Is 6 months to early to propose? Need an opinion

Kimberley82

we got engaged after 2 weeks and married after 9 months

FBaby

In many ways, the whole engagement ritual has lost its meaning because of how society has evolved. As stated above, it used to be that a man proposing was really the first stage of engagement, as partners usually didn't live together or had any ties. It allowed to move to a 'next stage' socially accepted that is now seen as common sense.

I suppose we could say my partner and I are engaged. We've discussed getting married only a few months after meeting, and progressed to moving together, sharing finances etc... Whether official or not, we are engaged in a commited relationship in many ways. We have already agreed that we would get married next September, started talking about venues, who we would invite etc...

Yet, somehow, we haven't thought about it this way and I expect he will be proposing officially soon and when he does, I will get butterflies, get all emotional and happy, and I will stare at my ring for hours and feel all warm inside

catkins

lostinrates wrote: »

But presumably, between march and june you were 'engaged' in that he had proposed, and you said yes and you were waiting to be married?

I suppose technically we were but I didn't want a ring as I don't believe in engagements. OH did ask if I wanted one. MIL and FIL who thought I should have had a ring decided about 2 years after we were married to buy me one!! Needless to say I never wore it

marisco_2

I would recommend living together for a while before considering proposing. Relationships tend to go through periods of adjustment when you move in together. That is when you learn how strong it is and how compatible you really are.

Blueman14

FBaby, when did you meet?

Person_one

catkins wrote: »

I suppose technically we were but I didn't want a ring as I don't believe in engagements. OH did ask if I wanted one. MIL and FIL who thought I should have had a ring decided about 2 years after we were married to buy me one!! Needless to say I never wore it

How can you not believe in engagements? That's like not believing in, I don't know, the sky! Engagements very clearly exist, you had one albeit a short one. Its not a political belief or a statement, its just the term we use for the term between agreeing to get married and actually getting married. There are no requirements beyond having made that decision.

janninew

This question is a bit like 'how long is a piece of string!' It doesn't matter what anybody on here thinks, only you know if the time is right!

Good luck OP whatever you decide!

lolavix

Sorry in a rush so no chance to read the whole thread - OH & I have been together and living together for over 4 years now, we have spoken about getting married at some point but tbh it's not a big deal for us.

My family keep causing problems as he hasn't proposed yet, but then I don't see the point in proposing unless you can follow it through...

I think nowadays it's best to move in with someone and learn each others bad habits, see if you get on before you commit to marriage.

catkins

Person_one wrote: »

How can you not believe in engagements? That's like not believing in, I don't know, the sky! Engagements very clearly exist, you had one albeit a short one. Its not a political belief or a statement, its just the term we use for the term between agreeing to get married and actually getting married. There are no requirements beyond having made that decision.

Just about everyone I know made a big thing of getting engaged and wanted a ring. Often as well the engagement would go on for years and sometimes never lead to an actual wedding.

We decided to get married and, if it had been possible, would probably have got married the next day

claire16c

Blueman14 wrote: »

Thank you. Sorry for your loss.

I really do want to and I suppose the fact she is special and New York is special, I thought it would be the most memorable way to do it. I agree in the way you are kind of saying life can be too short and you got to enjoy your best moments with the right people, so you didn't regret it.

NYC is a lovely place to get engaged but i wouldnt propose just because you are going there. Surely you will have more holidays together in the future? Whose to say you wont go there next year etc?

6 months is a pretty short time, especially if you havent lived together.

To me getting engaged means starting to plan the wedding - whether thats 6 months or 2 years away. If you dont set a date and start planning stuff I dont really see the point in being engaged. If you want to get married; get married!

So you might propose and think that your girlfriend will be happy to wait to get married for a few years or more. My bet is that she'll be reading bridal magazines on the flight home So dont do it unless youre happy for that to happen!