Finding That Special Person

Scrapaholic

As others have said , go out and mix . If you're asked to go somewhere with friends etc , just go , even if you think it may not be your type of thing . Keep an open mind .You could meet new friends and they'll have friends. Your mr right could be just around the corner for you . Have fun looking .

tulip28

This time last year I hated my job, single/heartbroken, skint, on anti depressants.

Now I have a lovely boyfriend who I met through going out with an old friend's work function (I didnt even want to go I made myself go) a new job and I am saving for the first time in my life. I am soon to turn 29. Oh and I stopped taking the anti D's

And they all slotted into place. Nothing I did would of changed the course of action my life took.

I read alot, slept alot, took care of myself and said yes to things I never had said yes to before (within reason!)

Please remember your life WILL change - It WILL happen - chin up!
Stay positive it really really does help. Good energy and all that without sounding nutty! lol
xxxx

chirpchirp

I have this problem too of how to meet people. It's made worse by the fact that all my friends coupled off, mainly married with kids and there is no-one to go anywhere with to mingle.

I very much doubt that I will bump into Mr Right in the supermarket.

jen007

Get yourself to some clubs you're interested in. It's good for a relationship if you have things in common.

I met my OH through an online dating website. We talked for a year before we met up and have been together for 2 years. It's the first time i've actually thought 'I've found the one' and turned into a big soppy mess.

podperson

I wouldn't try to focus too much meeting that 'special someone' but on meeting new people in general. Think about interests/hobbies you have or things you fancy trying - look for groups/clubs etc in the area. If you are meeting people with common interests then you're more likely to find someone you can connect with - and even if you don't then you're getting out more, meeting new friends and probably gaining in confidence - which is an attractive trait

tulip28

It could be things like cookery classes or gym or taking the dog for a walk - or if you are quite social - change where you go - different town you've never been too - have you tried a dating site?x

miss_independent

Genuinely not picking on anyone, just curious what do people mean when they say "It'll happen when you least expect it?", I don't quite understand?

I'm 28 and have been single for years after deciding at 22 and a half to stop fawning after bad boys and work on myself a bit. I KNOW I don't come across as desperate, I'm very feminine but not tarty, I never get drunk, I can have fun but I'm quite a polite, reserved person. I've been living my life, working on my career, hobbies etc, achieved quite alot of good things and whilst I'm independent and fine on my own, I still have a longing to share my life with someone and one of my greatest desires is to become a mother. So I guess what I'm trying to say is, why hasn't it happened yet? I'm always the single friend and I never get approached by men, yet people act surprised when they find out I'm single. I'm beginning to think there is something wrong with me and I'm some sort of man repellant.

For years I thought, "It'll happen, he'll show up." but I'm starting to feel like an old maid. With all due respect, I don't know if distracting myself from the fact that I want to be with someone is going to help. I don't want to get to late thirties early forties, having missed my chance at motherhood and wish I had been a bit more proactive in my younger days. Obviously it's not just about having children, I do want a companion, someone to grow old with, romance etc (I could go on forever). Not hijacking the thread, just feel I am in the same boat as the OP and want to be a bit more proactive....

tulip28

Your asking us something we/I cannot answer - no one can answer that for you - you just HAVE to keep the hope and faith that you are worth waiting for and he will come along when he does.

I went through absolute months of thinking 'this is it, it's just going to be me isnt it' - I didnt think I would ever meet anyone. Not anyone that genuinely wanted to be with me anyway. Sure, I met alot of men who just wanted one thing but I learned to see through them and not waste my time.

It is hard I know - but you have to keep positive. What else can you do. x

It's a catch 22 - you could be the most avaliable person, sociable, proactive, approachable - but all that means nothing if you dont find the right person at the right time. Does that make sense? Hope so.

I think what I am trying to say is please dont stress over it.

It's happened for me 'when I least expected it' because it didnt envelope my whole life - I never gave my singledom a thought - I just enjoyed it - becuase I knew I wouldnt be single forever. Hope that makes more sense! x

VestanPance

The happen when you least expect it is a common line from people already coupled up, as that's how it happened with them. I think you'll find long term singles would argue otherwise, particularly as they hit the late 30's, 40's and beyond.

miss_independent - I'd say if you are quiet and reserved that is most likely the issue as why you'd be unlikely to just happen on someone randomly.

I tend to pull off the tall quiet guy thing with ease. I'm not a "bubbly" social centre of the party type person by nature. I know for a fact unless I go out of my way to interact with others then it'll never happen, as many take my laid back style as being cold or distant. Often seen by the "bubbly" types as being dull or no fun.

19lottie82

I was 28 before I found my OH. I used to get really down because I'd never been in a "proper" relationship before. I had some "extended flings", so to speak lasting a couple of weeks to 6 months but he was the first one that I took home to meet my Mum and talked about marriage and babies with. We have now been together almost 3 years.

It wasn't that I hadn't had the opportunity before, but it had just never felt quite right.

Don't worry it will happen eventually