MOOLOO'S Muddling on into 2013

Savvy_sewing

Goodnight.
I am not sure I will continue with this anymore as I am not sure it's serving much of a purpose anymore but a place for me to scream. Which when I do I am criticised. Usually that is like water off a ducks back but today- it's like a knife in the wrong place.

gottodothis_2

Mooloo,

It is very easy for those not in your shoes to judge. You are doing your best. Sometimes when we are at the bottom of a big black hole we need a step up not stepping on.

As you know I am in a similar position to you. You have helped me so much and been a sounding board full of helpful advice.

I often get people that seem to think they can do a better job, funny that those same people never offer their help just their opinion etc.

Others will have differing opinions. Have a sleep and regoup and come out fighting. :A

Errata

Mooloo, I know how difficult things have been and still are for the twins. Unfortunately when you post on a social networking site you have no control over how people will respond to your posts. Most people are understanding, some are not and that's the way of it.
I have no idea how big the MSE membership is nowdays, other than it's vast (possibly millions) and very different to how it was when you first started posting.
Perhaps it might be time to give your thread a rest for a while, and you might want to give some consideration to removing all the detailed contact information from your homepage. Not everyone will have your best interests at heart. HTH

Savvy_sewing

Thanks for vote of confidence and advice. Troubled night. Not surprising really. One good piece of news is twin2s money has gone into the bank. Doesn't cover her bills but its better then nothing to help with the dent in my purse and allow her a few pounds to put in her pocket or she will resent me. The budget shortfall will still be up to me but at least I will know what's paid. How to. Live on £96 for two weeks with a house to run is beyond me.

silvercar

I see from your signature that you are doing a lot of praying. Is there a church community that could offer you some support?

Dumyat

Mooloo, I don't often post, but I read your thread regularly.
I can't imagine how difficult it is to juggle all the balls life has dealt you. The care system is a nightmare and common sense often seems to be missing. You'll find the strength to continue, I've every faith in you. Its not surprising at times you feel so low and desperate.

carolan78

Mooloo you mention what will happen to the twins when your not here. I think now would be a good time for you to sit back as though you are not here and have no involvement other than "social" visits and contact.

From experience with my mentally ill brother in law, as long as the family is heavily involved the system will fail the vulnerable adult. He was sectioned but because he had our full support he came home one day for a few hours only to find his bed had been given away because he had a supportive family who could ensure he came to no harm (have you ever tried to keep a 6 foot odd schizophrenic in the house 24/7 while the voices are telling him he needs to go do xyz!)

It will be difficult and painful to do but until you totally let go the ss ect will not step up to the mark. I know there is a risk they will not step up to the mark anyway but you have tried everything else and it just brings you full circle and drags you down too. Huge hugs whatever path you go down, I only hope you can start to let go come what may so you and DGD are put first for a change.

Savvy_sewing

I don't go to church anymore. Haven't been in 20 years. Since my divorce. (The first one!)
I suppose my prayers are more monologues to my guardian angel in my head then anything. I tried going along to the small church community when I lived in the village, but I prefer to just keep it to myself, on a one to one type of thing.
I feel as if I have lost the plot, not wanting to go on anymore.
I tried walking away and letting the system help and she has nearly lost her d happened when she was raped? Nothing.
DS is not getting anywhere with his funds, and all his research and want to blacksmith we can't get the funding. He wants to work, the smith is willing to train him but not in a financial position to employ him. We just keep hitting brick walls and I am no longer feeling very optimistic about anything and just feel as if my head is in a vice along with my heart.
I want to walk away. But I can't afford to go anywhere. Well have scraped up the money to take DGD to Portugal, but we don't have the spending money yet. I look forward to going and its my one thing that keeps me going usually. Unless we have a miracle this will be our last holiday as money will be cut by 40% in March.
Money is a crippling master of us all.
Sorry all very doom and gloom at the moment. Need that light at the end of the tunnel to pick me up.

tired_mum

duchy wrote: »

Perhaps Tired Mum was too tired to actually read far enough back to realize the issues involved -basically the system is failing the twins -care in the community my backside !!

Hang on in there Mooloo xxx

Thank you Duchy for your kind comments I do realise that my name belies the fact that I am the footloose carefree mum of none
when in actual fact I am the full time working mum to 3 1 special needs and 2 others Social care like most things is an emotive subject when pursuing things for my child I was told that if they had something a poor elderly lady would have nothing but its my child and his right oh and just for the record I do have sympathy for Mooloo and her plight but I see things from other angles as well I have no doubt they need sheltered accommodation but I also know that if I post on the internet others may have different opinions

carolan78

Mooloo I'm not actually sure you fully realise just how much you are there for them all! When the rape incident happened you were right by her side (as any mother would and should be anyway) because you were there they SS and other agencies could still utter to themselves Mum is with her we can put our time and resources elsewhere.

Have you spoken to Mencap or tried to encourage both twins to go to their local group? They have one in South Northants.