Would you pay to go to a wedding?

MrsE_2

Person_one wrote: »

I'm sure she could have managed that in this country.

She doesn't want to, they don't want to.
The other parents & I are more than happy with it, as is the grooms brother.
You pays YOUR money, you takes YOUR choice.

Person_one

MrsE wrote: »

She doesn't want to, they don't want to.
The other parents & I are more than happy with it, as is the grooms brother.
You pays YOUR money, you takes YOUR choice.

Fair enough if you're happy. I do wonder though what some of the invited friends really think, and I'm afraid I still think its poor form to invite people to something so expensive and inconvenient and not be willing to pay for them. You're their parents, so realistically, you don't have a choice do you? There would be major repercussions if you said you weren't going, wouldn't there?

MrsE_2

Person_one wrote: »

Fair enough if you're happy. I do wonder though what some of the invited friends really think, and I'm afraid I still think its poor form to invite people to something so expensive and inconvenient and not be willing to pay for them. You're their parents, so realistically, you don't have a choice do you? There would be major repercussions if you said you weren't going, wouldn't there?

I take a sun holiday every year (or more frequently) so do the other parents. We will have it as our main holiday.

Person_one

MrsE wrote: »

I take a sun holiday every year (or more frequently) so do the other parents. We will have it as our main holiday.

Well, have fun.

MrsE_2

Person_one wrote: »

Well, have fun.

Thank you we will - it's probably going to be Mexico - I was there 2 months ago & it's lovely.

Torry_Quine

Person_one wrote: »

Fair enough if you're happy. I do wonder though what some of the invited friends really think, and I'm afraid I still think its poor form to invite people to something so expensive and inconvenient and not be willing to pay for them. You're their parents, so realistically, you don't have a choice do you? There would be major repercussions if you said you weren't going, wouldn't there?

We are definately in agreement here. If someone were to invite me to a wedding abroad then it would be a no from me. It's ridiculous to expect people to have to give up holiday time and money for a time and place of someone else's choosing.

Gloomendoom

I must admit it wouldn't be an automatic no from me. We were invited to a wedding of a colleague in China and would have gone but unfortunately, the wedding was on Thursday in some remote province and we had also been invited to the wedding of a close family member in the UK on Saturday. Even allowing for the time difference, it just wasn't possible to get back in time so, in the end the end, we had to decline the China invitation.

POPPYOSCAR

Torry_Quine wrote: »

We are definately in agreement here. If someone were to invite me to a wedding abroad then it would be a no from me. It's ridiculous to expect people to have to give up holiday time and money for a time and place of someone else's choosing.

People should be free to marry where and when they want. If that means going abroad that is their choice, so long as they are understanding when the invitations are declined.

When we were told that a wedding was going to be abroad we said straight away that we would not be going and it was not a problem.
I was quite glad really as I usually find weddings to be a chore rather than an enjoyable time anyway.

Person_one

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

People should be free to marry where and when they want. If that means going abroad that is their choice, so long as they are understanding when the invitations are declined.

There's definitely pressure though.

You see comments even on here along the lines of "If you really care about them you make it work" and so on.

POPPYOSCAR

Person_one wrote: »

There's definitely pressure though.

You see comments even on here along the lines of "If you really care about them you make it work" and so on.

I agree there should be no pressure.

We have already told our children that if they want to get married abroad then we will be very happy for them but we will not be going.