Would you pay to go to a wedding?

pancakes*

Thats quite shocking!! I suppose it depends on how close you are to them, if very close I suppose you have to, if not you could consider not going. I liked the idea someone posted about offsetting with the price of a gift..:j

tara747

Of course, I'm with Saturnalia - I hope that the OP does attend - and comes back to update us afterwards!!!! :rotfl:

Person_one

lazer wrote: »

If I had it I would if it was someone close to me like a son, daughter, brother, sister or very close friend.

I have four very close friends (yes, very close, a tight knit group since school days) and one sibling getting married in the next two years.

If they each think £1000 to attend is an acceptable thing to ask of someone close (as you do) then that's 5 grand. Nearly half a year's wages, a new car, a new kitchen, a safety net, about a decade's worth of cheap holidays.

Sorry, but its madness.

lazer

tara747 wrote: »

You would delay your own wedding, house purchase or retirement to spend £1,000 attending a family member's wedding??? :eek:

And possibly get into debt to attend if it were your son/daughter? :eek::eek::eek::eek:

No way would we have let our parents be out of pocket to attend our wedding; we paid for their accommodation and wouldn't have allowed them toto pay themselves. If it had been abroad, we'd be paying for their flights as well.

Family is more important than money!

I would really want to be at the major events in my close family's life and would postpone lifetime events to allow this
(if not already in progress - for example, if I had an offer accepted on a house, I wouldn't pull out, but if I had substantial savings for a deposit, I would spend some of this and it would set me back £1k in savings, delaying the house purchase by however long i takes to resave it)

My own wedding I would be happy to postpone slightly or scale back to attend the wedding of my brother or sister (again if I hadn't already booked it), if I had booked it I would see if i could cut it back enough to save £1k to get to a close family/friends wedding.

Our wedding was not abroad, but my husband's parents live (after emigrating) in Australia (And I do not feel it was our responsibilty to fly them home, in fact the were coming home for another wedding anyway that was 2 weeks before ours and we booked our wedding to coincide with this so as not to cause extra expense.)

A number of people travelled long distances to be at our wedding and I would do the same for them.

Person_one

lazer wrote: »

Family is more important than money!

That very much depends on two things. Who your family are and how much money you have!

lazer

Person_one wrote: »

I have four very close friends (yes, very close, a tight knit group since school days) and one sibling getting married in the next two years.

If they each think £1000 to attend is an acceptable thing to ask of someone close (as you do) then that's 5 grand. Nearly half a year's wages, a new car, a new kitchen, a safety net, about a decade's worth of cheap holidays.

Sorry, but its madness.

I didn't say it was an acceptable thing to ask of people, I just said I would go if I could.

Personally - I would not even have considered getting married abroad as my family simply could not have afforded to come.
I also think that if you get married abroad, you shouldn't invite anyone - if you want your family and friends at your wedding make it easy and affordable for them and you should never guilt trip anyone into attending your wedding!

lazer

Person_one wrote: »

That very much depends on two things. Who your family are and how much money you have!

By family I mean the people you love (whoever it may be - blood family, close friends etc).

I disagree that it depends on how much money you have, family is always more important than money. (Lack of money may mean you cannot do the things you want for your family - but that does not mean the money is more important).

I would rather be sorrounded by by loving friends and family and be skint than be financially secure on my own.

Person_one

lazer wrote: »

By family I mean the people you love (whoever it may be - blood family, close friends etc).

I disagree that it depends on how much money you have, family is always more important than money. (Lack of money may mean you cannot do the things you want for your family - but that does not mean the money is more important).

I would rather be sorrounded by by loving friends and family and be skint than be financially secure on my own.

Money might not be more important, but sometimes it has to be a higher priority, does that make more sense?

POPPYOSCAR

I would quite happily have paid for a meal at one wedding we went to, if it meant I would eat!.

No children were allowed so we left them at home with a baby sitter, drove for 3 hours and then sat through the ceremony in the chapel of a mansion house with music being played by a string quartet. The photos took hours (perhaps they got lost in the maze!)

We then went on to a restaurant and sat around for a few more hours waiting for the barbeque to be ready. Still waiting(and starving) at gone 8.00pm we made our excuses as we had to leave to get back to the babysitter.

Luckily for us there was a fish and chip shop right outside. What they must of made of us in our wedding attire buying fish and chips!!

Bombay_Cat

What a damned cheek of the bride. Unless you feel very close to her as a family member I would be inclined to plead poverty and turn down the invitation. What can she say? That you're mean? That you can't organise your budget properly? I don't think so. Give this one a miss. Don't feel guilty - as you age you learn how to say 'no' politely and not worry about it. It's sometimes the best and handiest two letter word in the English language. Good luck.