Just found out my son is experimenting with other boys

NewKittenHelp

Person_one wrote: »

Perpetuating the '!!!!!y' stereotype nicely there.

Thank you.:)

[Deleted User]

1940sGal wrote: »

OP - could you answer me this one question please. If you are not homophobic, what PRECISELY is it about your son's 'experiments' that have left you 'traumatised'?

I have answered this in the post after yours. Surely you can understand that having absolutely no inkling and then to suddenly read this about him would be a massive shock. I am still in shock but I will get over it but at the moment I am grieving for what he may have to face in the future. I have one gay friend who had a terrible time when he came out, rejected by his family and cruely abused by people because he was gay ( I mean verbally). This will not happen in the family but I cannot account for what will happen outside of the family.

Do you know I did do a search and I came across a post about bisexuals and everybody was so lovely which is why I thought I would post. Wish I hadn't bothered now.

coolcait

NewKittenHelp wrote: »

What is a gay lifestyle exactly?

Wearing flapper dresses and dancing the Charleston?

Fire_Fox

Troubled_mum wrote: »

Think of the gay couple in Desperate Housewives , the majority of gay guys I know would be like the camp one, my son would be the other one, I would never have guessed. So when I say gay tendancies, that is what I mean not every gay guy is camp I know but you do associate campness with being gay.

Why don't you think about the fact that in eleven years or so at least two homosexual people and at least two transgender have won UK Big Brother? This is voted for mainly by people of your son's generation and a little older. I don't watch it regularly but am sure other gay people have made it to the final. So either there are a boatload of closet LGBT people voting hundreds of times each or the heterosexual youth of today are more interested in personality and charisma than what goes on in their undercrackers.

1940sGal

Troubled_mum wrote: »

I have answered this in the post after yours. Surely you can understand that having absolutely no inkling and then to suddenly read this about him would be a massive shock. I am still in shock but I will get over it but at the moment I am grieving for what he may have to face in the future. I have one gay friend who had a terrible time when he came out, rejected by his family and cruely abused by people because he was gay ( I mean verbally). This will not happen in the family but I cannot account for what will happen outside of the family.

Do you know I did do a search and I came across a post about bisexuals and everybody was so lovely which is why I thought I would post. Wish I hadn't bothered now.

As i've said, yes, it would be a shock. But to say you're traumatised over it is the reason you've been getting the reaction you have.

And to think, you wouldn't be having this trouble if you hadn't invaded his privacy in the first place.

Karma's a !!!!!, aint it.

1940sGal

coolcait wrote: »

Wearing flapper dresses and dancing the Charleston?

Based on this i may have to re-think my outlook on life

[Deleted User]

esmy wrote: »

OP, re read your posts and consider the language you used about your feelings about this news (and I'm yet to be convinced it's anything other than mates taking the !!!! out of each other) - maybe you'll see why you have got the responses you have.

Many 18 year olds drink a lot; many have the 'pressure' of A levels and university; many experiment sexually and in other ways. Some commit crimes; some deal in drugs; some are parents themselves; some suffer major illness and disability. Is this really the worst thing that you could have to deal with?

I quite often say this to my husband when our son has maybe done something we are not too happy about. No it is not the worst thing I have to worry about but for gods sake I only found out yesterday and it was a big shock..

dw85

To everyone on here nitpicking at every word:
It can be hard to articulate EXACTLY what you mean when in shock or emotional. So please, give the OP the benefit of the doubt and as it says at the top - Be nice to ALL moneysavers!


OP- I think, in my opinion, that you are perhaps over reacting. But i think i get where you are coming from. With respect, the older generation were mostly brought up with christian morals/values (in schools/homelife etc), so whilst you accept, you possibly might not fully agree? This is just what i think.
With regards to informing your OH, do you really think he would want to know?
What your son gets up to is his own business, esp as he is an adult. If he was being (for arguments sake) promiscuous or drinking lots at home, then its a different matter.

Like you said yourself, you went snooping and didnt like what you found. Id be more worried (if i was in your position), that your son was being safe and protecting himself from STDs.

[Deleted User]

1940sGal wrote: »

As i've said, yes, it would be a shock. But to say you're traumatised over it is the reason you've been getting the reaction you have.

And to think, you wouldn't be having this trouble if you hadn't invaded his privacy in the first place.

Karma's a !!!!!, aint it.

Don't you think I already know that, if I could go back in time I would but I can't.

dw85

coolcait wrote: »

Wearing flapper dresses and dancing the Charleston?

:j
:rotfl:

that genuinely made me LOL!