Would you/ could you adopt?

Archiebear

On the radio today presenters announced that it is National Adoption week, this week

With new changes recently announced to make it a simpler process I was interested as to whether people could/would adopt? If not, why not?

I should add that this is just for my own curiosity!

fannyanna

My Husband and I are struggling to conceive and I sometimes think that it will never happen. To be honest I've never really thought about adoption as I think they would rule us out straight away.

On this basis I've never really thought about whether or not I would want to adopt a child.

On the whole I think that it's a good idea that they are looking to relax the adoption criteria. I appreciate that this is childrens lives that we're talking about and they can't be given to anyone but, from the little that I know about the adoption process it doesn't seem to work.

sk240

My partner and i have been trying to have a baby for 3-4 years now without success, i would go for adoption tomorrow, but there is so much hassle that goes with it because of the social services that i cant currently be bothered!By the time it all goes through the child is already "damaged" by all of the foster carers etc and the child is now 2-3 years old.

Bexm

Not knowing all the ins and outs of the adoption process if we were unable to have children ourselves we would definitely adopt.
That may change if we found they tried to make it really difficult for us.

missprice

I would end up being too old by the time I got through the whole process but I would have loved to adopt
I just never had a big enough home.
I already have grown children btw
would have loved more children when they were growing up and would love to have another now.

Bella-Bubble

Hi

I saw on 'this morning' re adoption and I have to say I cringed! They were advertising those children like puppies to be adopted, definitely didn't like that!

My husband and I have discussed adoption in depth, and its definitely something we wish to do in the future.

We have no fertility problems although I have had bad pregnancies, but we've just both always felt we have something to offer a child - preferably an older child too rather than a baby. We know about the process from friends, and how lengthy, tiresome and emotional it can be.

Only problem being some health issues I have, but who knows what can happen down the line

Bella x

vesper

Yes we have considered it, and started the process off. However our lcc is horrific at coming back to people about it, so we never heard anything back (twice this has happened).
I still would adopt but my situation has changed so I am doubtful they would allow us to.

dogbiscuit_3

Hi.
We adopted our son 11 years ago.
Yes the process CAN be difficult but it's not always long. They do dig into your background and upbringing.
We started the process in the January and were approved in the August. We got our son in the November. He was 9months old.
It is all worth it. I would never say it was too much hassle to get the child we so longed for.
If you can't be bothered then don't do it. You HAVE to be so committed to it. It's not like buying a puppy. You cannot just give away the child if it doesn't work out.
I would not change what we went through for the world and I have never regretted the whole process.

heartbreak_star

I'm child-free by choice and wish to remain so. However, my tuppence is from my old manager at work - her sis and BiL had no fertility problems, but chose to be sterilised and adopt two children instead of having their own. They wanted to help a child who needed it and I think that's amazing.

Bella, it looks like your attitude is the same and I commend you for it

HBS x

milliemonster

A friend of mine is going through the process at the moment and has her hearing next week so I understand a bit of what the process is like now, we have 2 natural children but I would still love to adopt although currently don't have the space, I would probably look at fostering when the kids are older and I have room (they won't allow foster children to share a room with your own).

heretolearn_2

I don't want any more children by any means, thank you :-)