What on earth have I done, what on earth should I do :(

kittiej

Aw Sunflower.

Hope whatever you decide it all turns out Ok for you.

My only advice would be to consider your position carefully and protect yourself financially as best you can.

Good luck x

D-Manc

Please dont take this the wrong way but you definately need counselling.. You say you were brought up with abusive parents and you seem to be the sort of person who needs to be in a realtionship... jumped in with her, started on dating websites hen you initially thought of splitting up with her.. This shows that you are lacking in self esteem and looking to boost this through others...

You cant look to others for happiness mate.. you need to look internally - as has been said before... You need to spend time alone rather than jumping ahead with someone new.. Look at the hobbies mentioned previously and find new friends.. not girlfriends..

Hope it all turns out ok.. x

Chollita

I don't think there's such a thing as a 'mild drink problem'. Sounds like you are much better off out of this situation, good luck.

Anarchist

D-Manc, I agree, thats what I'm doing at the moment. Trying to build up my social life, keep myself busy, make some new (good) friends. I do know I need to learn to look after myself properly - even tonight, I was struggling because I've never cooked for one before and didn't have a clue what to do.

And yes, thinking about it, Chollita you're also right. It was a fairly bad drink problem, it was like drilled into her head that she HAD to have at least a bottle of wine every saturday night, most friday nights, and usually in the week as well. And once she'd started, she wouldnt stop until she'd drunk everything in the house or fallen asleep. Usually it was the first option...

I remember a party we were at, she was that drunk (I was driving) that she was falling over, smashing glasses, smoking purposefully to wind me up, but she would not stop drinking. Between me and her mum trying , we could not physically pry the wine bottle out of her hands. God I hated her that night

moneysaver12

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Why not shack up with the bird from the office, or shag you way through the whole office and come up with a hard luck story each time, quite clearly your a hit with the ladies ? all this virtual hug crap from the ladies who post this hug stuff, hope their ladies ! ; ) but still its a diverse world, really doesnt wash with me, your a dirty little dog who went out shagging when you were with your partner, but good luck to you mate, like your unique style ; ) quote



i have to agree with happychick, yes you shouldn't have had to go through the emtional abuse and didn't derserve it, but nor did you ex deserve you cheating on her, there is no excuse for cheating, you can use what you ex did to you to jusitify your cheating, you shouldn't have been going in a girls room when you both had a partner. There is too many people out there women and men who have been cheated on and the cheater always comes out with the same excuse, end of the day if you care about someone then you don't hurt them