grandparents finding grandchildren difficult

ognum

Gra76 wrote: »

When we're younger and have our own kids we still have plenty of health (hopefully) and plenty of stamina to deal with the energy they have. I think as you grow older and health starts to go a bit and the energy levels wain I think that's one of the main reasons Grandparents struggle to cope.

Well, it is for my mum (dodgy knee these days) and MIL (dodgy everything) at any rate!

True for many but frequently it is grandparents that do have the stamina and parents who are just plain worn out.

Mado

maman wrote: »

I can't agree with that bit. I've always expected a higher standard of behaviour when out of the home. Isn't that what we do even as adults?


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Ithink there are 2 elements there; away from home, they can be bored and asked to sit down with nothing they fancy doing for what appears to them very long time (it depends on the age of course).
But also, children learn very quickly that you behave differently at home and in front of other people; for example, if I need to tell them off big time and we have visitors or we are in a restaurant, I will wait until they've gone, as it really can make everyone uncomfortable.

Dunroamin

I'm going to stick my head over the parapet and say that I do think that many young children are allowed to behave much worse than they used to be. (Not all, obviously.)

seven-day-weekend

Dunroamin wrote: »

I'm going to stick my head over the parapet and say that I do think that many young children are allowed to behave much worse than they used to be. (Not all, obviously.)

So do I. Restaurants and Supermarket aisles have become racetracks and children are not expected to give their seats to adults on public transport. Also, imho, there is too much 'negotiation' and not enough leadership from the parents. The parents expect to be their children s' friends instead of their parents.

POPPYOSCAR

My grandchildren are little angels:A;)

seven-day-weekend

These car stickers you see that say 'cheeky monkey on board' - I always interpret that to mean 'badly behaved and undisciplined little scroat in the back seat'.

Mado

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

s and children are not expected to give their seats to adults on public transport.

And why on Earth should they?????
I used to let my children sit in public transport whislt standing myself, as they did get tired after a day out and/ or would be less capable of standing still.
My teenagers would no longer be given preferential treatment, but I would still let my 10 yo sit down if we've had a busy day or had to do a lt of standing already.
Adults can stand perfectly well. I would expect them to give up a seat for an elderly person or a clearly pregnant one or someone with young children, but no more.

Dunroamin

Mado wrote: »

And why on Earth should they?????
I used to let my children sit in public transport whislt standing myself, as they did get tired after a day out and/ or would be less capable of standing still.
My teenagers would no longer be given preferential treatment, but I would still let my 10 yo sit down if we've had a busy day or had to do a lt of standing already.
Adults can stand perfectly well. O would expect them to give up a seat for an elderly person or a clearly pregnant ne, but no more.

I'm afraid that, to me, that just says it all.

ariba10

Apart from Grandchildren we have three Greatgrandchildren and are over the moon when they visit.

It is like a bomb site after they leave but it does not take long to clear up.

Have not seen them for 3/4 days, and miss them.

seven-day-weekend

Mado wrote: »

And why on Earth should they?????
I used to let my children sit in public transport whislt standing myself, as they did get tired after a day out and/ or would be less capable of standing still.
My teenagers would no longer be given preferential treatment, but I would still let my 10 yo sit down if we've had a busy day or had to do a lt of standing already.
Adults can stand perfectly well. I would expect them to give up a seat for an elderly person or a clearly pregnant one or someone with young children, but no more.

Small children can sit on your lap so an adult can sit down. Older ones, imho, should give their seat up for an adult. It is a sign of respect.

However, many people won't even move their shopping so that someone can sit down, so they are not going to let little Johnnie stand, are they?