Seeing a relative after they have passed away (LONG)

chookwoose

thinking of you both today,janiebaby29 & bloomin freezing

xx

bloomin_freezing

thanks again to everyone.

We have not long been home from grandads funeral. he would've loved today, there was great turn out and the bagpiper was just the cherry on top of the icing.

it was as perfect as it could've been. i hope he was watching us.

x

janiebaby29

funeral went well , there was over 200 people there , and yet my dad did'nt think he was a popular man .
i still feel a bit numb from it all though

bloomin_freezing

janiebaby29 wrote: »

funeral went well , there was over 200 people there , and yet my dad did'nt think he was a popular man .
i still feel a bit numb from it all though

Grandads too, it was quite beautiful actully. Perfect.

We had a bagpiper (grandad was scottish) and he was wonderful, gave everyone goosebumps. Grandad would've been tapping his toes to it! There was also a poem written about the tiny scottish village where he was born (literally only a couple of hundred residents if that), that unfortunately no body could read out as a few verses were about taking last breath, and how my body would come back to the village and the sea...anyhow thursday morning I found by some fluke that some guy recorded it as a folk song yonks back, and by chance a music shop in inverness had a copy so i got it couriered down for the following morning so we could play it at the funeral.

it was all so perfect and personal to him.

gertie

My father died suddenly, in fact I had only just journied back home when I received the knock on the door from a policewoman. Journying back home, my mother was not there, so I went to the police station, only to be taken to the hospital (not realising what I was about to have to do). On arrival I was taken to the mortuary, I had to identify my dad.

To cut a long story short, afterwards I was glad I did it, it was a honour and it was not frightening.
Later my young son wanted to see his grandad and so I took him and I am glad I did.

Remember the dead can not hurt you, it is the living you have to sometimes watch out for.

Whatever you decide to do, is the right thing.

Good luck
I am so sorry for your loss but in time you will remember the good and happy times and treasure them.

regards
gertie

hilstep2000

First of all, please let me say how sorry I am to hear of your loss.

My Grandma died of lung cancer. I saw her an hour after she died, before she was takento the funeral parlour. She looked awful, chin on her chest and all sunken in. Three days later, I went to see her in the Chapel of Rest. My aunt had done her hair, her teeth were in and the undertakers had filled her face out. She was my Grandma again. I'm so glad I went, or else I'd have had a horrible picture of her in my mind.
I also went to see a neighbours daughter who had had a car crash and died. They had the coffin at home though. It wasn't nice, I expected her to sit up any minute, but at least it gave her monther comfort.
This is a very personal thing, but I'm glad I did it now.
Hope you can get some comfort from other posts.