Massive Argument!

RedBern

Ask your son is he living at your house or not. If he is, then he has to contribute to the running costs, which isn't just about whether he sleeps or eats there on a regular basis, but revolves around the fact that you need to keep the house maintained and decorated, insured and heated. Agree with other posters, if he moves out, fine but get him to move his stuff out if he's not paying. Good luck

Valli

Pack his stuff ready for him; including the dirty stuff. (bin bag;)). When he comes round get his key and give him his stuff.

If he's not paying board he cannot board with you. The fact that he spends his time elsewhere is, IMO, irrelevant. Totally agree with RedBern!

And if you're now the only adult get onto the council and get single person's discount on the CT.

BitterAndTwisted

OP I remember your previous thread about your son's board. The distinction in my mind is that he lives with you (or rather he did!) and therefore needed to contribute towards the expenses but chose to stay overnight elsewhere. Whethe he decided to pay a small contribution to his g/f's family is neither here nor there.

I suspect that once he's collected all his stuff and is patently expecting to be housed permanently at his g/f's place that paltry thirty quid a week is going to appear woefully inadequate, so I think you should fully expect him to ask or plead with you to take him back quite soon. That will then be your leverage to extract a more realistic sum from him considering what he takes home each week.

He's a very rude and selfish boy who is in danger of having made a rash, expensive and rather foolish mistake!

Molly41

Wait until the reality hits when he moves out and is responsible with bills in his name! Only the reality of this will make him realise.

Tiglath

In the meantime, make yourself a nice cup of tea and lay out the binbags and suitcases ready.

BitterAndTwisted

Reality may hit rather sooner than when he and the g/f get their own place. There's nothing to say that he'll be welcome to stay permanently at his g/f's parent's home. They are about to be presented with a fait accomplit and may not necessarily be happy about it, as it appears that he hasn't even consulted or asked them yet. Having someone stay over, even very often, is not the same thing as giving up your spot at home with your Mum and expecting to be welcome to move in with them.

I suspect there may be a rude awakening coming up some time soon. I do hope so.

daska

So, are you going to ring girlfriend's dad to warn him he's being kicked out because he wouldn't pay his way? He might have a frosty welcome if it gets known that this is why he's no longer living 'at home'.

Errata

Ruined your Saturday? Make sure you ruin his ! Pack his stuff in bin bags except for what you can sell on ebay to fund his bed and board for the last few weeks he hasn't paid for it.

zaksmum

My son's friend, when a teenager, stormed out of his mum's house when asked to pay board that was about 15% of his take home pay.

He also announced he would live with his girlfriend where he'd be made welcome.

The girlfriend's dad immediately laid down some rules which the lad objected to, so the dad told him to sling his hook.

Initially too proud to go home to his mum, he got a room in a local Salvation Army Hostel where an alcoholic 45 year old man took a fancy to him.

The lad was back at his mum's like a bat out of hell, wild eyed and begging to be allowed to come home and more than happy to pay the board!

OP, stand your ground. Your lad needs a reality check...time for him to grow up!

itsmethatswho

Errata wrote: »

Ruined your Saturday? Make sure you ruin his ! Pack his stuff in bin bags except for what you can sell on ebay to fund his bed and board for the last few weeks he hasn't paid for it.

Totally agree! He wouldnt be able to get away with it in a shared house so why should it be acceptable in YOUR house?! If it were me, i would give him a chance to pay you the oytstanding money and re negotiate terms i.e he pays u less but is responsible for own meals, washing etc. Or, he goes out and lives in the grown up world. Sounds about time you start looking after yourself and enjoy being teenager free!