Declining A Wedding Invite

shaz77_2

2012 was a pivotal year for me and an extremely bad one, despite being a member of this fine web site for many years, I've realised that the most important things in life are relationships and your health. Ironically this year my health did improve but I also realised that at the end of 2011 I ended a relationship with the best person ever to come into my life.

Over the past few months I've really started to miss this person and it's during this time that I've realised I don't want to be alone but I want to share my life with someone. I guess in some ways learning this was a good thing but it did push me to the brink something I never thought would happen. I guess a family wedding just highlights the fact that for me relationship wise I'm a failure, a very fractious relationship with my family and single and not by choice.

former_student

People need to understand that for many people being single is horrible, I work a lot of the time and I don't know what to do with my time off as I'm friendless and single, it's a horrible life at times and a wedding only highlights this.

Torry_Quine

former_student wrote: »

People need to understand that for many people being single is horrible, I work a lot of the time and I don't know what to do with my time off as I'm friendless and single, it's a horrible life at times and a wedding only highlights this.

I can remember how awful it can be. I hated holidays as I had nowhere to go or anyone to go with. My days off were spent at home with my parents so you have my sympathy

shaz77_2

Torry_Quine wrote: »

I can remember how awful it can be. I hated holidays as I had nowhere to go or anyone to go with. My days off were spent at home with my parents so you have my sympathy

Did you get through it?

former_student

Torry_Quine wrote: »

I can remember how awful it can be. I hated holidays as I had nowhere to go or anyone to go with. My days off were spent at home with my parents so you have my sympathy

Funny I'm off work in 2 weeks time for a week and I don't know what to do.

Torry_Quine

shaz77 wrote: »

Did you get through it?

Eventually I did. Met a wonderful man at work and have now been married 25 years. I'm still very shy and not very sociable so we rarely go out but at least when we do I have someone to look out for me.

Hopefully in time you will get through this bad period in your life. :A

shaz77_2

Torry_Quine wrote: »

Eventually I did. Met a wonderful man at work and have now been married 25 years. I'm still very shy and not very sociable so we rarely go out but at least when we do I have someone to look out for me.

Hopefully in time you will get through this bad period in your life. :A

I'm glad, to be honest I've never had much luck, don't think it's going to change now.

duchy

Oh for goodness sake you are ONLY 28 !!

Plenty of people don't meet their ultimate life mate until their 30s .

I don't understand why if you don't live at home why your mail would be going to your parents home anyway (unless you mean you think it might be a family invite).

I think it would be the height of discourtesy to tell your cousin not to invite you and likely to cause family upset/drama - Just when the invite comes have an excuse ready like a work training course that has to be on those dates or whatever -as you don't live at home no-one wlil be any the wiser and no-one will be upset. A polite decline and send a present is appropriate -no need to turn it into anything more. You won't be the only person invited to decline.

shaz77_2

duchy wrote: »

Oh for goodness sake you are ONLY 28 !!

Plenty of people don't meet their ultimate life mate until their 30s .

I don't understand why if you don't live at home why your mail would be going to your parents home anyway (unless you mean you think it might be a family invite).

I think it would be the height of discourtesy to tell your cousin not to invite you and likely to cause family upset/drama - Just when the invite comes have an excuse ready like a work training course that has to be on those dates or whatever -as you don't live at home no-one wlil be any the wiser and no-one will be upset. A polite decline and send a present is appropriate -no need to turn it into anything more. You won't be the only person invited to decline.

Yip it's a family invite, the birthday invite came last month to my family - I just didn't show up.

duchy

Why didn't you politely make an excuse and decline ? But hey you never know if you offended them sufficiently maybe they won't invite you to the wedding anyway !