Declining A Wedding Invite

shaz77_2

duchy wrote: »

Why didn't you politely make an excuse and decline ? But hey you never know if you offended them sufficiently maybe they won't invite you to the wedding anyway !

I was and to an extent still am in a bad way, no excuse but my thought process is not good at the moment.

former_student

Angelic wrote: »

Being friendless and single is a tough combo if life takes a turn for the worse.
You've no-one to turn to for the basics which makes you even more isolated and vulnerable.

I know but I have to accept the life I've been given and I just hope there are not too many like me.

Fire_Fox

shaz77 wrote: »

2012 was a pivotal year for me and an extremely bad one, despite being a member of this fine web site for many years, I've realised that the most important things in life are relationships and your health. Ironically this year my health did improve but I also realised that at the end of 2011 I ended a relationship with the best person ever to come into my life.

Over the past few months I've really started to miss this person and it's during this time that I've realised I don't want to be alone but I want to share my life with someone. I guess in some ways learning this was a good thing but it did push me to the brink something I never thought would happen. I guess a family wedding just highlights the fact that for me relationship wise I'm a failure, a very fractious relationship with my family and single and not by choice.

Honestly you are talking like someone with clinical depression. The thing with depression is it makes you overly focussed on what is not right in your life, the mistakes you made in the past, the most negative outcome for a current or future situation seem the most likely. You can lose confidence, can feel alone or isolated, useless or helpless and you DON'T have to be sad or tearful.

Everyone who is single for a year or so at 28 or any point thereafter is not a relationship failure, unless you are going to write off an enormous percentage of the population? Not wanting to be alone is not a reason to be in a relationship. Missing someone a few months after you split up does not make them the love of your life, if they were you either would not have split up with them or you would have felt like you were unable to live without them within days - the intense stages of love are very similar to addiction.

jscott05

Is there no way back for you with your ex. Seem's like you where forced to gave up due to other people at 28 that shouldn't be happening.

newcook

I hate to be blunt Shaz but you need to shake off this 'woe is me' - Im 32 and single and Im sure there are others older than me on here that are single too!
if you want a partner, get yourself out there looking - there's dating sites, singles nights, you could even join a club and meet someone that way!!

if you dont want to go to the wedding then dont go - get away for a couple or days of book a late deal abroad.

being single is not the end of the world (even though sometimes it feels it!)

balletshoes

former_student wrote: »

People need to understand that for many people being single is horrible, I work a lot of the time and I don't know what to do with my time off as I'm friendless and single, it's a horrible life at times and a wedding only highlights this.

thats a shame, and must be very lonely - but theres a big difference between single, and single and friendless.

Sambucus_Nigra

If the invite comes to your family, and you don't see it - how do you know you are invited?

If your parents tell you that you have been invited, then ask when the invite is and say 'I can't go, I'm away that weekend - as I didn't get an invite can you RSVP for me - cheers'.

shaz77_2

jscott05 wrote: »

Is there no way back for you with your ex. Seem's like you where forced to gave up due to other people at 28 that shouldn't be happening.

I wish but it's a year since we broke up and my ex was left very hurt from the breakup.

heartbreak_star

So extend an olive branch. You don't know if you don't try!

HBS x

Ivrytwr3

Where and when is the wedding? 6ft 2" of pure God-like appearance here - i could always be your + 1?



Seriously, it's a social gathering, if i were you i would go and have fun and who knows you may meet another hot guy singleton!