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Men not wearing a wedding ring? Thoughts please

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  • Kate78
    Kate78 Posts: 525 Forumite
    It's personal preference surely?

    For me, I wear my wedding ring as a piece of symbolic jewellery. My husband wears one too, we discussed it before getting married and that was his preference.

    But it is just that, jewellery. Not imbued with any spooky powers!
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  • suki1001
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    My husband and I don't even own weddings rings. We never exchanged them.

    I find I just cannot get sentimental about jewelry. I never wear earings either and don't own a watch.

    If I'm honest I think expensive jewelry (ie gold/platinum etc) looks tacky - as if it's come out of the Argos catalogue - I cannot symbolise my marriage that way. I have always had to lie about engagement rings when someone's shown one to me, I just don't like them.

    Anyhow, I've been married over 10 years now and have a completely trustworthy marriage.
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  • I don't think it would bother me, I'd love a platinum ring with a diamond but if I'm honest I hardly ever wear jewellery, I own a variety of rings, necklaces, bracelets and ear rings and i've lost most of them as I take them off whilst at work or out and end up losing them.

    In my opinion I don't see marriage as necessary so therefore rings aren't either. :)
  • megc_2
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    Wow, I didn't realise such a small question would get people talking so much! I've been away for a few days and so many replies have been posted since.
    Thank you so much for all your replies- especially the person who posted the link about 'degloving'. I have talked about this more with OH this weeekend and have come to the conclusion that the ring is not important, I know he is totally commited to me anyway and as other people have said, he does not wear any jewellery anyway, often not even a watch. I also quite like his finger covered with skin and attached to his hand, so we decided that I may buy him a symbolic ring which he can keep and maybe hand down to any sons or daughters we may have in the future but not necessarily wear. (He also commented that he would not mind if I chose not to wear a wedding band either, as he does not want to 'own' me or force decisions on me, which made me feel better about the male/ female roles/expectations thing).
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  • My father never wore a wedding ring due to the dangers at work, he was happily married till the day he died. My ex husband wore one all the time, he cheated repeatedly. It is the person not the ring that matters.
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    james109 wrote: »
    I love my engagement ring. I always wear it. When I saw it, it remind me that beautiful day.

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  • megc wrote: »
    Wow, I didn't realise such a small question would get people talking so much! I've been away for a few days and so many replies have been posted since.
    Thank you so much for all your replies- especially the person who posted the link about 'degloving'. I have talked about this more with OH this weeekend and have come to the conclusion that the ring is not important, I know he is totally commited to me anyway and as other people have said, he does not wear any jewellery anyway, often not even a watch. I also quite like his finger covered with skin and attached to his hand, so we decided that I may buy him a symbolic ring which he can keep and maybe hand down to any sons or daughters we may have in the future but not necessarily wear. (He also commented that he would not mind if I chose not to wear a wedding band either, as he does not want to 'own' me or force decisions on me, which made me feel better about the male/ female roles/expectations thing).

    Im glad youve talked it through with your oh and have been able to make a decision that you are both happy with.

    Ive been married six weeks now and my husband does not wear a wedding ring, we got a cheap one as he did want one for the day and as a keepsake from the day, but its now put away. Im not bothered at all- we have been together over 11 years before we got married- and he never wore a ring in that time to show he was 'taken' so why should it be any different now! I dont trust him any less because he doesnt want to wear a ring! (plus he works on cars so wouldnt wear it during the day anyway!!)

    Plus it meant I got more money from the budget for my pretty wedding band!!!:rotfl:
  • I can only echo a number of other replies, my ex (who wore a ring) played away on more than one occasion. Now with (not married) to a new fella, who I KNOW is totally faithful, thats without us even married. Its all about the person, not the ring itself.
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  • We had two rings at the ceremony and our reception was the first and last time my husband wore his.
    He hates the feel on his finger (although I'm sure he would get used to it) and refuses to wear it. Oh well. I'd like him to wear the ring, but I'm not really bothered that he doesn't. After all, what does it matter? He shows his love in many other ways ;)
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    It's not in the English tradition for man to wear wedding rings. I think it came in in the 20s, as an American influence, and as someone suggested, became more common during the last war.
    My father, married in 1946, wore a ring, but I don't think any of the family did before then.

    But it's hard to tell, because there is a long tradition of men wearing signet rings, either with initials or a family device, sometimes embossed in reverse for sealing letters, and some rings worn by older men became so worn down with time that became just plain rings, and seemed so much associated with the person that it was easy to assume it was a wedding ring.

    Also it depends on how you define a wedding ring. Strictly it would only be one actually offered at the wedding ceremony, but my father's I think was bought later and was in a sense a symbol or token, possibly aquired on a joint visit to a jewellers, rather than a strict wedding ring.
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