A bit of a difficult one...

NatalieH80

I'm sorry it's taken me a while to update you. It's been a very busy day so far.

Unfortunately, my cousin is now deciding to tell people (her father included) that it was my husband who tried to sleep with her. She's also saying that I'm just trying to protect him by lying about it. Why would I?! It would be the last thing I'd be doing!

Sadly for her, it's a bit late for her to be coming out with this version of events (24 hours later!) and her father gave her a bit of a dressing down in the middle of the street at 1am.

I really just want it all to be over.

poppy10_2

NatalieH80 wrote: »

Unfortunately, my cousin is now deciding to tell people (her father included) that it was my husband who tried to sleep with her. She's also saying that I'm just trying to protect him by lying about it.

Upsetting but not surprising. She has to try and protect herself from the embarassment, it's natural that she would claim it was your husband who came on to her.
Imagine if he hadn't told you about it and had just tried to brush it off. If she came out with this accusation today you might find yourself having doubts about him. He did the right thing.

j.e.j.

She's 'lost face' and feels stupid, and being a bit immature has decided to dig herself an even bigger hole by telling lies.

I only hope it can be nipped in the bud before the lies escalate. I'm thinking back to Hermia's post:

Hermia wrote: »

Whatever you do don't leave her on her own with him again just in case she misreads the situation or wants to get back at him and cries rape. I remember a girl at my school whose advances were turned down by a male teacher and she cried rape. She wasn't a horrible girl, I think she just needed an outlet for her embarrassment and anger.

I expect your cousin will be cringing about this in 20 years time!

victory

NatalieH80 wrote: »

I'm sorry it's taken me a while to update you. It's been a very busy day so far.

Unfortunately, my cousin is now deciding to tell people (her father included) that it was my husband who tried to sleep with her. She's also saying that I'm just trying to protect him by lying about it. Why would I?! It would be the last thing I'd be doing!

Sadly for her, it's a bit late for her to be coming out with this version of events (24 hours later!) and her father gave her a bit of a dressing down in the middle of the street at 1am.

I really just want it all to be over.

I am not surprised now she has lost face and looks foolish she will say anything to cover up what she tried to do, I hope her father and everyone else realises she is just spouting rubbish and she needs to be dressed down that is for sure, things like this can get out of hand, they really need to be stopped immediately

aileth

NatalieH80 wrote: »

Unfortunately, my cousin is now deciding to tell people (her father included) that it was my husband who tried to sleep with her. She's also saying that I'm just trying to protect him by lying about it. Why would I?! It would be the last thing I'd be doing!

Shame you aren't as impulsive as me and didn't give her some help out of an open window. What a daft mare.

SuzieSue

NatalieH80 wrote: »

I'm sorry it's taken me a while to update you. It's been a very busy day so far.

Unfortunately, my cousin is now deciding to tell people (her father included) that it was my husband who tried to sleep with her. She's also saying that I'm just trying to protect him by lying about it. Why would I?! It would be the last thing I'd be doing!

Sadly for her, it's a bit late for her to be coming out with this version of events (24 hours later!) and her father gave her a bit of a dressing down in the middle of the street at 1am.

I really just want it all to be over.

Oh dear, you poor thing. All you were doing was helping your cousin and this is how she repays your hospitality. What a stupid, immature girl.

I agree with an earlier poster who said that young people have grown up watching these sorts of things on soaps and they think it is normal behaviour.

NatalieH80

Well, she has apologised this afternoon. Her dad called to let us know she had admitted everything to him, which I was quite surprised about to be honest! He said she's feeling too embarrassed to talk to me herself but he went on to explain that she's the only one in her group of friends who either doesn't have a boyfriend or hasn't had sex yet. She just feels a bit left out and wanted to have something in common with the people she hangs around with.

In all honestly, I wasn't really sure what to say in response but I'm thankful she's admitted the truth.

My husband is still feeling really uncomfortable about it though (understandably). I feel as though it's all my fault for inviting her into our own home. I just wish I could try to cheer him up a bit!

Thank you once again for all your help.

SuzieSue

NatalieH80 wrote: »

I feel as though it's all my fault for inviting her into owner home. I just wish I could try to cheer him up a bit!

Thank you once again for all your help.

None of this is your fault, but with hindsight, you shouldn't have ignored the flirting and perhaps you should have asked her to leave as soon as she started doing that. However, of course, it you had, then you would have been the nasty jealous cousin so you were in a very difficult position.

NatalieH80

I know I should have done something about the flirting but I never expected her to take it to the next level! You're right though, it was an awkward position.

NotSuchASmugMarriedNow

All things considered, it's not a bad way for this to end. It could have been a lot worse.

You've done nothing wrong.