MOOLOO'S Muddling on into 2013

MatyMoo

I think you could all do with some rest

Savvy_sewing

Dumyat wrote: »

Mooloo for what its worth I think you do a fabulous job with the challenges you have to face. I can feel the pain in your words tonight, and as someone else has said, I hope there is someone there in the real world to help you.

Well I am on my own but can get a bit of help from Biggest and my parents. although they are all due to go away on holiday in March.
I have had to tell my friend as i needed help collecting DGD the other day. I have some e great friends here.
now time for reading and pushing this to the back of my mind to allow me the best chance of sleep.

thorsoak

Here's hoping that you all manage to get the help that you all need - and that you all get a good night's sleep {{hugs}}

grey_lady

Mooloo, I read your thread often but have never posted before. Im very sorry that twin2 has had a terrible experience. If despite all your efforts twin2 isn't capable of leading an independent life safely - despite social workers, charities and your own efforts - then maybe it really isn't safe for twin2 to be living alone. It seems that in order to live alone there are expectations placed upon her that she can't meet. And i don't mean by that, that she should live with you, just that for her own safety perhaps removing her from her current living situation - even if she disagrees, might be for the best.

Hardup_Hester

Unfortunately many people who should not live alone have to do so, it is what is jokingly called 'Care in the community' there is no bloody care from the community or anyone else.

Savvy_sewing

Hester is right. There is no such place available for her to go. She wouldnt go willingly the other day to the carehome that had a room for her. She ran out. We cannot force her against her will. I cannot exactly lock her in.
She will have to look for somewhere else. Maybe a place with a warden but thats few and far between as well.
I dont have the room for her to come home.
When I rented that huge house with rooms for everyone, it was her decision to leave home, and go it alone. So we had to all go our seperate ways as I couldnt afford to rent at £1200 a month.
I had to really stay on the sick, and care for them and their babies and it got me sicker. And I lost my job.
The twins are both very strong willed when it comes to some aspects of their lives. They want to be "normal" and live normally, but at the moment thats just not proving to be safe for them.
The police called by to check on her Yesterday.
She is currently down at her sisters for the day, and is going to stop there and use the internet (her computer is broken), while twin1 goes to help at the racecourse. They help rebuild the fences between the races. DS is going up there as well.

Today is my Dad's birthday. 81 years old and going strong., Just spoke to him on Skype.
Biggest rang him on the house phone while we were on skype so we were having a three way conversation!. Technology hey!.
DGD is watching "a Monster in Paris" on my Kindle. It took some downloading, but she is happy singing along with the songs and even giving a bit of a dance display with it.
There is a school disco next week, she will love that one.
There is also a Pjamas day at the end of the week. not sure if we have to send them in there PJamas. I hope not, hers are rather past thier sell by date. Getting a bit short in the leg, or somehow miss matched! We dont normally worry as long as they are clean. But to go to school. Eek.
I have just been plodding along with the washing for Twin1 today. I have finished washing and the last load is drying. Hate to think what I am doing to the electric bill,. Luckily i was in credit last time we looked. But at least I will know that she has clean clothes and bedding after all of this.
Tomorrow I have to go to twin2's for the phone call back from the DWP about her income/expenditure. I hope that we can reduce the amount that they are clawing back. Every £ we can claw back ourselves will help towards the problems.
The social worker is due to ring me back to arrange a meeting with Housing and see if we can find her somewhere else to live. Fingers crossed that something happens soon.
God willing we will be able to find something a bit safer anyway. Even a flat near her sisters would be better then the house. At least with the flats there are locked entries and buzzers to slow down the callers.
Its a very cold and dark day here. Which adds to the depression feelings. So I am really struggling to keep on the up beat, but its got to be done. Roll on the summer. I hope that we will have a better one this year.
Currently there is not enough finances in the pot to pay for a holiday. If I am not frugal enough then we will not manage to get one. Having DS home will add to the overall bills. It will also put up my fuel bill., THats where I have already seen a huge difference, having to go and check up on Twin1 etc, and take DS to and from the little bits of work that he gets, and the blacksmithing. Luckily my Dad was able to help this week with one of the trips for me.
I will keep looking for ways to get the savings back on track. I think that saving for the slush fund must really come back into the front of my mind more. I should be selling my stuff. Usuing up the left overs, in the food and the fabrics to make ends meet.
My Mum asked me if I had done any sewing this week. Alas with all that has gone on, I havent set up the machines. Perhaps thats what I will do after lunch. Set up the extension leads and get the angle lamps etc sorted out and use them. I know I have one just inside the attic, which could be used until I am able to purchase a more suitable lighting system.

minimoneysaver

Just caught up with your thread Mooloo. It sounds like you are having a horrid time of it recently. I send all my love and best wishes to you. xxx

Savvy_sewing

Well this morning I successfully negotiated with the DWP that th they suspended taking funds owed from twin2 for the next 3 months at least. This will help with £10 a week back in her budget. A bit of breathing space to try and get her back on track.
Then this afternoon I babysat my other granddaughter while Biggest went to work. DGD 2 is not well and has a virus so i am going back tomorrow as well.
DS was brilliant and came to sch. met the teacher and then he collected DGDr for me at the end of the day. She was sitting at the table eating a pasta bake that DS cooked. I was thrilled as I was so tired and didn't have to cook. great stuff.
watched Skyfall with him this evening.

up early tomorrow so better get some rest.
Twin 2 is stopping at twin 1s tonight. Twin 1 has now caught the virus aswell. looks like everything may be a bit difficult for a few days yet. Missing the chance to catch up with my friends.

Savvy_sewing

My posts have been removed by the board so sorry that things that have happened are no longer here. It is I understand an open forum so its been deemed too much information I suppose.
This shows that my relationship and family perils are too be hidden from the story here.
if things are disjointed I am therefore sorry it cannot be helped. I see subsequent posts also have been removed.
I will try to be more discreet I suppose but do feel that covering up this travesty is only bad for the culprits. I understand that my girls are vunerable and therefore need protecting. But I also believe that hiding theses things that happen to real people is not helping the supposed care in the community and is not allowing the faults to be sorted for others who do not have a voice or a challenger as I am.
I hope that this post is suitable enough to stay.

floss2

Mooloo, if you post more on your blog, be careful of what and about whom you say anything