Should I tell her?

dibuzz

Its like getting to the end of a really good book only to find out the last page is missing!

Purleygirl

I would tell her but not in a serious way, tell her assuming that it's all perfectly innocent when you next see her. Don't make a special trip to see her. "I saw a guy, the image of John at the blah blah hotel last week when I was at a meeting, I could have sworn it was him". Now that way, you're opening a dialogue. If she questions you, you tell what you saw, the ball is in her court. Then leave it.

Peater

Purleygirl wrote: »

I would tell her but not in a serious way, tell her assuming that it's all perfectly innocent when you next see her. Don't make a special trip to see her. "I saw a guy, the image of John at the blah blah hotel last week when I was at a meeting, I could have sworn it was him". Now that way, you're opening a dialogue. If she questions you, you tell what you saw, the ball is in her court. Then leave it.

Games, games, games. What is it with 'wimin'?

You've either got to pretend you didn't see anything or go full bore and be prepared for the repercussions. Be that of an emotional crutch or getting screamed at and being ex-communicated.

LandyAndy

The OP's probably had other things to distract her

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Purleygirl

Peater wrote: »

Games, games, games. What is it with 'wimin'?

You've either got to pretend you didn't see anything or go full bore and be prepared for the repercussions. Be that of an emotional crutch or getting screamed at and being ex-communicated.

Hardly games, after could she be 100 percent sure it was him, could she be 100 percent sure it wasn't innocent, unless that's the case then she puts it out there. She has to assume the husband is innocent until proved guilty. A mere mention that she thought it was him will suffice. Then leave it, it's the wife's job to do what she will with the information.

Johnny_Barnes10

If it was that good a friend why not just;

A) go see if it WAS him
if so call her friend asap

??

tenke

Ok everyone, at the count of three :T
UPDATE, UPDATE, UPDATE !!! :D :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Lucy_Lastic

I reckon she's gone to Oz and left us hanging. How rude!

Johnny_Barnes10

Bump!!!

aileth

She could've opened a whole can of worms. Told her friend, and then friend says, "Oh I know. We've very sexually open-minded and swap partners. It's my turn this week!" Maybe she's still recovering from the shock!