Declining A Wedding Invite

shaz77_2

Hi All,

I'm not sure how to approach this but I've got a bad feeling that I'm going to get an invite to my cousin's wedding which I believe will be in May/June of 2013. The invite will either be me accompanying my parents or I will have the dreaded plus 1. I was thinking of approaching my cousin and asking that I'm not invited, I don't care for weddings and I find them to be an extremely lonely day when you're on your own. I obviously wish my cousin well and I will get him a gift but I would prefer not to be at the event itself.

I'm wondering would such a stance invoke a negative response?

Mojisola

I would wait until an invite comes and then just send a polite reply saying you're unable to attend - you don't need to give a reason.

Send a card and/or a gift and wish them well.

shaz77_2

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Mojisola wrote: »

I would wait until an invite comes and then just send a polite reply saying you're unable to attend - you don't need to give a reason.

Send a card and/or a gift and wish them well.

Sounds like a good idea, however I'm a bit concerned that the invite may not come to me but my parents who will feel the need to respond for me.

NoAngel

I think asking not to be invited when you don't even know for sure that you will be isn't a good idea and as somebody who recently got married, I think I'd be slightly offended if I were your cousin. I would wait to see whether or not you are invited and then decline the invite saying you have already booked a holiday. Your cousin will have no reason to suspect you're not being truthful and that way nobody has their feelings hurt and you don't have to go.

Mojisola

shaz77 wrote: »

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Sounds like a good idea, however I'm a bit concerned that the invite may not come to me but my parents who will feel the need to respond for me.

Have a word with your parents now and ask them not to.

Mrs.W_2

You could accept their invitation to the ceremony - the important bit - but decline the reception. Such parties aren't for everyone, and I'm sure they'll understand.

balletshoes

Mojisola wrote: »

I would wait until an invite comes and then just send a polite reply saying you're unable to attend - you don't need to give a reason.

Send a card and/or a gift and wish them well.

exactly this - no-one sends out wedding invitations with the expectation that every single invitee will be able to attend.

shaz77_2

Mrs.W wrote: »

You could accept their invitation to the ceremony - the important bit - but decline the reception. Such parties aren't for everyone, and I'm sure they'll understand.

I had thought of doing that as a compromise but I just know that with my family it will not go down well; but thanks for the tip.

19lottie82

I don't see why you are stressing yourself out so much OP, if you don't want to go, just make up a polite excuse as to why you can't attend and be done with it.

balletshoes

shaz77 wrote: »

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Sounds like a good idea, however I'm a bit concerned that the invite may not come to me but my parents who will feel the need to respond for me.

why would they do that? do you live at home?

lurvlyloz

shaz77 wrote: »

Hi All,

I was thinking of approaching my cousin and asking that I'm not invited,
I'm wondering would such a stance invoke a negative response?

I got married in June and had someone approached me and asked no to be invited id of been a lot angrier than if they had politely declined due to the being busy/out of the country/not able to get off work.

i would wait for the invite, send a "with regret" card Saying "apoligies i am unable to attend your special day. I hope you have an amazing day & your furture is full of happiness" Wangi n a voucher/send a gift... no feelings hurt.