Would you pay to go to a wedding?

Person_one

MrsE wrote: »

When did stag & hens do stop being a night on the !!!! & become a holiday?

When did weddings?

meritaten

When they became a big 'Brides Day' and not a Marriage!

MrsE_2

tara747 wrote: »

Excuse me. I couldnt give a hoot where your daughter gets married. You said that she was purposely sending invitations to people whom she knows can't attend. That, in my opinion, is fishing for presents. I've seen it a hundred times. And I am entitled to my opinion.

Oh and I do travel quite extensively and often, thank you. I simply don't want to go to package holiday destinations, I don't find them at all interesting. I prefer independent travel, as I've said. So, flight-only package or not, we'll be giving it a miss. :cool:

You really are incredibally rude. My dd will just have an open invitation to close friends & family should any decide they might like to come. We only expect that it shall be parents & grooms brother.
I thought people only brought gifts if they came to the wedding - in the main. There will be 2 cash gifts from the other parents & I, I guess the grooms brother will buy something & thats likely to be it.
There will be no reception back in the UK.

Whether you go to package destinations or not, I was letting you know that you could use the big package companies for flight only tickets & should you want to attend the wedding in some, was it a tacky european destination (nice....) then you could get a flight only deal this way.

However if you don't want to attend, just say so, you're certainly not backward in speaking your mind on the internet.

MrsE_2

Person_one wrote: »

When did weddings?

Difference is, my DD isn't expecting any of her friends or extended family to attend. They will be there, their parents & thats all they really want. They want a small family wedding with everyone relaxed & happy.

Its fine for us, as a family it suits us, because we do it every year anyway.

Just as those that want big days with a hundred guests in the UK are welcome to do as they want, those that want tiny weddings abroad are free to do as they please.

Weddings are up to the bride & groom & parents if they are paying. Guests are free to decline the invitation if they don't like the location/set-up.

mountainofdebt

MrsE wrote: »

Guests are free to decline the invitation if they don't like the location/set-up.

Ah if only everyone's family was so understanding.

There's been numerous threads on MSE over the years about people being guilt tripped in going abroad because the sister / brother/ whoever is having a hissy fit over someone who has had the courage to say no.

koalamummy

meritaten wrote: »

When they became a big 'Brides Day' and not a Marriage!

It really isn't always the bride at fault though. For my wedding I would have been happiest with just the two of us in jeans and trainers at the local registry office with two random witnesses off of the street. (I would of course have bought them lunch for services rendered!). My husband would have been just as happy with the same arrangement, as would my parents and family. It was my mother in law who was almost apoplectic at the idea....something about a hat springs to mind but I have thankfully blocked most of that episode out! :rotfl:

We ended up upgrading to a "proper" wedding to keep the peace. Well 40 guests at a registry office and a formal meal afterwards. I even wore a wedding dress too, but one from Debenhams at under £100 pounds, I point blank refused to spend any more on something I would never wear again. I did our invites, favours, buttonholes and flowers myself as I begrudged wasting the money on a bought in service. We paid for all of the meals and drinks as these people were our guests so to do otherwise would be rude. We had no evening reception as we both felt the day would be long enough without.

I love my husband and would never want to have not married him but I so wish we had stood our ground and done it differently. I was on edge the whole day and couldn't wait for it to be over.

Saturnalia

meritaten wrote: »

When they became a big 'Brides Day' and not a Marriage!

And when did this "I'm a Princess" nonsense start? Don't most girls grow out of Disney at about age 6?

The wives of Prince Charles & Prince William are "only" Duchesses, and they definitely outrank you.

(I mean 'you' generic, not you Meritaten!)

Person_one

MrsE wrote: »

Difference is, my DD isn't expecting any of her friends or extended family to attend. They will be there, their parents & thats all they really want. They want a small family wedding with everyone relaxed & happy.

Its fine for us, as a family it suits us, because we do it every year anyway.

Just as those that want big days with a hundred guests in the UK are welcome to do as they want, those that want tiny weddings abroad are free to do as they please.

Weddings are up to the bride & groom & parents if they are paying. Guests are free to decline the invitation if they don't like the location/set-up.

Just saying, its not really fair for you to moan about people having hen dos abroad.

(I thought they'd invited some friends too, do they actually want them to decline then?)

MrsE_2

Person_one wrote: »

Just saying, its not really fair for you to moan about people having hen dos abroad.

(I thought they'd invited some friends too, do they actually want them to decline then?)

ONLY if they pressure people to attend.

No, of course they don't want people to decline, but they know when they choose to get married abroad chances were only parents & grooms brother would attend & they are ok with that. They are not demanding people start saving as they have x months to do so;)

No date is set yet, so no one has been invited formally. I doubt anyone will be invited formally. We are a small enough family for them to say if they are coming.

POPPYOSCAR

A close friend of a family member recently got married and she initially wanted to go away for the weekend for her hen do.

Some of her friends were honest with her and said they could not afford it so she changed her plans and made arrangements that suited them all. Had she gone ahead with the weekend away they would have been happy for her.

A bit of honesty goes a long way.