Would you pay to go to a wedding?

Person_one

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

Luckily for us there was a fish and chip shop right outside. What they must of made of us in our wedding attire buying fish and chips!!

I bet you weren't the only ones, they probably got a lot of business from that wedding!

Mojisola

lazer wrote: »

Family is more important than money!

Which is why I wouldn't spend £1000 going to a relative's wedding. If they really wanted to put the family first, they would have arranged a do that was affordable for as many of the family as possible.

If they want to put on a posh do knowing that family members would struggle to afford it, they're putting money before family.

Errata

Mojisola wrote: »

If they want to put on a posh do knowing that family members would struggle to afford it, they're putting money before family.

Or doing it to keep the riff raff away

Mojisola

Errata wrote: »

Or doing it to keep the riff raff away

I don't know if that would work - some of our riff raff are quite high earners!:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

tara747

lazer wrote: »

I didn't say it was an acceptable thing to ask of people, I just said I would go if I could.

Personally - I would not even have considered getting married abroad as my family simply could not have afforded to come.
I also think that if you get married abroad, you shouldn't invite anyone - if you want your family and friends at your wedding make it easy and affordable for them and you should never guilt trip anyone into attending your wedding!

I quite agree. I apply these principles too - see above. That's why I wouldn't attend anyone's wedding if it was going to cost me £1,000, even a sibling's. But happily, I know that my siblings would never be so selfish.

tara747

Mojisola wrote: »

Which is why I wouldn't spend £1000 going to a relative's wedding. If they really wanted to put the family first, they would have arranged a do that was affordable for as many of the family as possible.

If they want to put on a posh do knowing that family members would struggle to afford it, they're putting money before family.

^^^^^ What Mojisola said.

AnneWorkman

It seems very cheeky to expect people to pay you to come to your wedding (esp as they are already paying in travel & hotel costs etc). I married a few months ago, and had to stick to a strict budget (which was tough), but we arranged the day so we got the best from it. We didn't provide any free drinks for the guests, and basically just had an evening do with a buffet (with no sit down meal). it seemed to work OK, guests were warned in the invite that they should eat before the afternoon ceremony as only an evening buffet would be provided. We did provide a large chocolate fountain (and a magic show by a friend) along with 'pic-n-mix' favours which all seemed to go down very well.

[Deleted User]

When weddings are concerned, there is no pleasing all people, all of the time!

However, I do feel the situation the OP described as being particularly cheeky! I'd be tempted to go, but bring no gift, just a card!

When I got married last year my primary concern was to include everyone and make sure everyone was fed & watered nicely (if simply) so our church blessing was packed out (120+) and only 20 mins spent on photos before we headed for the reception and cold buffet & drinks.

I feel it's not cheeky to maybe suggest (not specify) donations towards a honeymoon or some other aim instead of gifts - we suggested donations towards my favourite charity or a honeymoon holiday *if* anyone wanted to give us anything but we were happy just that people came and we received beautiful cards from everyone as well as some lovely gifts, including a personalised wedding album for our piccies!

We were only able to have a honeymoon because our family & friends 'bought' it for us as a wedding gift - it was a fantastic fortnight (I made sure we got the best deal possible!) and we also received £200 towards our charity.

suki1001

tara747 wrote: »

I quite agree. I apply these principles too - see above. That's why I wouldn't attend anyone's wedding if it was going to cost me £1,000, even a sibling's. But happily, I know that my siblings would never be so selfish.

I missed my sister's wedding when she got married abroad. My mum said she thought I'd regret it, but I would never go abroad to a wedding. We don't spend much on holidays, and it would have cost so much more.

Her husbands family were quite shocked we weren't going. They'd go abroad if someone needed a new pair of shoes.

florere

Write to the bride to tell her that you have remembered a prior engagement for the evening but that you would still like to come to the marriage service to see her married. She is going to look a bit daft asking for money for the food when she has booked such a posh venue, it will be talked about for years and not for the right reason.;)