MOOLOO'S Muddling on into 2013

Savvy_sewing

thorsoak wrote: »

I know that you really wanted to know just what went on when Twin 2 had the police visit Mooloo - but really, you should not have gone:( You've told her that you're washing your hands of her - but then when she's asked for help, you've gone running

I do hope that you reiterated that you cannot expect your help whilst she continues to consider the other family as her "friends".

It's hard, I do appreciate that

I went as the police requested me as a reponsible or is it appropriate adult. Not really because twin2 wanted me. Yes she has been told that I am not helping her while with her friends.
The carers will help her if she engages with them, but there is nothing they can do if she doesnt.

thorsoak

Mooloo wrote: »

I went as the police requested me as a reponsible or is it appropriate adult. Not really because twin2 wanted me. Yes she has been told that I am not helping her while with her friends.
The carers will help her if she engages with them, but there is nothing they can do if she doesnt.

That puts a different complexion on it - and I do understand what you say about the carers not being able to connect with her if she doesn't wish it ....she may need it, but she just doesn't want it (to be them, I suppose!)

Savvy_Sue

Mooloo wrote: »

I went as the police requested me as a reponsible or is it appropriate adult.

It's an appropriate adult she needs, good to hear that the police are aware of this and are acting on it.

Savvy_sewing

The social services are on my back again.
Ready to get a solicitor if necessary. I am sick of being harrassed over my decisions. The upside is that the Junior worker put in a queiry about my Guardianship and now they are crawling all over me again. I am going to fight them all the way to the top this time. Its against all my principles to argue with them normally, but on this occasion they a r e pushing the wrong buttons. Yesterday as I was out they tried to question my son about the set up. Apparantly they are ringing me back again today at 11. War.

The car has had a service and the fuel line is cracked and the front brakes need replacing. Costly. The bill is over £300 before the fuel line has been costed. I am worried for my finances now and really am not sure that I can afford a car anymore. I really need to find a more reliable way of earning an income then being on the bottom of the heap on benefits.
I am already panicked about the termination of the guardianship funding next April. There are legal battles going on with other cases across the country, I want to see if anyone has managed to get funding for more than two years. It appears this new 2005 ruling is to benefit the Councils and not the carers.
Right. Time to get on.

silvercar

I am already panicked about the termination of the guardianship funding next April. There are legal battles going on with other cases across the country, I want to see if anyone has managed to get funding for more than two years. It appears this new 2005 ruling is to benefit the Councils and not the carers.

(Sorry if I am questioning something that you answered way back.)

Surely as the now official "parent" you should be entitled to everything a parent would get eg child benefit, working tax credits (I assume you are self employed and working long hours on your sewing), child tax credits etc

Savvy_sewing

silvercar wrote: »

(Sorry if I am questioning something that you answered way back.)

Surely as the now official "parent" you should be entitled to everything a parent would get eg child benefit, working tax credits (I assume you are self employed and working long hours on your sewing), child tax credits etc

I am now entitled to the benfits of a single parent, and can get those benefits, originally I couldnt.
I was allocated funding to keep the extra costs of having to have had to have DGD but no I am not working at the moment.
I am trying to turn my hobby of sewing into a small business, but at the moment, with intermitant sales of less then £30 a month, its not a viable business. I am continuing to sew when I can, which is a few hours here and there, but I continue to wish and hope that it can be more and more. It depends of the demands of life I suppose at the moment. Dropping everything, etc but also to the confines of my disabilites. My left arm is not good, and although I have started to build up on my stamina etc, and am now walking better etc, I am still not fit enough to do a full time job. I so wish, and hope that this will change as I come off of the tablets, and continue to push the boundaries. however at nearly 52 and out of work for the last 5 years, its highly unlikely that I will be taken on, with the family history that I have. So trying to work for myself seems to be the only option that I have. But selling the things I make is currently very hit and miss.
I stay optimistic that the work that I have done in the past, will eventually show through, and that my things will sell, but in this economic climate, its not going to be an overnight wonder is it.
Lets face it the things I make are classed as a luxury item, not a necessity.
I continue to look at the job market, and see if there is a way back to other work, but its not exactly bouyant here.
When the allowance finishes, then we will be £120 a week worse off, and thats a lot. It is the difference of cars and fuel, and the cost of everything else that has gone up in the past few months etc.
Yes I am lucky, I am better off then some on benefits at the moment, but no I am not lucky that i have had to be on the bottom of the rung, instead of the Manager of a Shop as I was before all this happened.
I was in a good job. I lost it through the stresses and strains and the court cases and the social intervention, and the mothers needs etc etc.
so basically trying to keep things as good as I can for the family has taken over from the needs and wants of my love life, my career, and my homes.
But you are probably right to remind me that there are plenty on here, and out there who are that £120 a week worse off then me already. So I am lucky I have that for now.

On another note the car bill came in at £370 in the end.
so the car has cost me, £620 over the last 3 weeks. not counting the fuel at another £160. needless to say thats not going to be balancing the budget, and thats had to go on the credit card, so I have until the 16th of April to find that to clear the bill.

So, onwards and upwards hey!
Things can only get better, (but tell that to the Social workers who are ringing me all the time, and harrassing me over my decisions to let DGD stop with her mum a few weeks ago!).

I am off, I am not in a very good mood, and I am tired and stressed. I may not be coming across as the usual Moo at all. Cos I dont feel like her either!

minimoneysaver

Did you have to get permission from the social workers prior to letting your grand-daughter go and stay at her mother's house?

I suppose from their point of view, your DGD was in danger of not thrieving and possibly being in danger(?) if she remained with her mother. The social worker made the decision to place her with you, rather than in to the foster care system and then...in their eyes, you have given your DGD back to your daughter.

I'm not trying to upset you, but to try to see things from their point of view.

gizmo111

The social services are on my back again.
Ready to get a solicitor if necessary. I am sick of being harrassed over my decisions. The upside is that the Junior worker put in a queiry about my Guardianship and now they are crawling all over me again. I am going to fight them all the way to the top this time. Its against all my principles to argue with them normally, but on this occasion they a r e pushing the wrong buttons. Yesterday as I was out they tried to question my son about the set up. Apparantly they are ringing me back again today at 11.

Is this because DGD has been staying with her mum in an unsuitable environment?

minimoneysaver wrote: »

Did you have to get permission from the social workers prior to letting your grand-daughter go and stay at her mother's house?

I suppose from their point of view, your DGD was in danger of not thrieving and possibly being in danger(?) if she remained with her mother. The social worker made the decision to place her with you, rather than in to the foster care system and then...in their eyes, you have given your DGD back to your daughter.

I'm not trying to upset you, but to try to see things from their point of view.

Shes not been given back just had unsupervised contact at mums house - which although Mooloo has full PR would not be considered a good move in terms of safeguarding.

minimoneysaver

Sorry, I didn't literally mean that DGD has been given back, I just meant is that what the social workers percieved has been going on?

minimoneysaver

Would a better solution be to let your DGD's mum come and stay for the odd night to keep up their relationship, but ensure that DGD is safe?