MOOLOO'S Muddling on into 2013

Savvy_sewing

I have come to the conclusion that anything is possible with her at the moment. She rang me last night from that girls phone wanting money. No way Hose (with an accent). I am not supporting them in any way shape I form.
I told her I have the pictures of the boys when she is back home. Think I should ring the support workers to discuss where she is and let them know she hasn't been home since at least Thursday and that she has no money dispite her benefit on Saturday morning. What she will lie on now for two weeks is beyond me. Last week I had to repair the car and tax it. I am broke

Savvy_sewing

Well I rang the support workers and the carers about twin2 not being where she is supposed to be. Talked to the office of the carers but they said that they were changing the person that she was to see at her request. That if she doesnt go home they cannot do thier caring.
Last night I had a call from the police worker who is working with us on her safety issues. We chatted for a while, but really not sure what we can do other then let everyone know that she is with the girl from the family from hell. I wish I could do something about it its so frustrating.
Today the social worker rang back and wants me to make sure that she is at the house on Tuesday so that they can have a chat with her, the social and the carers.
I told her that I cannot get hold of her easily, as she is with this girl but that I was worried about her having no money again. etc.

Today I have been taking some of my sewing to the local Beauty Salon where she is going to use them as decorations and will also "advertise" for me. Which is great news.
Sold another string of hearts this evening as well. From a FB page posting.
At least this gives me other things to think about other then the twins.
Twin1 is still not 100% but is improving as the week goes along. She didnt get to see DGD this week as yet, because she had a chest infection.
DS has continued to be a good help around the garden and has started to make headway with the top 30ft of rubbish and rubble.
Today rain stopped play so he has been on his Xbox but he has been scanning in the photos of DGS 1 and 2, for me, and they are now in a folder on my laptop, so its possible to give the album to Twin2 when she is ready to see it of course.
Tomorrow we have to have her interview with the trained officers. Not looking forward to that one. I will not have to participate at all, just be there for her. No talking or I will be sent out of the room apparantly. Well as I havent any information about the incident then I cannot sway her one way or the other. Although after tomorrow knowing the facts will be tough to sit through. I am not looking foreward to it at all.
I have told her that she needs to be at home, only managed that as she contacted me from her sisters. I am not thrilled that she is still stopping with the girl but have no control over her.
The social worker has said that they may be able to do an assessment of her abilities etc and see if perhaps I should take control of her money. But then thats me stepping closer again and not distancing myself as I had hoped.
I feel the tension in my shoulders, and I must be careful not to let the stress get back its control of my body!. I have come so far with the changes in my health and I do not want to go backwards.
DGD has been a bit testing the last few days. She doesnt want to go to school, which is not like her. I will have to have a word with the teacher and see what she says. If there is a problem or anything, but i didnt do the school run today, so it will have to wait until the morning.

Errata

The social worker has said that they may be able to do an assessment of her abilities etc and see if perhaps I should take control of her money. But then thats me stepping closer again and not distancing myself as I had hoped.

You don't have to do it. The Local Authority is the Appointee of last resort - let them do it.

Savvy_sewing

OK, i will tell them that, and be strong! (ahem- wish I was strong at times thats my downfall. Too soft).

Eager_Elephant

To be honest if I was a Social Worker I would be reluctant to let you control their money as I think they can exert control over you and it would be difficult if they knew they had £10 left (meant for a bill to be paid) and pressurised you into giving it to them and then you would pay the bill from your own money.

When Social Services have appointeeship there is no one they can ask to have more money so what they are given is all they get.

In my area Social Services have appointeeships for some people and they are given their money daily as they cannot budget weekly or they are at risk of financial abuse etc so maybe they could do this to stop the family from hell having her money.

Hope tomorrow goes as well as it can do.

Savvy_sewing

Eager_Elephant wrote: »

To be honest if I was a Social Worker I would be reluctant to let you control their money as I think they can exert control over you and it would be difficult if they knew they had £10 left (meant for a bill to be paid) and pressurised you into giving it to them and then you would pay the bill from your own money.

When Social Services have appointeeship there is no one they can ask to have more money so what they are given is all they get.

In my area Social Services have appointeeships for some people and they are given their money daily as they cannot budget weekly or they are at risk of financial abuse etc so maybe they could do this to stop the family from hell having her money.

Hope tomorrow goes as well as it can do.

Thanks EE i will talk to the social worker and see if she will investigate this option here in our county. shattered and hope i will get. some sleep tonight.
night all

Eager_Elephant

Hope everything went ok on Thursday.

Thinking of you all

Savvy_sewing

i didnt have to sit in on the interview in the end. thank god. Just wait instead. which was a very long two hours. Friend picked up DGD for me so when i had collected her i bought her a McDonald's as a treat and easy for me. then she stayed at her mummy.s for the night.
collected her this morning. but we have had a stay at home day.
tired really. wonder whats next really.
hope its time to sew this week.
fingers crossed.

Savvy_sewing

still awake at 6am. but DGD didnt wake until nearly 8am. Been lazy and sat reading most of the morning. Although I did stop to sew a little policeman tabbard to give as a birthday present for one of DGD s friends party this afternoon. One of the Mum`s is taking her . and I will pop to see my Mum and collect DS.
its trying to snow here. I cant seem to get warm this morning.
Got the school uniforms in the washing machine. May have to tumbledry them to be ready for school. I just couldn't get the umph to put it on yesterday.
Had some lovely freesias for mothers day from Biggest and her BF. They were on the doorstep on Friday. DGD gave me a card she made at school and then I had a text from Biggest this morning. They are in Rome. Back tomorrow I think.
DGD also gave me a big bar of chocolate - with the help of Molly's daughter.

Savvy_sewing

Well I have lost my temper and had a fall out with twin2. I cannot keep proping her up, and she is still in the family from hells clutches, and has been cancelling the carers. I have told her that I dont want anything to do with her anymore and hung up on the phone!. I have told the social services that I am at the end of my tether and that it doesnt matter what I say she is not listening. All she is listening too is this girl from the family from hell.
She is on the verge of becoming homeless and she doesnt see it. I have told the social that there is no way I can have her back home, and that there is no room here anyway with my son back.
I really am just so frustrated with her.
She has borrowed money off of her twin, which she needs for her holiday that she is going on tomorrow, Its only £20, but that Only is going to cost me, as I said that I would give it to twin1 and get it back off of twin2 later. Obviously now that I have argued with her, there is no way I will be getting that back.
I have spent the morning updating my accounts, and really am wishing that it was a bit warmer and I could "chill" out in the garden.
DS has a friend over from oxford. She seems quite polite and nice.
Lets hope that he moves away from the town friends he has had and back to some of the better ones from the passed, or onto some new ones that are less hassle perhaps.

Time to get on and have some lunch, then I am trying to clear out some paperwork to make space to move my sewing downstairs. I am not getting to sew in my room very easily so we will have to see if I can make space to work down here, then DGD can still play in the room etc.