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Should I tell her?

A good friend of mine got married earlier this year. Everything has been going well (as far as I'm aware) but I saw something yesterday that confused me and I'm really not sure what to do about it.

I was attending a work-related conference at a local hotel. I'd arrived quite early so I was waiting for my colleagues in the bar next to the reception area. After a few minutes, I looked up from my phone to see my friend's husband checking in with another woman. I found this a bit weird as I'd spoken to my friend about an hour earlier and she said he was out playing golf with his dad.

I'm wondering if I should mention this to my friend. Admittedly, I could have got the wrong end of the stick but this woman definitely wasn't his dad and there wasn't a golf club in sight!

Maybe I'm just over-reacting but I want to do the right thing here. I know it's not really any of my business but I don't want my friend to find out I saw him with someone else and just didn't tell her. I don't think he noticed me but you never know! I also obviously don't want her to get hurt (although I suspect it might be too late for that...). :o

Can anyone offer some advice?
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  • balletshoes
    balletshoes Posts: 16,610 Forumite
    what did you actually see your friends husband doing? Not what you assume, but what did you actually see?
  • danlojo
    danlojo Posts: 564 Forumite
    I would mention that you saw him at the hotel and ask if he had a good time and watch for him squirming.
    Life is a rollercoaster.....ya just gotta ride it:whistle:
  • Laura-
    Laura- Posts: 17 Forumite
    I saw him getting a room key with another woman. They then wandered off down a corridor together. He had his arm around her.
  • ask her to join you for a drink in this 'local' hotel.
  • balletshoes
    balletshoes Posts: 16,610 Forumite
    Laura- wrote: »
    I saw him getting a room key with another woman. They then wandered off down a corridor together. He had his arm around her.

    does he have a sister? (I'm asking because it sounds suspicious as hell to me, but I'm trying to suss out the possible excuses).
  • Laura-
    Laura- Posts: 17 Forumite
    He does have a sister but I know what she looks like and it definitely wasn't her!
  • Hasbeen
    Hasbeen Posts: 4,404 Forumite
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    Forget all about it, if you tell her, after all repercussions etc she will never talk to you again!:(

    Never be the bearer off bad news!
    The world is not ruined by the wickedness of the wicked, but by the weakness of the good. Napoleon
  • Why would he get a hotel room with his sister (that would be weird) and why would he have his arm around her (that is also weird)

    I would mention to your friend that you seen her hubby in a hotel with another woman and let her take it from there. It's up to her then whether she checks it out or not and then you haven't betrayed her when she finds out (she will either way one day)

    Steph xx
  • Are you certain it was him? If so, I'd suggest doing what danlojo said and mention to him that you saw him at the hotel and enquire if he had a good time. See how he reacts. Be very careful getting involved in a friends relationship unless you're absolutely certain and prepared as unfortunately, it's often the friend that get's the boot, not the partner.
  • Bogof_Babe
    Bogof_Babe Posts: 10,803 Forumite
    If I was the wife, I'd want to know. And I wouldn't be angry with the friend who told me.
    :D I haven't bogged off yet, and I ain't no babe :D

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