thank god for friends. Especially when she is ill herself.
Social had a crisis and cancelled today. So twins have to wait.
Twin2 has decided to come off ESA and go back to job seekers. So that has added more pressure as there will be a delay in the benefits while it all gets sorted. And that worries me as she has nothing and I am not a bottomless pit.

minimoneysaver

Are the twins able to go to a foodbank and access the payment of £135 from British Gas for those who are in fuel poverty?

*Robin*

(((Hugs))) Mooloo, sorry you're feeling down.

Any news on those competency tests for the Twins yet?

Their Dad may not know what to say to his daughters, but why can't he help shoulder the burden of continual financial 'top-ups' which you are lumbered with?

Savvy_sewing

He's never paid for the girls in his life. He only paid for DS when I went bankrupt as CSA got him. That was never reliable either!
His current wife holds the purse strings as he is still useless with money.
I count myself lucky when he offers to have DGD for a weekend.
Social haven't done anything about the competency tests.
The carer the girls had left three months ago and has not been replaced. The police Officer who liaised has been moved beat and new one hadnt made themselves known. The support has collapsed.
Not sure about the fuel poverty stuff? Will see what I can find out.
The food bank has to have a written note from the debt council guy, or the social worker. But they have accessed it a few times and apparently there is a limit to the number of times they are allowed.
So today I try and put my brave face on and try and do something other then cry.

Eager_Elephant

(((Mooloo)))

Sorry to hear about all the shenanigans with the Twins.

I just don't know what to suggest.

Can you ask Social Services about appointeeship so they control the girls money or do you not mind sorting it?

I think you said one lot of money comes to you - do you pay some bills first and then give them the rest?
I know you are working but could you actually put the elec/gas on and then give them whats left?

I do worry about you Mooloo and all the stress you have and now you are working it is harder for you to fit everything in.