Is 6 months to early to propose? Need an opinion

Blueman14

I would like an opinion on this. I am 25 years old.

I feel both my girlfriend (25) and I want to be together forever, but we have only been together since beginning of April 12, with some dates before.

I hear everyone saying "when you know you know" and I really do know. I didn't plan on proposing until next year as this is when we were talking about getting a place together, but suddenly things have changed and we are talking about getting a place sooner, maybe even this year if the right place becomes available. She always said she would like a ring on her finger before moving out from home. This doesn't seem to necessarily be the case now, but obviously it would make her happy.

The thing is, we are going to New York in October and we would have been together 6 months, and really there aren't many better places to propose.

What are your views? Is it too soon?

I am also worried about the opinions from her parents, (as she told me she would always like me to first). Maybe it isn't a problem if they see how much she means to me and I am serious. I think her Dad would be fine, but her Mum might think it is too soon, but then shouldn't it be our opinions that count the most?

Just to add, I am financially pretty stable.

InsideInsurance

I guess the question is, whats the rush?

I got engaged 12 months to the day after meeting my then g/friend but was planning it from approximately 9 months after being together so was also relatively quick by todays standards.

Do you actually live together? If so then for how long?

Blueman14

We don't live together, but taking it in turns staying between our houses (with parents at home) 3 or 4 times a week. We can only stay in the same room at mine and not hers.

I suppose there is no rush, but the fact we are going to New York and have spoken about moving out and wanting to be engaged ideally before doing so, it has made me think. She has also given hints that she would say yes and when I say isn't it too soon, she asks me why is it? she says it could be soon, but if it feels right or you know, then it is not upto me to tell you.

I should add that before I have a 6 year relationship and never proposed, so it isn't like I have a tendency to rush with things like this.

Amanda65

DH proposed 4 months after we got together (I was 22 and he was 26), we got married 18 months later and we celebrated our 23rd wedding anniversary at the weekend with our 3 children! It's not always been plain sailing but we both knew and have always got through - good luck

LEJC

There isnt a set timescale to propose in....I guess its when you both feel comfortable

I'm not one to rush into things and in honesty had no real desire to get married quickly....but my proposal from my OH came 6 weeks after our first date....so all my theories went out the window because I knew that I was happy....we celebrate our 20th wedding anniversary next year!

Blueman14

See when I hear stories like yours it does make me think so hard about doing it. Then I stop and worry about the opinion of her parents and brother/sisters. I suppose that is the main thing stopping me, as I know I need to ask first.

lostinrates

Dh told me very early on in our relationship he wanted 'permanant'. I feel very strongly, that while i think we both knew, i also feel hormones run wild and theire are a few jumping points in that, round about six months, round about a year and again at two years. Thus, he respected that and waiting a year to the day we met to ask me, though we both new it was coming for sometime before and were talking permanantly. We were married a year after that exactly.

If this is right for YOU both though, go ahead. .

InsideInsurance

Personally, move in together and see how things go. Life is very different when you are having to share a single bathroom with her taking hours every morning to get ready whilst you need to use the toilet etc.

There will always be other opportunities and at the end of the day if your financially stable as you say then you can do a weekend in Paris for a couple of hundred pounds and its certainly more girls dreams than NYC

Barneysmom

Hiya, you're not going to be spending the rest of your life with her family so try not to worry too much about them, I'm guessing your focussing all your nerves on them.

Go and speak to her parents and let them know that you are going to propose to your girlfriend and would like their blessing.
Let them know you are serious, and you will spend your life protecting her.
By protecting her, I don't mean from violence ofcourse, I mean from cares and woes and a cold house

Then you could go on to say that you don't want to rush on to a fast marriage, as you want to plan things carefully to make the wedding as happy a day as possible and make the marriage strong.

Make sure they know you haave thought things through carefully and made proper plans for the future, they clearly love their lass as much as you do.
Good luck - and don't forget to look happy! xx

Del_Astra

Ask her Dad for his Daughters hand in marriage, see what he says, might be an idea to take him somewhere away from Mum, brothers / sisters. Maybe even pop down to the local and get him a pint, he'll know its coming.

Whilst you should consider other peoples opinions, its what you both want that counts, what others think is their opinion we are all entitled to one after all. Please don't do what you think they want you to do, do what makes you both happy.

Stephb1986_2

If it feels right to you love then you do what you think is best. You could always get engaged but have a long engagement if her mum thinks it's too soon.

There is no rush to get married it's very expensive. So you might have to save up.

Good luck

Steph xx

PS. New York is amazing wish I was going again you lucky thing!!!