Grandparents looking after grandchildren

Dumbe

Anyway I can see most seem to disagree ..

And I respect your thoughts .knowing the gps are Ill changes things a lot for me given the distance..

Not sure what I would do if it were my child .. Not what my sil would do as she has 4 who stay with gps ..

I do think family are preferable to strangers maybe that's old fashioned but family love and care f each other a stranger is doing it because they are paid to .. A big difference to me...

Maybe I would I would move nearer the gps ... To enable child care but I honestly don't know...

Definelty drop off and collect myself ..

notanewuser

Dumbe wrote: »

You said 45 mins to 60 mins each not 1an hour and half aplologies i din't realise the time was to multipled i.e not linear ..But the knee and back issues changes things unless the parents can dropp off or collect .. As its may be too much driving ..with bad knees

Perhaps parents could do the dropping off and picking up so it could work out .. Shame if the children missed out on gp and time with their cousins time ..because of location.

I said 45 minutes from the GPs in the middle in different directions.

Parents dropping off doesn't ease the wake up times. To be at work by am all children would have to leave home at 6:30am (45-60 min drive to GPs, 60-90 min drive back to work) and I'm guessing it takes at least an hour to get 2 children and 1 adult up, washed and dressed.

2 journeys involve the M1 at rush hour, hence the need to allow plenty of time.

notanewuser

barbiedoll wrote: »

MIL has sleep apnoea? Let's hope she's not driving! :eek::eek:

No, MIL doesn't do motorways!

notanewuser

Dumbe wrote: »

Anyway I can see most seem to disagree ..

And I respect your thoughts .knowing the gps are Ill changes things a lot for me given the distance..

Not sure what I would do if it were my child .. Not what my sil would do as she has 4 who stay with gps ..

I do think family are preferable to strangers maybe that's old fashioned but family love and care f each other a stranger is doing it because they are paid to .. A big difference to me...

Maybe I would I would move nearer the gps ... To enable child care but I honestly don't know...

Definelty drop off and collect myself ..

But unless here are twins/triplets, 4 children from same family won't have a 2-3 month gap between them.

Dumbe

notanewuser wrote: »

But unless here are twins/triplets, 4 children from same family won't have a 2-3 month gap between them.

No you are right they are

7 months

2 years

About 2 years 10 months

And 11

Plus sils friends 2 ( so 6 total)

About 8 months and about 2ish years who are there 2or 3 days a week..

Dumbe

notanewuser wrote: »

I said 45 minutes from the GPs in the middle in different directions.

Parents dropping off doesn't ease the wake up times. To be at work by am all children would have to leave home at 6:30am (45-60 min drive to GPs, 60-90 min drive back to work) and I'm guessing it takes at least an hour to get 2 children and 1 adult up, washed and dressed.

2 journeys involve the M1 at rush hour, hence the need to allow plenty of time.

I agree parents dropping off lengthens the getting up and getting home times rather then eases it for the parents

But I thought it would help the gps who you said had bad knees and back issues.

It was just a suggestion that might have helped .. Meaning the parent got to know their child was safe with family and the gps didn't have to drive with bad knees.

The trade off being more driving for 3 sets of parents..

notanewuser

Dumbe wrote: »

I agree parents dropping off lengthens the getting up and getting home times rather then eases it for the parents

But I thought it would help the gps who you said had bad knees and back issues.

It was just a suggestion that might have helped .. Meaning the parent got to know their child was safe with family and the gps didn't have to drive with bad knees.

The trade off being more driving for 3 sets of parents..

Your definition of "safe" differs from mine.

Dumbe

notanewuser wrote: »

Your definition of "safe" differs from mine.

Not sure what you mean ,..but no where before have you said the gps were unfit to be arround children for any reason.. So I had assumed they were good loving grandparents ( particularly given you seem to have a relationship with them and let them see you daughter.. An assumption base don your comment that you fil thought you daughter was a genius)

If you have concerns that anything illegal may be happening such as abuse please please report it .. But nothing you said implied tht before..

And provided the gps take the same care of their grandchildren as presumably they did their children hence why they are happy to leave their own children with them .. I do think every time someone who is caring for you child for love not monetary gain is better and worth so e inconvenience..

Surely they will get better care with their gps then a stranger who is an employee of a nursery , could leave at any time and care nothing for youR child just does their job and goes home?

I personally would happily leave at 6 to do the trip and reaper in the vending doing 4 plus to know my child was getting the best then sending them to a stranger to be scared for minamilly for financial gain.. But each to their own..

notanewuser

Dumbe wrote: »

Not sure what you mean ,..but no where before have you said the gps were unfit to be arround children for any reason.. So I had assumed they were good loving grandparents ( particularly given you seem to have a relationship with them and let them see you daughter.. An assumption base don your comment that you fil thought you daughter was a genius)

If you have concerns that anything illegal may be happening such as abuse please please report it .. But nothing you said implied tht before..

And provided the gps take the same care of their grandchildren as presumably they did their children hence why they are happy to leave their own children with them .. I do think every time someone who is caring for you child for love not monetary gain is better and worth so e inconvenience..

Surely they will get better care with their gps then a stranger who is an employee of a nursery , could leave at any time and care nothing for youR child just does their job and goes home?

I personally would happily leave at 6 to do the trip and reaper in the vending doing 4 plus to know my child was getting the best then sending them to a stranger to be scared for minamilly for financial gain.. But each to their own..

I think you do childminders and nursery staff a great disservice.

"You let them see your daughter". They have visited twice since she was born. They see her on Skype maybe once a month if we push them (hence seeing her counting and reading). We've taken her up there probably a 12-15 times for weekends. There is no way I could leave my daughter in the same room as them on her own for more than 5 minutes because they are practically strangers to her (not for the want of us trying).

My extremely fit and healthy parents have my daughter for 2 afternoons a week and take her out for trips/to playgroups/the park every time. They read and oaint and colour and play shops and catch and sing and dance and play horses and god knows what else. They find that exhausting. My daughter benefits greatly though and I have no issues leaving her with them (although I always want it to be a joy for all of them so don't really want them having her more/for longer). She is not just plonked in front of cbeebies in one room with a few old toys within reach as her cousins are. How much time will the GPs have to play with the toddlers with 3 small babies to feed/change etc?

notanewuser

Dumbe wrote: »

I personally would happily leave at 6 to do the trip and reaper in the vending doing 4 plus to know my child was getting the best then sending them to a stranger to be scared for minamilly for financial gain.. But each to their own..

This para is not in English. What were you actually trying to say?