MOOLOO'S Muddling on into 2013

Savvy_Sue

I think there is at least one charity doing this already. One 'issue' may be that the twins (one or both) may not be deemed sufficiently impaired to be able to benefit. There's also the geographical issue, may not be anything in their area. Plus the willingness to live with others ...

Savvy_sewing

The charity that helps the girls have "houses" in the area already. however the girls, so far, do not fit the criteria to live in them.
I am not sure that i can get them to agree to sharing with each other, never mind another person. It will be hard for them, but I think that it will be necessary eventually unless they suddenly find the missing link that has so far passed them by.

I suppose working towards finding a Trust Fund etc may be an option, but i havent got a clue how too.
Maybe I will just have to wait until I inherit my parents little house, then use that as a deposit for a bigger one. But I would need to have an income sorted out, so I could get a mortgage. Which lets face it, is rather out of my league at the moment.!

As mentioned above. One day at a time is about all that I can deal with at the moment.
This morning I felt as if I had hit overload.
I was relieved that I had taken a day out really. No driving around after the family.
TWin1 is still quite ill, is on steroids and an inhaler.
Twin2 is staying at hers to try and help her. But she did go back to her place with the carer this morning for a while.
DS stopped out somewhere, I have no idea last night, but said he will be stopping at Twin2's tonight.
I will go and collect him at 10am, and take him to the Blacksmiths, and collect him again at 3pm. I will use the time to go and check up on the twins, and to see my parents, and do the odds and sodds of the shopping that I didnt have in my asda order.
(I forgot washing up liquid, laundry liquid, eggs, bread and butter).
I do have a little of all but the eggs, but not enough for the rest of the week.
The cupboards and freezer are reasonably well stocked now. I have enough tinned stuff etc, I think for the best part of the month anyway.
I havent done the menu plan yet, I have spent the last 6 hours on the laptop doing my accounts.
I didnt mean to go back as far as I did, but by default doing a download from the bank, I ended up going back to September on all the different bank accounts, then I had to cross reference stuff.
I still didnt manage to make ends meet????? some of the accounts seem to be completely ariy. Dont know if its the cross referenceing on the Microsoft Money programme but in the end I just altered the starting balance at the 1st Sept, so that my ending balance was the same as it is now. I was so frustrated with all the entries and cross referencing etc.
I supose it serves me right for having money spread all over the place.
The budget was totally too pot, and trying to work the various accounts will be a bit of a nightmare, as DS's money had been going in and out of one of my accounts.
Anyway, we will just have to see, and I will try and remember never to leave the accounts for so long, and work on how I did the download transactions from the bank next time!.
But I will try and claw in the spending now.
I spent a little while this morning going through my wardrobe and sorted out a few things that I will hope will sell off, and a couple of bags for the recycling. (I cant keep everything for sewing later! I just dont have the room).
DGD has been playing games, painting and is currently playing in the bath here next to me, as a mermaid!.
She only wanted noodles for her tea so that was easy. I havent eaten yet. Not sure what I actually want.
Another cup of tea is desperately needed though. I think I would have had a glass of wine if I had any in, but I didnt buy any this week.

Savvy_sewing

Sunday, its my sisters birthday. She lives in France. Mum and Dad said that she has gone to stay near St Tropez for the weekend with her partner. Lovely.
I am not planning to do much today. But I know that my days always manage to get filled somewhere along the line.
I havent got dressed yet, although we have been awake since around 6.30. I did try to get DGD to go back to bed, but she just came down stairs and put the TV on quietly. So I didnt go back to sleep. I made a cup of tea in the bedroom and she came back up with a little chocolate for me. (Is it mothers day today? nope thats next week!). Sweet of her anyway.
I have been reading my emails, updating bits on facebook. and playing around.
I have managed to hang up the washing on the airers and the radiators. So thats good. Just about enough washing liquid for one more wash. Which is about all I have left to do anyway. So thats lucky.
I had hoped for a brighter day so that it could go outside, but its a rather dull and damp looking day so far.
I took DS to his blacksmithing yesterday morning, then went to visit my parents. While DGD was with her great grandad most of the time, I was in the kitchen making "confetti" hearts and other shapes out of my Mums stash of papers and a few of her punches. It was simple but quite theraputic for me to be doing something with my hands that didnt really matter. I plan to use them to scatter on my craft table in June. The pieces of paper that I punched things out of, we kept for DGD to use to make paper chains out of.
I told you I dont like waste!.
We popped to Aldi to get some bits I forgot from the shopping, as my Mum kindly gave me £20. (I had only £3.50 in my purse). I bumped into twin2 in there, and she was with 3 of the family from hell!. Will they ever learn? No I dont think that they will. I couldnt exactly have a scene in the supermarket, so I bit my tongue and grabbed the shopping and left as fast as I could. (So I missed out the cleaning isle and so I forgot the Washingup liquid and the washing liquid!).
Maybe we will pop back to get some today, if I go to collect DS.
We came back home and I did the washing. (thats what I put around to dry this morning.).
Then DGD started on her creating, and I sat sewing my patchwork.
I made her a Spaghetti bolognaise for her tea, and then a chilli concarne for me out of the rest of the meat mixture.
There is enough for us to have another meal each today, or another day anyway. I have frozen the chilli, but kept out the bolognaise as she often will want the same the next day. Which is boring and repetative if you ask me but thats what she likes. Giving in occasionally to that is not so bad.
My Dad collected DS from his blacksmithing for me, and he stayed in town as he was on standby for working in the Pub. Bit of a nuisance for me, as it means that he stops over in town, and the idea was to keep him away from the bad elements etc.
I am not sure where he slept last night. I dont think I want to know!!
I am sure that I will be going to collect him, when he finally surfaces.
I will go and see Twin1 at the same time, and see if she is improving. Worried about her health at the moment. It also means that DGD doesnt get consistancy in seeing her Mum.
I have had a phone call from the Foster Carer who used to look after the boys. When we were regularly meeting for visits for the boys, she was a lovely and friendly woman who was sympathetic and caring. I had given her my card, as she said that she would sort out some photos for us.
Well I know that that was some 14 months ago, but she rang and we have arranged to meet in a coffee shop tomorrow. She is going to give me some pictures of the boys.
She said that she was heart broken and cried for weeks after the boys were placed in the care of the prospective adoptive family, but that the woman is very nice, and that she was glad that the boys had been kept together. (There had been talk of splitting them up apparantly! ). Anyway the adoptive family occasionally text her to tell her how the boys are, and that things seem to be going well for them.
I havent told Twin2 that I am going to meet her, as I dont want to have to take her with me, incase she "folds" in public. I will get the photographs copied, and will take them to her, and she can look at them in her own time in her own home. (Or mine if she would prefer).
It was a bitter sweet call.
I asked if she was going to foster again, but she said that she was still too raw to consider it. Bless her. She said that she didnt think that she would feel that way, not being the biological parents/grandparents etc, but that she was a total mess and is only just adjusting. Bless her. She has done my family a great favor, and I am honoured to have met such a brave and loving foster family. My boys couldnt have been with a better one.
I hope that she can find it in her heart to foster others as the love she gave was so genuine.

Right I better think about getting a move on and getting us dressed etc.
Who knows what today will bring, but tomorrow will be an emotional but brilliant day.

minimoneysaver

How lovely for her to offer to do that for you and your family. She sounds like a wonderful foster carer. Have you ever read any of the Cathy Glass books? She's a foster carer who writes books about her differrent experiences with children.

Savvy_sewing

well the morning went much better then i had dared to hope. we now have an album full of pictures to treasure and more importantly i was able to talk frankly with her about both of our experiences,. we both had tears in our eyes at one point but we also got talking about so many other things and sat chatting for over two hours.
we would probably have talked longer if it was free car parking.
I popped in to see my parents on the way back and updated with them. Mum chose one photo of the boys to scan into her computer to put on the family tree.
i was only home a little while before i had to go and get DGD from school.
I feel much better about the boys now.

Savvy_sewing

i had forgotten to tell you that i had a run in with the father from hell last night.
he was in the pub when i went to get DS. he was drunk and mouthing off. apparantly i am a lady of the night. if you get my drift. amongst heaven knows what as i didnt open my mouth i just collected DGD by the hand and walked away. He was ushered out of the pub by the landlady. apparantly he was ranting at my son the day before and had to be stopped. The carer had told him it was me who called out the police when they were harassing twin2 earlier in the week.
its a great life isnt it

Errata

The carer had told him it was me who called out the police when they were harassing twin2 earlier in the week.

I hope you lodge a very, very formal complaint with the agency that employs her. She's not only broken client confidentiality but may have put twin2 at further risk. It really isn't on.

Savvy_sewing

I haven't. I think that she has already stopped working with twins as twin 2 asked for a different carer after she apparently asked too many questions about the incident. but perhaps i will mention it.
Twin2 is still in the clutches of the girl from same family and stopped there and hasnt been home for several days.
i feel like giving up. I think twin 2 has lost the plot at the moment. Wonder if she is in the real world at all just now.
Am very tired with it all.
some days i just don't feel I can cope.

Molly41

Mooloo wrote: »

well the morning went much better then i had dared to hope. we now have an album full of pictures to treasure and more importantly i was able to talk frankly with her about both of our experiences,. we both had tears in our eyes at one point but we also got talking about so many other things and sat chatting for over two hours.
we would probably have talked longer if it was free car parking.
I popped in to see my parents on the way back and updated with them. Mum chose one photo of the boys to scan into her computer to put on the family tree.
i was only home a little while before i had to go and get DGD from school.
I feel much better about the boys now.

That sounds so positive but must have been so difficult too. Hugs x

minimoneysaver

It is possible that twin 2 is in denial.