Grandparents looking after grandchildren

Sambucus_Nigra

Dumbe wrote: »

Sorry but other then the distance which may be an issue .. And the parents may miss out on 1/2 a week an hour or so of time with child ..
Based on go leaving home an hour or so before parents reach home and child arriving home at same time as parent for half week slightly later for half the week..

Hello - did you even read the thread?

Or have you got a tardis?

Dumbe

notanewuser wrote: »

Read the timings I've just set out.

You think the kids will benefit from grandparents driven to an early grave by this exhaustive timetable? Spending 30 mins max a day with their parents?

I'd rather my daughter be cared for by somebody with enough energy, who wanted to spend time with her for the right reasons, not subjecting her to hours strapped into a car seat and having to be up at 5am!! And that's before the non-socialisation issues.

I was assuming alternating and that the first to be collected would also be the first to be dropped off,

Meaning if the child was collect at 8.30 he or shewould be dropped off at say 6.30 meaning a lot more then 30mins..


Even the first pick up going by the 45 to 60 mins would only need to be collected at 7ish .. No idea why any of the children would need to get up at 5 am ? And not all the kids would be everyday so not a relentless schedule...

They already mind 2 so know the distance


Plus the schedule for two people in their prime at under retirement age is not punishing provided they are fit and healthily and dn't drink or smoke.

My mil takes care of my sil 4 choldrenand she is a lot older (70) plus two others some of the time .. They get home after dropping the kids off and change go out for dinner .. Finish their 5 days of helping their family and go away for the weekend they are always doing things or go for walks or to watch sport etc..

It sounds like the grandparents are doing it because they care deeply and provided they are healthy why be so harsh

It's not for you .. Fair enough but it works for many and many prefer familY to care for family

No reason for it not to work and if the parents are happy and the grandparents what's the problem?

Dumbe

Sambucus_Nigra wrote: »

Hello - did you even read the thread?

Or have you got a tardis?

See my post above regarding my assumptions on timings

I have friends who use local childcare with one parent dropping off and picking up ..

Parent and child out the door at 7ish ( same as earliest pick up) other parent collecting at 5.45 assuming just arround corner from Work getting home at 6 .. In reality prob later ..

Grandparents offering to do the whole pece collect and dropp of meaning they can leave home at 4.30 and have first child home at 5.30 last at 6.30?

similar for the morning ..

And yes I did read the whole thread ...each and every post as I was so surprised that people felt this was a bad idea ..valthough I did think the points re distance were well made and it would be easier if the distances were less..

Also I am assuming the grandparents being so young are fit and healthy ( they are not even at retirement age yet)

notanewuser

Dumbe wrote: »

I was assuming alternating and that the first to be collected would also be the first to be dropped off,

Meaning if the child was collect at 8.30 he or shewould be dropped off at say 6.30 meaning a lot more then 30mins..


Even the first pick up going by the 45 to 60 mins would only need to be collected at 7ish .. No idea why any of the children would need to get up at 5 am ? And not all the kids would be everyday so not a relentless schedule...

They already mind 2 so know the distance


Plus the schedule for two people in their prime at under retirement age is not punishing provided they are fit and healthily and dn't drink or smoke.

My mil takes care of my sil 4 choldrenand she is a lot older (70) plus two others some of the time .. They get home after dropping the kids off and change go out for dinner .. Finish their 5 days of helping their family and go away for the weekend they are always doing things or go for walks or to watch sport etc..

It sounds like the grandparents are doing it because they care deeply and provided they are healthy why be so harsh

It's not for you .. Fair enough but it works for many and many prefer familY to care for family

No reason for it not to work and if the parents are happy and the grandparents what's the problem?

Your assumptions are wrong.

I can try and draw you a diagram.


______________________ C

_________ 20-30m
______________________ 45-60m

B
____________ 45-60m
_________________________ GPs
______________________________________ 45-60m
________________________________________________________ A

So, GPs to A, over to B and then up to C and then back to GPs. That's a minimum of 45+45+45+20+45 = 300 minutes not including time to handover children.

Twice a day.

notanewuser

Dumbe wrote: »

See my post above regarding my assumptions on timings

I have friends who use local childcare with one parent dropping off and picking up ..

Parent and child out the door at 7ish ( same as earliest pick up) other parent collecting at 5.45 assuming just arround corner from Work getting home at 6 .. In reality prob later ..

Grandparents offering to do the whole pece collect and dropp of meaning they can leave home at 4.30 and have first child home at 5.30 last at 6.30?

There's an hour and a half between 2 of the parents.

Please take off your rose tinted specs and read my timing post. You might understand then.

notanewuser

GPs aren't fully healthy. MIL has sleep apnoea and a frozen shoulder. FIL has a cartilage problem in his knees and a bad back.

Dumbe

kettlefish wrote: »

Have you read the OP?! The 3 sets of parents each live around 45 mins from the grandparents, in different directions. That is waaaay more than missing out on "an hour or so of time with the child each week". The grandad is proposing driving the kids around in a minivan for approx 3 hours a day doing pick up and drop offs!

Each to their own if you see no problem with it and would put your children in this situation, but I see grave problems with an elderly couple looking after 5 children from 2.5 years down to 6 months old full time :wall:

Buts it's not 3 hours every day for each child is it .. It would average less ably 1 to 2 hours

If you drop the child collected first off first and not all children will be there all days as one sil wants to work pt and the other is in and out of jobs

And the gps are Not elderly they are not at retirement age. They are only 60and 62 that's not old..

If you don't want it for your child fair enough I don't see a problem providing they are healthy .. And if it gets too much can be reviewed

But it's very kind of the gps and dosn't make them idiots or less capable because they are not 20

Being old does not make someone any less capable .... I don't know the grandparents but numerical age is not agret indicator of fitness , stamina, agiltiy etc.. Diet, lifestlye , family history etc. Are better indicatorsbest plenty of .70 yr olds are fitter then 30year olds!

Dumbe

notanewuser wrote: »

GPs aren't fully healthy. MIL has sleep apnoea and a frozen shoulder. FIL has a cartilage problem in his knees and a bad back.

That does change things

Knees and back might be a big issue driving . Could parents drop kids off and collect them as the level of driving might not be advisable?

Dumbe

notanewuser wrote: »

There's an hour and a half between 2 of the parents.

Please take off your rose tinted specs and read my timing post. You might understand then.

You said 45 mins to 60 mins each not 1an hour and half aplologies i din't realise the time was to multipled i.e not linear ..But the knee and back issues changes things unless the parents can dropp off or collect .. As its may be too much driving ..with bad knees

Perhaps parents could do the dropping off and picking up so it could work out .. Shame if the children missed out on gp and time with their cousins time ..because of location.

barbiedoll

MIL has sleep apnoea? Let's hope she's not driving! :eek::eek: