MOOLOO'S Muddling on into 2013

Savvy_sewing

Over the years I have contacted them all.
Currently it's my own mental state I am worried about. Had a nervous breakdown before and I am teetering on the edge.
Think it best I stop posting.
Tired Mum am not anti you. I am just tired and at the end of my tether.

carolan78

I know your not the twins official carer but it might be worth reaching out to one of the carers support charities for yourself. I'm rooting for you to get through this hurdle one way or another as many other followers will be x

duchy

Mooloo-I think you need to document where you feel SS are failing to provide the support they have undertaken to provide -specific examples - and then lodge an official complaint . I do think though uif there is a task they haven't done-Instead of doing it for them -you need to chase them. Eventually they'll get sick of having to justify and respond to official complaints lodged in writing and do what they are supposed to ....but whilst you are prepared to pick up their slack the twins (and they are difficult cases) will not get the attention they should be from SS.

I do agree with Carolan that SS are overstretched so if family are providing support they will just sit back and let them .

Savvy_sewing

The Social worker is well aware of how stretched I am, and how concerned I am. We do talk reasonably regularly but it doesn't really help things. But I will try and get my act together and document better. Its just a real effort at the moment to fight the fight. I am just trying to get through each day. Got to go to work today, but really don't feel up to it. Its going to be an effort. I just want to go back to bed and hide.

Witch_Hazel

Mocloo as hard as it is you need to start thinking about yourself. You are not alone there are many parents/carers up and down the UK who feel exactly the way you do. (hugs) I think we go through every emotion possible, generally angry 90% of the time, as it feels like nobody cares.

SS and all these big named organisations all they ever do is lip service they talk the talk but don't actually do anything. Have a rest, then come back recharged ready to fight the fight again. It's hard but you know you will never give up on your children or your grandchildren.

Padstow

Mooloo wrote: »

The Social worker is well aware of how stretched I am, and how concerned I am. We do talk reasonably regularly but it doesn't really help things. But I will try and get my act together and document better. Its just a real effort at the moment to fight the fight. I am just trying to get through each day. Got to go to work today, but really don't feel up to it. Its going to be an effort. I just want to go back to bed and hide.

My heart breaks for you, but I think tired mum has a good point in that as long as you pick up the pieces, whether that be shelter or money, there is no emergency on the part of SS.
Seems to me like tough love is needed, not just for your girls but to show SS you have more to worry about than them.
Will need nerves of steel to face it out, but your precious girls may benefit. Like someone else said, you need a carer, not in the usual sense but someone who can map your future. A careers advisor, life coach whatever.

I hope you don't stop posting and I look forward to reading of better news.

To Blacksmithing? I can only suggest your son sees the council as to becoming self employed. I daresay that's not possible for a grant, but maybe spur them into suggesting something.
There are local organisations such as Rotary who have funds available. So I would cope with the easiest in the family first, ie your son, and that's one down, or rather up. Have you researched or rather has your son, whether there is a blacksmith group/association? There will be.

You have so many worries, but get the easiest coped with first. Sort him and the rest later.

topsyturphy

Just wondered if your son is under 25 whether he may be able to get a grant from the Princes Trust

Savvy_sewing

I just want to send a Thankyou out but I don't know who too. But I had an anonymous envelope in the post today with a lovely gift. So I just want to say a huge thank you. I am humbled.
I am struggling but have got through the day and work. The twins are car park Marshalls at Silverstone this weekend. Good for them but a nightmare over declairing it and benefit changes etc. financially it's not beneficial but fit self esteem and CV's its a plus. I took them up there but it will not be pleasant as it was raining heavily when we pitched the tent. Tight squeeze too as my little tent. Oh well. I hope they will be okay.
DS has gone out this evening. Rare. Wonder if he has met a new friend?
He has been discussing work on a business plan for his Smithing.
I'd like to think he will be realistic but I don't think he will be.
Exhausted. Going to bed.

Brighton_belle

If he hasn't done so, your son should contact your local agricultural college - certainly ours run all levels of blacksmithing courses and connect to apprenticeships.

Sorry you are having such a bad time mooloo:( I have nothing helpful to add, as it does indeed seem such an impossible situation for you.

Savvy_sewing

If he would go to college, etc he will have to pay for his tuition as he is 20 now. (I believe). Anyway the college here only do the "farrier" side of things, which he is not interested in. He is not a horse fan!.
He wants to do the "art work" side of smithing.
His mentor is trying to get funding sorted out, but its not been forthcoming at the moment.
The Back to works interviews etc are also telling him they cannot help fund a course. He seems to not be able to fit in the right categories each time.
I have found out about Quest. Which I think if he gets a business plan sorted out, but that's not going to be easy. He needs to knuckle down and get organised. Its up to him not me, but unless I push him he wont do it, as he uses his dyslexia as an excuse not too do the paperwork. Just adds to my frustrations.

I am going to just try and let it go for this weekend. I cannot keep on worrying at the moment. I am finding it just too hard.
The fight can be done another day. I haven't got the energy.
DGD is going to her Grandad for the weekend. So I am going to get her bag packed, and things ready. I am also going to ask him, if I can get hold of him before he comes, if he will be able to take DS across to town on his way back, so that I don't have to drive in that direction. The car is on Empty. So I don't want to use it unless I have to. If I can delay getting the fuel for another day it would help with the budget a little bit.
I know that I will get through this, eventually. I have been low before, but it doesn't help, and it doesn't seem to get any easier. I will try and "batten down the hatches" this weekend, and hopefully life will be back in prospective by the beginning of the week.