Should I tell her?

thorsoak

And if you tell your friend that you've seen her beloved husband of less than a year with another woman when she thinks he's playing golf - just who do you think she'll believe when he denies it????

Say nothing - just be there for her when she needs you - and don't say anything then!

Laura-

I definitely don't want to tell her what she should or shouldn't do. That's completely her decision.

I also want to be careful of accusing him of anything. I will simply just tell her what I saw. If it's completely innocent then he will have no problem explaining it all to her.

gozaimasu

Imagine you saw him down the supermarket, and you were at the till so you didn't speak to each other, and he didn't notice you.

Would you tell her that you saw him?

If the answer is yes, then your answer should be the same regardless of where you saw him.

You could simply say "oh, I saw John at Hotel X yesterday" or "Guess who I saw yesterday?" and then let her lead with the questions.

cte1111

Is it just me that think's this is a WUM? Just such a stereotypical problem page scenario.

Person_one

thorsoak wrote: »

And if you tell your friend that you've seen her beloved husband of less than a year with another woman when she thinks he's playing golf - just who do you think she'll believe when he denies it????

Say nothing - just be there for her when she needs you - and don't say anything then!

It would be so selfish to keep her in the dark about something this important just because she might get a bit upset with you.

onlyroz

I would approach him before I approached her, to give him an opportunity to explain.

Laura-

cte1111 wrote: »

Is it just me that think's this is a WUM? Just such a stereotypical problem page scenario.

I wasn't too sure what a 'WUM' is so I had to Google it(!) but I can assure you this is true. Why would I make it up?! :cool:

meritaten

up to you Laura - but please be prepared to get a different reaction to the one you expect.

cte1111

Laura- wrote: »

I wasn't too sure what a 'WUM' is so I had to Google it(!) but I can assure you this is true. Why would I make it up?! :cool:

Why would you ask thousands of strangers on an internet forum?

Laura-

cte1111 wrote: »

Why would you ask thousands of strangers on an internet forum?

Because that's the point of a forum...