Is 6 months to early to propose? Need an opinion

good_vibes

I think 6 months is too early. i agree trying to live with some one for a another 6 months. Honeymoon period in a new relationship can last for up to 6 months to a year.
But I don't begrudge anyone going for it

Person_one

Do you know enough about each others attitudes to money? About how finances should be handled in a marriage? Do you know about each other's housework and cleanliness habits? Do you know whether or not you feel the same way about having children and how they should be raised?

Feeling all lovey dovey is great, but the practical stuff is what decides whether your relationship will last.

Blueman14

Person_one wrote: »

Do you know enough about each others attitudes to money? About how finances should be handled in a marriage? Do you know about each other's housework and cleanliness habits? Do you know whether or not you feel the same way about having children and how they should be raised?

Feeling all lovey dovey is great, but the practical stuff is what decides whether your relationship will last.

We want same things with children. I know her house habits and tidyness and it is a good thing. Finances we know how would work as well and she has taken efforts to improve her finances by cutting out irrelavent stuff in her life.

Person_one

Blueman14 wrote: »

she has taken efforts to improve her finances by cutting out irrelavent stuff in her life.

Could you expand on that a bit please?

daska

My parents were married 5 months to the day after meeting, it worked for them for nearly 50 years (mum died last year). Do what feels right for you not other people.

But unlike suki1001 I don't get 'long' engagements or planning to get engaged - you're either engaged to be married or you're not. If you've decided to make that commitment then get on with it otherwise it makes it look as if you're keeping your options open in case a better offer comes along.

onlyroz

My husband proposed after two weeks and we got married after a year. My aunt accepted a marriage proposal after 3 days, which I think is the record for my family. She was happily married for several decades.

I think that you need to have seen a person when they're at their best, what they're like on an average day, and also when they're at their worst. E.g. what are they like when they've had a bad day at work, and are completely exhausted? If you can love them when they're "average" and can handle the worst then go for it.

19lottie82

Personally I think how can someone decide they want to marry someone without sharing a house with them first? You might find that you drive each other bonkers. So surely, it would be wise to give this a try first before deciding to commit the rest of your lives to each other?

BUT OP, if you have decided that this is what you really want, then go for it! However, I’d also think you would want to be fairly sure that she will actually say “yes!”, maybe she will think it’s too soon? But if you’re confident, follow your heart – good luck!

EllaBeagle

It's what you feel is the right thing to do. Yes people may think its too soon but they are not you. And when you are engaged you have a while to go before you actually get married anyway so theres still time to see how things go before you properly commit.

I think its a nice way of showing your GF at this early stage that you are serious about your relationship and how much you want her to be in your future. But thats just my opinion.

Me on the other hand has waited over 8 years for OH to pop the question and he still hasn't! We have children together too! Its always made me wonder whether he actually does want to be with me or not.

I think alot of men are just generally not interested in marraige mainly because of the cost of everything for the sake of a bit of paper so they say!

onlyroz

suki1001 wrote: »

But you don't have to plan a wedding just because you're engaged. I didn't get married for 5 years after we got engaged, not because we were saving up, but just because it felt the right time to do it. Surely living together makes the relationship more difficult if you break up anyway, I mean he's looking at buying a house.

I really don't get this - if you've made the decision to marry then why wait 5 years? It's like you're saying that "engagement" is some intermediate level of commitment that can be backed out of. In my view once you're engaged that means you're fully committed, and so you get married as soon as is practical.

esmf73

Let's see, we met on new years eye and he proposed on valentines day, we married on 16 may in the same year! Have been married 15 years, have not always had it easy as there have been times I have thought of leaving due to his depression and the fact that him being in the army has meant a lot of house moves. But now, even with a disabled child who has seriously challenging behaviour, we are still together! Might not have a lot to talk about, but I do appreciate him.

Suppose answer to our question would be, if you feel the time is right, then ask. If you are asking just because of hints she has dropped then don't.