Would you pay to go to a wedding?

securityguy

Warning: article linked contains bad words for grown-ups only.

http://gawker.com/5948725/reasons-why-you-cannot-be-a-bridesmaid

Also if money is tight and you cant afford to contribute to say the bachelorette party or wont be able to afford a dress etc then L— and Myself don't have time to deal with that, I'm sorry (...) This includes flights as well, everyone knows the states where the parties are going to be held so if you wont be able to afford a flight then that means you cant make a party which ultimately means I cant have you as a bridesmaid. Obviously we'll get the best deals and were not gonna books flights for $1000 and !!!! that's why were doing this in advance, that goes for bridesmaids dresses as well everything will be affordable but if you think by affordable its going to be a $25 forever 21 dress then your going to the wrong wedding.

And to see the general tone of weddings curated by silly girls with a sense of entitlement: http://www.businessinsider.com/10-horrifying-bridezilla-moments-2012-10?op=1

Gloomendoom

sweetiepiedave wrote: »

How very British a thing it is to invite people to a celebration and then expect them to pay. If anyone did that in just about any other country (and just about nobody would), it would be a matter of social ignominy for the person concerned. An invitation means everything is on the person doing the inviting. But here we merrily 'invite' people to, say, our retirement celebration and say, by the way, the meal is £30.

To try this for a wedding would, anywhere else, be a disgrace to end all disgraces. It should be here too. And there's an easy solution. Don't fall out with anyone, just make an excuse and don't go. That's what I always do when I'm told I've got to pay. If enough people do that, this particular bride will soon get the message.

So how many weddings do you know of where people have been asked to pay to attend? If it wasn't so out of the ordinary even in Britain, this thread would not have been started.

Gloomendoom

securityguy wrote: »

Warning: article linked contains bad words for grown-ups only.

http://gawker.com/5948725/reasons-why-you-cannot-be-a-bridesmaid

Ha ha!

You all have a big roll in this wedding...

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tallgirld

Wow! I have never heard of this before. I have been to a wedding where I had to buy my own alcohol but I was fine with that.

Having to pay for the meal is taking it to a new level. I would go as far to say it's taking the mick. I wouldn't go!

Saturnalia

So let me get this straight - the couple are expecting everyone to pay £18 but aren't telling guests and planning to spring the surprise at the reception?

I'd go, eat and leave. They are hardly going to have bouncers on the door to stop you leaving until you've stumped up!

The couple will get what they deserve though. Their night do will be deserted, none of the day guests will come back to be scammed again and word will get around to the night guests in the couple of hours inbetween.

The evil side of me would love to be invited to this tack-fest to watch the scene when the demand for cash is made!

alwayswrite

If asked by the bride/groom to give £15 each for the meal then I would be tempted to ask them for something towards your cost i.e. outfits bought for the said wedding. Call me cheeky but aren't they being cheeky and at the last minute too. I think this should be sorted out before the wedding goes any further because if not there will be 'murmers' throughout the whole reception and mainly disgruntled ones.

alwayswrite

If asked to contribute £15 per head for the meal then I would ask for something towards the cost of me attending the wedding i.e. wedding outfit for example. This should definitely be sorted out before the wedding if not there will be 'murmerings' during the reception which will spoil the whole event. If you can't afford a big wedding THEN DON'T HAVE ONE, simple as that.

MrsE_2

lgs6753 wrote: »

I've been invited to a wedding abroad by a close family member. It's in the school holidays, so flights are going to be about £300 each, even on a budget airline. The venue is some way from the airport, so a hire car will be necessary. Another £200. The couple are paying for accommodation for three nights, but not food (except presumably at the ceremony) so that's another expense. All in all, the 'entry fee' is likely to be £1000 per couple!

We've not been asked to contribute directly, but I can think of a few things I'd rather spend a grand on!

Don't go.

My dd is planning to wed abroad, we only expect immediate family will attend.
She will invite others, but we don't expect they shall attend, nor are they under any pressure to.

Person_one

MrsE wrote: »

Don't go.

My dd is planning to wed abroad, we only expect immediate family will attend.
She will invite others, but we don't expect they shall attend, nor are they under any pressure to.

Really, I think she should only invite people she's willing to pay for. It's still too much to ask of guests even if you expect them to say no, they'll still feel obliged/awkward.

purpleweasel

Alisha2008 wrote: »

On the other hand I find really difficult to give a nice present to a couple that have been living together for years and have everything.. but this is a different issue!

This was the problem at our wedding - we didn't want to ask for gifts as we had lived together a long time first but my Mum insisted that some people would buy us something anyway so we might as well be specific. We asked for money towards a specific item for home improvement so people knew it wouldn't just disappear into a pot. I like the idea of asking for specific items for honeymoon & sending pictures to the givers though

My sister wanted to invite people to bring a picnic to the park and have it like a fete with games etc - no worries about how many people they could invite on a very tight budget - but in the end sadly the weather won and she had to go for the local pub instead.