Declining A Wedding Invite

onlyroz

shaz77 wrote: »

The wedding is all anyone in the family is talking about and I've already practically been told I'm going. I such wish people would realise that for some of us weddings are a horrible and lonely day that simply highlight your own shortfalls.

And boring. Don't forget boring...

Wilma33

A wedding is a great place to meet someone

NoAngel

onlyroz wrote: »

And boring. Don't forget boring...

Only in your opinion

Jinx

Personally, I think a wedding is a terrible place to meet someone. Everyone else tends to be in couples or have a date.

The only wedding I went to single was my brothers as of course all my close family was there.

Id send a regret once the invite was received.

stir_crazy

Personally I would be extremely offended if one of my cousins asked not to be invited to my wedding. You should politely decline the invitation when it arrives.

I get that weddings are probably dull and lonely for single people, however, weddings are supposed to be a joyous occasion for the couple themselves and its only understandable that they want their nearest and dearest with them to celebrate.

melanzana

I think the OP might be more concerned about pressure/negative reactions from parents and family if s/he doesn't attend. Not necessarily because of other issues mentioned, being alone etc., which I do understand.

It's easy for me to say it, sitting here and detesting weddings as a general rule anyway, but oP you NEED to say NO.

It is the smallest word really, isnt it? But often saying it, or even comtemplating having to say it is horrendous for the person concerned.

I love people, but I only attended the weddings of my siblings. All hitched now, so that's good!

As for any other wedding invite, 21st, anniversary etc. I politely decline with a lovely pressie and message.

I am not a party person. It took me a long time to gather up the guts to politely decline invites to things that just are not me. Selfish I guess, but thre you go.

Still great friends with those I declined too. It's the way you say it.

Although at this stage, all my circle know me now, and say things like... Well theres a do for X coming up, I suppose you'll be in yer slippers at home so?

Not on yer Nellie, I'd be away in th sun, or somewhere I honestly get value for my hard earned dosh! The amount spent by guests at other peoples weddings is a riot.

Bah Humbug me, if you like, but there we are. Everyone's happy.

balletshoes

Torry_Quine wrote: »

I do agree that you shouldn't speak to your cousin before any possible invitation comes.

Not everyone,(myself included) can just make the effort to speak to people even if they know them. Before I was married I can still remember going to a wedding on my own as I had no one to ask. It was awful and I sat in a corner wishing the time away and would never go to a wedding on my own although as I'm married it won't arise.

but this is a family wedding - surely the OP wouldn't be in a corner on their own at a family do?

Torry_Quine

balletshoes wrote: »

but this is a family wedding - surely the OP wouldn't be in a corner on their own at a family do?[/QUOTE

Only she can tell us that. However just because its a family wedding it doesn't automatically mean that she will feel comfortable hence the question in the first place.

VfM4meplse

shaz77 wrote: »

Thanks for that but for me it is a very sore subject, because I'm rarely seen with a partner at 28 question marks have been raised about my sexuality within the family and outside of it, however this doesn't bother me.

Wait until you get to 39, they'll be begging you to do it with anyone, just so they can have grandchidren

balletshoes wrote: »

but this is a family wedding - surely the OP wouldn't be in a corner on their own at a family do?

I think there are other issues at stake here:

shaz77 wrote: »

about a year ago I lost the love of my life as the result of family instrusion and I've never got over it.

OP, you need to make a decision on who answers invites on your behalf, who you go out with and who runs your life.

That's all I'm saying.

Idiophreak

stir_crazy wrote: »

I get that weddings are probably dull and lonely for single people,

I've honestly never really understood this...Most weddings I've been to, I've gone as part of a couple, but I've never really considered them as being particularly couply affairs. I tend to spend more time dancing around like an idiot with friends and family than I do smooching with the wife.

In fact, the only weddings I've not really enjoyed have been the ones where the wife and I don't know anyone...where there's smooching to be done, but no idiotic dancing...Maybe that makes me weird.