A bit of a difficult one...

NatalieH80

I haven't even told my husband yet. I went in the bedroom to find him fast asleep with our daughter and they look too cute to wake up!

babysonia

Im very proud of your husband for calling you and letting you know straight away. The same thing happened to a friend of my mine the girl was 19 and her husband did not tell her and then the girl claimed they had slept together. My friend would have belived the girl as she was her younger cousin but her husband had her brother as an alibli because he went out to his house told him the situation and stayed there the night.

Just wait till she gets picked up and give your husband a cuddle for being honest and hopefully move on from this ordeal.

If i was you i would give your cousin a call and tell her that she needs to stand up and talk to the girl. She is a mother after all.

poppy10_2

babysonia wrote: »

Just wait till she gets picked up and give your husband a cuddle for being honest.

Hubby deserves a bit more than that.

**Patty**

PinkPrincessDD1 wrote: »

Despite what she tried she's still her family and evidently and troubled and vulnerable girl.

Diagnosis via Internet?

That's one helluva crystal ball.:D

Family she may be........Respectful of that she ain't.

NatalieH80

poppy10 wrote: »

Hubby deserves a bit more than that.

Maybe a little kiss too.

VfM4meplse

NatalieH80 wrote: »

Maybe a little kiss too.

Don't go mad, now...!

Dunroamin

PinkPrincessDD1 wrote: »

Despite what she tried she's still her family and evidently and troubled and vulnerable girl.

Not very close family and randy rather than troubled!

VickyV

I think I'd be loading her into the car and driving her to the station about now and of course giving her a big hug and telling her that you love her but no tenough to let her try ruin your marriage! She sounds like she may not be in a great place emotionally so you may have to accept that she's not being deliberately malicious BUT she could end up causing problems for you both if she stays - especially, as someone said before about crying rape to save face or out of spite.

At 17 I knew exactly what I was doing and didn't really care who I hurt in the process and I doubt she's any different. In all likelihood she's probably jealous of you and the life/family/situation you have and wanted it for herself.

enough rambling, to sum it up, don't be too harsh but don't stand for it!

Good luck!
xx

Edit: I'm glad her dad's taking responsibility. I bet he's gutted about what happened! Families, eh?
x

thorsoak

It sounds to me as if her mother has let her have her own way too often and has shielded her from the results of her actions - glad her father is on his way to pick her up

My opinion is that you should write her a letter, telling her exactly where her actions could have lead had your OH not been a decent sort - she could have found herself pregnant, she could have caused the breakup of your family - yours and OH - not to mention the extended family once they got to know about it!

Write - so that she can see in black and white - what could hae resulted from her desire to make her "first time special" ........and if you believe that, I'm Mother Christmas! She just fancied getting into your OH's pants!

VfM4meplse

thorsoak wrote: »

My opinion is that you should write her a letter, telling her exactly where her actions could have lead had your OH not been a decent sort

I wouldn't bother - in years to come she'll look back on this episode and cringe. That, and whatever immediate action her father sees fit will be punishment enough.