MOOLOO'S Muddling on into 2013

Skint_Lynne

I watched comic relief for a short while last night and noticed that 40% of the money raised stays in the Uk to help causes here. I would say that these girls are a worthy cause to help, I wonder 40% of 75,000,000 is 30 million.

Mooloo, would it not be worth doing a bit of digging and finding out who to write to to find out about funding for a carer or even some cash to help. I would find out who to write to and tell them the whole story.

I do not wish to be horrible, far from it as all of the stories were heartbreaking, here and abroad, but I believe that charity begins at home, so a wee bit of cash for this worthy cause would really help. Write to them Mooloo, if you don't ask, you don't get.

http://www.comicrelief.com/apply-for-a-grant

I found this link, worth a try methinks x

Errata

Mooloo's daughter has a careworker, and I think there's hardly anyone left that Mooloo hasn't written or spoken to about the twins needs.
Thankfully, all her efforts have made a difference to the support her twins receive.

Mooloo I hope things are getting straightened out.

Savvy_sewing

Well I am sorry that I haven't been on for a few days. I have had a few problems with social services about DGD staying at her Mums. The adult social workers requested a copy of the Special Guardianship etc and I had to Explain my reasons, and the strict terms that I allow DGD to go to her Mums. Then blow me down I get another call from A jumped up little worker on the same matter again yesterday. I was fuming. I had spent 38minutes on the phone only two days before. I lost my temper and told them that if they attempt to bother me again about the same call and they do not make notes on the file that I have explained it all, then I will not deal with them again and I would see them in court first.
To the lady that queried about the boys, I was not allowed to have the boys by the time I had the room and the health they were no longer able to come home as the court's had already put them . up cor adoption. This is a regret that will be with me every day until I die.
The twins are now 24 and DS is 20.
Twin1 has gone away this week to meet up with her boyfriend. Scarey, I hope that he is not going to be a user etc and love her for who she is. We will see. I have met him a couple of times but time will tell.
Twin2 has given me a wide birth. Biggest of Mooloo´s has informed me that twin2 tried to get money out of her dad. When she told him why I wasnt giving it to her he said he wasn't surprised. He didnt help her. But then you and I know that as he never paid for them until DS was 14 and CSA caught up with him. ( never had money for the rest of them).
DS has work this week at the racecourse for a couple of hours, but today he has been blacksmithing again. He is doing really well there and is hopeful of an apprenticeship soon.
I have been trying to sort out the best place to sew, and have shuffled the front room around and bought two sewing machines down to f he front room now. Lets see if I can get more work done in better light.
I have a sofa to cover this week, and possibly some blinds for a kitchen to make. Today I have cut out 24 little bags for children and partly sewn them. So I am pleased that I have started. It is something to take my mind off of the troubles of the days.
I will live to fight another day anyway.
This evening DGD and I went swimming with a friend. We had a great time and I hope that she will sleep well tonight.

gizmo111

Maybe you should talk to your twins , and I mean really TALK, I do wonder how they feel? One has her child living with you, but the other's boys are fostered out, yet you can't / won't have them live with you? That must send them both very confusing signals with their special needs?

Clearly you havent read or understood the whole history of Mooloo's life. These children have been through care proceedings and their long term future has been decided by the court - with DGD being able to live permenantly with Mooloo.
If you think there hasn't been a lot a tears and heartbreak over those decisions, then I can't really see what you can add to this thread.

Errata

Clearly you havent read or understood the whole history of Mooloo's life

You have a point, but to be fair few people will have read the whole history as Mooloo's MSE posts on it go back years.

Savvy_sewing

the post about the boys adoption has been recent on this thread anyway. But I don't expect everyone to read all my posts.
Far from it.
I don't worry that some have a different idea as to my reasonings or the full facts about the situation so on the whole the odd post that asks a question is to only be expected.

tired_mum

Yet again someone asks reasonable questions and is flamed for their comments
If you post your story on a public forum then you must realise their will be comments questions by others I am sure Mooloo realises this
Some people feel they cannot do this due to the backlash that will occur which i find sad
I think we all say that Mooloo does a sterling job but there are times that maybe people see things differently which is what this forum is about isnt it?

floss2

tired_mum wrote: »

Yet again someone asks reasonable questions and is flamed for their comments
If you post your story on a public forum then you must realise their will be comments questions by others I am sure Mooloo realises this
Some people feel they cannot do this due to the backlash that will occur which i find sad
I think we all say that Mooloo does a sterling job but there are times that maybe people see things differently which is what this forum is about isnt it?

I think some regular readers/posters assume that everyone has read all the preceding threads and should know all about the whys & wherefores of Mooloo's family, but not everyone has been following Mooloo for that long, or read anything earlier than this or maybe the last thread.

Maybe we should all accept, as Tired Mum says, that as a public forum, there will always be questions / comments from others who do not necessarily know all the ins & outs that others do know, and to use the words of the wonderful Martin, we should be nice to all.

Savvy_sewing

as I said i am not worried and its fine to have opinions. I understand that other people will see things differently and are going to say so. I chose to catalogue my path after I had so much help from M S E so its not a problem to me,. I am not sure even I remember what's happened in the past, so much happens that I have to let things go to deal with the current situations.

Today Twin2 rang and asked . me to go and sit in while the police visited. So I did go, but was not thrilled at the fact her carer hadnt turned up.
The Social worker who looks after both the twins wants a copy of the guardianship forms. So I have got it copied to post to her. It will not tell her anything that I havent and . is just another pointless exercise. I was surprised to see that she is only a Student worker. So probably a jobs worth rather then common sense! oh well.
Tired as I have been sewing today between it all.

thorsoak

I know that you really wanted to know just what went on when Twin 2 had the police visit Mooloo - but really, you should not have gone:( You've told her that you're washing your hands of her - but then when she's asked for help, you've gone running

I do hope that you reiterated that you cannot expect your help whilst she continues to consider the other family as her "friends".

It's hard, I do appreciate that