relationship going wrong :(

Tiddlywinks

themull1 wrote: »

I would always put my kids before a boyfriend or their kids...and i wouldnt look after someone elses kid for three weeks either!! i really dislike other peoples kids, i don't like being around them, wouldnt have them sleep over, wouldnt go on holiday with them. I can't think of anything worse.

BUT it's not about the OP looking after just 'someone else's kid', it's about her interaction with her new BF and his child. A child which will be her would-be step-child and half brother to her unborn child.

Thanks for sharing though about your love of children - hope you're never in a position where you need to bond with a new partner's offspring.

jen007

pyjamadays wrote: »

he has always been given jars of food although i have been making him home cooked. it was a struggle the first few days as he expects all food to be orange. he doesn't eat snacks or crisps/sweets as he's always been spoon fed and doesn't understand what to do with it.....yet!

Honestly, just knock it in the head. Give him solids or nothing. Encourage your own children to lead by example. Cut things up for him and give him a spork if needs be, but he will be going into nursery soon. (If they even accept him, some may with training pants but not nappies).

Once he goes into nursery, the nursery may encourage him to stay for lunch because of his eating problems. Again, what will he do at snack time and parties that the nursery have?!
And when he goes back to Mum, make such a big deal of him eating solids and doing so well with solids. Maybe this will encourage her to make her own changes.


IMO, you should deal with the food situation first rather than toileting. And that should be solids or nothing. A beaker or nothing. Even if he eats with his fingers, at least he's eating solids.

kizzie_nikita

Just want to say i think you're doing really well and i hope you're feeling better. You're taking all the right steps to make things better you have to soldier on with the help of your BF.

**Patty**

OP, you might want to look at Baby-Led weaning.

You'll need to adapt it slightly due to his age but the general idea is to give him foods he can feed himself with.....fingers at first then moving on.

I'm not saying follow the program to the letter but you might get some ideas you can adapt.

VfM4meplse

jen007 wrote: »

And when he goes back to Mum, make such a big deal of him eating solids and doing so well with solids. Maybe this will encourage her to make her own changes.

I don't think Mum is going to be happy that such radical changes have been made, even though they are long over-due!

gfplux

So many problems and so many baby's.

themull1

Tiddlywinks wrote: »

BUT it's not about the OP looking after just 'someone else's kid', it's about her interaction with her new BF and his child. A child which will be her would-be step-child and half brother to her unborn child.

Thanks for sharing though about your love of children - hope you're never in a position where you need to bond with a new partner's offspring.

My new partner does have offspring, he has the youngest one whenever he wants, just not at my house very often, and he will have seperate holidays. he knew the score when we met, i can't help how i feel, but i will never be a 'stepmother'. Why would i ever want to 'bond' with someone elses kids? I don't like other people's kids!

VestanPance

themull1 wrote: »

My new partner does have offspring, he has the youngest one whenever he wants, just not at my house very often, and he will have seperate holidays. he knew the score when we met, i can't help how i feel, but i will never be a 'stepmother'. Why would i ever want to 'bond' with someone elses kids? I don't like other people's kids!

I can fully understand someone taking that position of not wanting to deal with kids from a previous relationship, but I think if that is how you are then getting involved with someone with children from a previous relationship is very risky.

Sounds like a crisis waiting to happen to me.

jen007

themull1 wrote: »

My new partner does have offspring, he has the youngest one whenever he wants, just not at my house very often, and he will have seperate holidays. he knew the score when we met, i can't help how i feel, but i will never be a 'stepmother'. Why would i ever want to 'bond' with someone elses kids? I don't like other people's kids!

If you don't like other peoples kids don't start a relationship with someone who has a child!!!!

Poor kid.

themull1

jen007 wrote: »

If you don't like other peoples kids don't start a relationship with someone who has a child!!!!

Poor kid.

I'll start a relationship with whoever i like thanks. just because i go out with someone, doesn't mean i have to accept the rest of the family with open arms!