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What on earth have I done, what on earth should I do :(
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Ooohh you made me cry!! Things WILL get better, things always look worse before they do - believe all of us when we say YOU WILL GET THROUGH THIS - sorry shouldn't shout !!
Anyways - I don't know you or I would give you a cuddle too - just `cos you need it. Keep your chin up.0 -
When we first starting seeing each other, I used to travel up for the weekend, every two or three weeks. Things were great, everyday I wish things would go back to how they were then.
Although, looking back now, there were a couple of times I did think 'ooh err, theres something not quite right here' - I should probably have listened to my intuition.
I've never considered counselling before. I always thought that counselling was for serious issues - and I've only now just realised that I am a serious issue.0 -
When I needed to move out from a relationship, I was lucky enough to find a room in a shared house with someone I worked with! I had also had a brief fling with someone else, and I knew the relationship was over!
You really need to weigh everything up and do something about it! Hasn't she noticed that you haven't eaten properly for 6 days? If not that speaks volumes about how she feels about you!
Good luck
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Go and visit your family or friends this weekend by yourself. YOU need some space by yourself to think. Try and talk your problems through with your family and/or friends and see if you can find a solution and work out what to do and how to do it.
Once you know you have got the support of family and friends it will give you the strength to move away from girlfriend. You have no children therefore no commitments or responsibilities. So other than your girlfriend (unhealthy relationship with no future) there is NO reason to be staying in a caravan living miles and miles away from YOUR family and friends.
Think of YOUR future and not the past and present, because your recent situation is not making you happy so changes have got to be made.0 -
Counselling would depend on how you view yourself within a relationship, perpetuating the cycle of emotional abuse etc. However, work seem to value you, so if it is only your girlfriend that saps your confidence so, it could be (and probably is) that she is the one with the problem, and that meeting different people etc may help greatly instead. Do you have any interests where you could go to after work? You don't necessarily need to join evening classes unless you want to, some places do walks, talks etc that you can join when you fancy. Your local paper may be of use. Hugs again.Annabeth Charlotte arrived on 7th February 2008, 2.5 weeks early0
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Counselling can support you through this transition period whilst you make some changes. It can help you get some self-confidence, increase your self-esteem and learn alot about yourself. You do not have to have serious issues. Counselling is a support for your emotional well-being and you sound like you need it right now.
Keep strong, keep positive and keep focused!
You will be proud of yourself afterwards when you are alot happier, and probably kicking yourself with that regrettable question "WHY didn't I get out sooner??"0 -
Have you considered the YMCA? It's not for down-and-outs....a friend stayed there for a few months when he was working in another city. Its a bit less than a regular B&B plus they usually have gyms, TV and snooker rooms etc ....might be a more supportive environment for you than a dingy room in a motel, especially for the first couple of weeks.0
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I know now that I have to do *something* - obviously doing nothing is whats gotten me into this mess in the first place and I'm sure it isn't going to get me out of it.
She has noticed I've not eaten properly in all this time, but she keeps insisting its 'because they're spraying chemicals as its crop planting season', and thats whats affecting my appetite. Somehow not linking it to my desparate attempts to talk to her and get her attention/affection etc, I have told her last night I'm feeling really really down and wanted to spend time with her, but she only responded with 'sorry but I'm too busy with my things on Ebay'. Great eh.
I offered to take her out somewhere nice for a meal so she didn't have to cook, but because she hadn't done her hair she couldn't go out. I offered to take her somewhere for the weekend, but she had already told her mates she's going out clubbing with them on Saturday.0 -
you have to move on. However painful and difficult it will be in the short term ( and I'm not minimising that ) you cannot live the rest of your life like this. It isnt healthy, and eventually will wear you both down. get out now, whilst you are both young enough to find happy relationships.0
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Some fantastic advice, thanks for all that. I'll definately go through it all this afternoon and try to find some sort of way through all this.
I know if I moved closer to where the majority of my colleagues live, I'd have others I can see and speak to out of work. It may also get me by not having a car until its fixed/paid for, as I could carshare for work.
I may look into counselling, its not something that I would ever have thought would give me any benefit but I'm willing to give it a try, it can't do any harm.
Does anybody have any info on who/where I should go for this?
I think I'm finally starting to piece together what I need to do.0
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