DH wants to split bills now.

mikey72

Money_maker wrote: »

..........away every weekend when you have little ones is taking the biscuit. .............

"This year we haven't been able to have a family holiday (usually one through The Sun paper), but DH has managed to take himself away to watch bike racing 3 times now, 1st time a day trip, 2nd a full weekend and now an over night stay."

I reckon that's 2, maybe 3 nights in 9 months.
Hardly every weekend.

Money_maker

MrsNorthman wrote: »

He says he's entitled to go away to watch bikes every so often and went on about how some men go away every weekend and have bikes and that their wives don't complain.

thegirlintheattic and mikey - apologies, was responding using this quote from the OP.

Relevant or not, I stand by my post:D

mikey72

"some men go away every weekend and have bikes"

He's right, some men do.

OP should be thankful he's not one of them, and has only been away 3 times, and doesn't have a bike either.

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

mikey72 wrote: »

"some men go away every weekend and have bikes"

He's right, some men do.

OP should be thankful he's not one of them, and has only been away 3 times, and doesn't have a bike either.

Personally, I'd prefer a biker to someone who threatens to make my sister and family homeless if He doesn't get his own way.

Bikers don't necessarily spend the family budget on their bikes or going racing, leaving their partners to deal with children they both brought into the world and have an equal duty to maintain. Or spend on holidays away when one half has still been in debt.


Don't ever assume a biker is intrinsically a bad person. Most pay their bills and meet their family responsibilities first and foremost. Because that's what adults do.

Bitsy_Beans

thegirlintheattic wrote: »

The OP says he has been away three times, once for a day, once for a weekend and once overnight. Bit different to every weekend; and is what I'd consider to be a healthy break. I have a feeling if this thread had been a woman saying her partner had started an argument with her over her going out without the family THREE times, paid for by his half of the spending money, people would be jumping in with it's abuse, controlling etc.

I am not singling out this poster but OP has been slated them JOINTLY spending £70 on a birthday present for their daughter but it's now healthy and acceptable for him to spend money for weekends away without his family.
Isn't that a wee bit hypocritical? OP has said he's not Interested in dealing with his debts (would rather have the spare cash) either and yet not a whistle about what he's spending.........

robpw2

i think there is some jealousy from you op , you don't get time away and this is the real problem , i saw it when you said we couldnt go on holiday.
money is an issue for you both , neither of you seem mature enough to budget properly and both have debts and seem to be ignoring them (your choice)

you need to sit down together and compromise, if he wants to go away for a weekend , then he needs to give you an op to do something for yourselves

you also need to work out exactly what your spending on what and where and look at what is spare cash and what is money actually needed for your bills/kids

ViolaLass

Jojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »

Personally, I'd prefer a biker to someone who threatens to make my sister and family homeless if He doesn't get his own way.

But we don't know that he HAS threatened it, only that the OP fears he might.

mikey72

Jojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »

Personally, I'd prefer a biker to someone who threatens to make my sister and family homeless if He doesn't get his own way.

Bikers don't necessarily spend the family budget on their bikes or going racing, leaving their partners to deal with children they both brought into the world and have an equal duty to maintain. Or spend on holidays away when one half has still been in debt.


Don't ever assume a biker is intrinsically a bad person. Most pay their bills and meet their family responsibilities first and foremost. Because that's what adults do.

I think it's clear the budget won't run to a bike, he's too busy paying the bills by the sound of it.

pelirocco

pearl123 wrote: »

I suspect we are only getting half of the picture here.
To be honest I wouldn't let my partner have access to my bank account if they had run up large debt which they had not yet paid off.

And how exactly is she supposed to pay it off ? as the OP said this is old debt her oh also has debt that he is choosing not to pay . It would appear he thinks he should be able to have money to spend on his self

pelirocco

mikey72 wrote: »

"some men go away every weekend and have bikes"

He's right, some men do.

OP should be thankful he's not one of them, and has only been away 3 times, and doesn't have a bike either.

''The OP should be thankful '' ............sorry are we still living in the 1800's?