Would you pay to go to a wedding?

Torry_Quine

Person_one wrote: »

Spare time?

'No boxed gifts' just means no gifts in boxes though, it doesn't make any sense to try and use it as a euphemism for cash.

I would think the same. :rotfl:

Gloomendoom

Torry_Quine wrote: »

It didn't need to be included with the invitations though.

Sorry, I don't agree. In the context of our wedding, it was entirely appropriate. Our invitation was more of an information booklet that included everything from the actual invitation to suggestions on what clothes to bring and where to stay etc. Why? Because it didn't follow the normal wedding/reception format.

shays_mum

Person_one wrote: »

Spare time?

'No boxed gifts' just means no gifts in boxes though, it doesn't make any sense to try and use it as a euphemism for cash.

Well it makes sense down my way!:p

Torry_Quine

Gloomendoom wrote: »

Sorry, I don't agree. In the context of our wedding, it was entirely appropriate. Our invitation was more of an information booklet that included everything from the actual invitation to suggestions on what clothes to bring and where to stay etc. Why? Because it didn't follow the normal wedding/reception format.

Fine, that's your choice. I however would be very angry to get such information with an invitation and would get something independent of any such instructions.

Gloomendoom

Torry_Quine wrote: »

Fine, that's your choice. I however would be very angry to get such information with an invitation and would get something independent of any such instructions.

Ha ha! Very angry? Can I suggest an anger management course. Life is too short to get even slightly angry over a wedding invitation.

Heaven help us!


Needless to say, there were no angry people at our wedding. :rotfl:

Person_one

Gloomendoom wrote: »

Needless to say, there were no angry people at our wedding. :rotfl:

Everybody thinks that.

Seriously though, there may have been a few slightly ticked off ones reading your [STRIKE]instruction booklet[/STRIKE] invitation who just put up with it for your sake. There's a lot of that going around!

coolcait

Person_one wrote: »

Plus, being told that gifts are optional would irk me. Of course they're optional, I don't need to be told that! How would they ever be mandatory? How would you enforce that? :rotfl:

Whilst I see the point you're making about gift giving being optional, I can also see that the bride and groom are in a very difficult situation.

They may have no 'expectation' of a gift. However, they will be aware that many of those who are invited to the wedding will 'expect' to bring a gift with them.

Because giving gifts is a part of existing wedding traditions. There's almost a societal 'expectation' that 'If we go to a wedding, we give the couple a gift'.

So, some guests would find it extremely rude to be told "No gifts required!"

In the same way that some guests find it very rude to be told "Cash only, please!"

Person_one

coolcait wrote: »

So, some guests would find it extremely rude to be told "No gifts required!"

In the same way that some guests find it very rude to be told "Cash only, please!"

Well, both of those are rude.

Its so simple. Invite people to your wedding but don't tell them what present you want! You wouldn't have a 40th or a housewarming or a golden wedding party and send out a wish list with the invitation would you? Even though those also have an expectation that people will bring presents.

If they then say 'what present do you want' you can tell them, pretending to act flattered and surprised that they'd want to buy you something.

daisiegg

I was once invited to a baby shower with a John Lewis gift list!

I was actually a bit disgusted and did not attend. I probably wouldn't have gone anyway as I think it's a horrid American tradition, but the gift list included with the invitation was just the last straw!

janninew

Gloomendoom wrote: »

Ha ha! Very angry? Can I suggest an anger management course. Life is too short to get even slightly angry over a wedding invitation.

Heaven help us!


Needless to say, there were no angry people at our wedding. :rotfl:

Agree with this!! Very angry over a wedding invitation! Really?! We've even had people earlier on wanting to 'VOMIT' in bridal shops! If this is what people get worked over I'm so glad when I got married it was me and hubby at Gretna Green, nobody else was invited and we never received any presents (or asked for any!)